My Boyfriend wont be my Daddy. Whats next for me?

[HoneyBee2464]

Iv been with my boyfriend for over 5 years, Leaving him just isnt an option, but he cant understand my need to be little, even though I never get the time to anymore, he thinks I should find something more "Proactive" to do with my time than be little. He doesnt understand where it came from because I didnt start being little and talking to him until a year or so into our relationship when I really started embracing my little side. He tried the Daddy thing for a wee bit but only enjoyed the sexual aspect and thats pretty much it. What can I really do from here? Iv looked at platonic but I dont know if I could ever receive any sort of affection from another man thats not my boyfriend. Has anyone else ever been in this situation? I cant even discuss what makes me happy anymore when it comes to little stuff, I have to speak of what my daughter could use later to get things cute how I want it. 

[DerbyNerd]

Honestly if he won’t give you what you need and won’t even allow you to be little on your own and you don’t want to seek it elsewhere you’re probably gonna have to have a really hard think and decide if you want the relationship or being little more. It sounds like a sucky situation and I’m really sorry you’re experiencing it.

[Vampiress]

Since leaving isn't an option, you'll have to find a way to be little on your own time. Make other little friends to do little activities with, even if it's only ever online. You could also get a babysitter which may just be a more responsible little or middle, or you could think of a Caregiver as a babysitter rather than a platonic Mommy/Daddy if that makes you feel more comfortable. The amount of affection you allow is up to you, so you can make sure it never crosses a boundary.

[(not) Narancia]

If it's available to you, try couples counseling. Try to involve him into your ddlg activities. I can imagine it's all a bit much for him. We all know what the general public thinks of ddlg. Explore your avenues before making drastic choices.

[Guest Jojokitten]

I am in the same situation and I feel with you, but I am sure we will all find a solution to it one day.

[SmolAetherr]

im with vampiress on this, you cant make him like what you like and its a very bad idea to try or to even go forward with the mindset that you can, its a part of who you are and clearly that doesn't stop him wanting to be with you clearly so finding a way to be little separate from him is honestly your only option here

[Waffles]

My advice on this would be to have a sit-down conversation with them. The fact that you can't even talk to him about your likes, dislikes, and wants when it comes to this seemingly important side to you doesn't seem very healthy. I would hope that, since you two have been together for 5 years, they would understand the need for the conversation and not make you feel terrible about it. If no consensus comes from the conversation, I would say take the advice from others and enjoy little/middle time on your own. I know it probably doesn't sound the most appealing, but if this is something that you truly want to keep in your life then I honestly believe that is your best option.

If your partner doesn't even like that, then, as others have stated, you are going to have to do some personal soul searching. Is DDLG more important than your relationship, or is it something that you are willing to put to the side to enjoy someone who has been with you for all these years? I know it sounds harsh and painful to think about, but I'm not sure if there are other viable options. I'm sure there is someone on this site who may have another idea or two, but I believe what I have suggested and what others have encouraged will be good options for you.

I truly hope you and your partner can work something out and that you can continue to invest in your little/middle side.
 

[APTX]

Listen, if you want your partner to respect and accept you, it is to be accepted of you as well, you do NOT go looking/seeking for other options while you stay in the relationship without properly having discussed this with your said partner.

You have your own reasons for not leaving that relationship, you don't have to share that with us, but don't make it so he'd leave you because you didn't respect and value your own relationship nor him.

 

I get you have needs and wants, and you feel that you can't be totally yourself around someone you love, but you can't do anything else than to communicate those feelings to your partner.

You also need to put yourself in a position and respect that not everyone is into this lifestyle nor can you make someone into a caregiver who just doesn't feel anything for it, you'd have to respect that.

 

In this case you talk it over, seek out a middleground, make compromises, for some it works, for some it don't, do NOT however ever come to conclusions yourself without priorly discussing or asking it first, if that doesn't work, you'd have to make a choice for yourself.

People are different, I've seen little's who can be perfectly be in littlespace without having a caregiver, some go through their relationship perfectly happy without needing to put a label on it, they just naturally feel little around their partner even if he does not carry a "title" or feels anything for it.

 

It all boils down to what you truly want now and in your future, and if that's something that's that important to you your current partner can't and won't be able to give you, then quite honestly you should consider leaving instead of trying to stay in something you know would keep hurting you, and perhaps lead you to make decisions you will regret later on.

[Selvmord]

What do you mean leaving isn’t an option?