My brother died. I need advice (Trigger Warning)

[Froggy♡]

Please, I’m so sad. I miss him. He was only 21, he was doing so well. Please, anyone that had experienced this, how long does it hurt? How do I feel better? I miss him so much. I already made a therapy appointment, please just tell me how long itll hurt for. I cant stop crying

[blair.vvitch]

I'm sorry to hear this  

 

It's hard to say how long it will hurt, but just know it won't happen all at once. It'll start slow, but you'll get there. Time will heal you better than anything. Blanket yourself in his memories, find your comfort and dont be afraid to reach out to those around you to talk or just be with you.

 

I hope you find peace soon.

[Alaskan Daddy]

I am so sorry for you loss. Everybody deals with grief differently. Right now it sounds like you have a big hole in your heart and that hole may always be there. You may always miss him but the pain you are feeling will slowly get better. I promise you that. The crying you are doing can be a good thing and allow your grief to slowly pass through you.

My father died suddenly when I was ten. I feel the best thing I did to help my self was having quiet times by myself and look at pictures of him and think of the memories I had of him. It helped my heart to slowly get used to the idea that he was gone forever. It took me a long time to realize that the hard grief I felt was a good thing. It helped me realize the love I had for him and him for me. It made me realize the grief I was feeling was not such a bad thing. The grief told me how much of a positive impact he had on my life. 

I wish there was a magic pill to take.  I feel the best advice I can give you is find some one or a therapist that will allow you to express all the feelings you are going through. I feel the more you can express those feelings the easier they can pass through you. I also feel that if you record everything you are going through and feeling can help. Call his cell phone and leave him messages about how you miss him and how much he meant to you.  Make audio messages as if you were talking to some one.

I hope some of my words can help you find the peace you are seeking

[SmolAetherr]

hey there, i can offer something here, i lost my mother in 2016 and here is what ill say and ill keep it short

 

no you never get over it, this is someone you grew up with and was closer to you than literally anyone, im sorry i cant be more encouraging here but honesty is the best policy

 

and as for how long it hurts, it always will but take this advice to heart because its big

 

remember the good times, not when they were sad or sick or whatever right before they passed, remember the jokes and good memories do what ever feels doable, take it one day at a time and dont be afriad to have a cry because there will be alot of crying, i still am and i dont see it stopping

 

good luck op and i am sorry you and myself have to go through this.

[LeeLee1]

Hello,I lost my brother 9 years ago ,it will never make sense .And it will always catch you now and again.
Birthdays Christmas.but you will start to cope.you will smile again.and you will live a happy life.
My brother and his wife killed there selfs .
And there’s a big big hole in my heart.I will always miss him, but u need to grieve and that can take time.sometimes months.your be sad.then angry .then confused.and it can cycle on and off for a long time.But don’t hold that in,it’s part of the healing . Sending you very knowing big big hugs xxxx