Is it wrong for me to feel this way?

[Blueybluex]

My daddy and I do have a ddlg relationship to an extent but I don’t feel like I’m getting everything I would like out of it, and I know it sounds selfish. It’s a topic that always causes arguments and I hate it so now I feel like I can’t even bring it up anymore

 

I just want to feel okay to be little around him, I want him to enjoy being my daddy and acting like my daddy and I know I can’t make him feel that way.

 

I don’t know what to do it’s like I want him to recognise when I’m stressed or upset and need that daddy little time, but he doesn’t. I know I should talk to him about it, but I have so many times and it just leads no where. He’s said but I give you your sippy cup and let you colour etc but that’s not exactly what I need I want daddy little love and cuddles and just made to feel little and safe. I’m terrible at explaining this. It’s like it’s more than just items that relate to being a little, I want the actual affection I guess and help getting into little space.

 

Am I being selfish? I don’t know what to do, but it’s really hard on me and I don’t know why I am so bothered by this! Because I do love him so so much.

[Vampiress]

You're not being selfish at all. You are expressing your needs and it's clear that either he just doesn't understand the need or just doesn't feel he can give it to you. Based on what you're saying it sounds like he thinks that just giving you stuff or letting you do certain things should be enough and is the only extent he's willing to take DD/lg. I think by saying that and being upset he is basically telling you he is unable and unwilling to meet your needs. If he isn't taking your words to heart then perhaps this isn't the relationship for you. Compatability is so important and it sounds like you need something a lot deeper than he does. That isn't wrong of either of you, and doesn't make you selfish. It just means you are on different pages with different expectations. The only thing I disagree with here is how dismissive of it he seems. He could at least show a little more compassion even if he is unable to meet your needs.

[(not) Narancia]

If you have trouble concisely describing your needs, you might wanna have a friend help you draft up a text or letter. Take your time with it too. After you've done that, i would end it with how important this is to you and how as an adult, you expect to be on the same page.

 

Its easy to fall back on the usual habits and this way he can figure out whether he can provide what you need.

[Lollipox]

I don’t think he’s the Daddy type.

It’s no different than trying to force someone to be a Little if you’re a CG/Dom, then feeling dissatisfied when they don’t have any interest in being submissive.

 

DD/lg aside, do you have a healthy relationship?

[DerbyNerd]

It sounds like he may not be a natural CG type and I suppose its up to him if he wants to learn to take care of your needs better. However from what you've said it doesn't sound like he has too much inclination to learn. 

 

I think you're going to need to have a big think and talk to him. You need to decide if you can live with his current level of caring if he is unable or unwilling to change. At the end of the day thats not something anyone else can decide for you. 

 

However I don't think you are at all wrong to feel this way. Especially when you have communicated your feelings and not had appropriate action taken. I would be feeling very sad and disappointed in your situation. 

[Punographer]

Have you ever thought of having sometime mediate the dialogue between the two of you?