Stress interfering with littlespace

[Guest Leanne]

Hi

I've been under a lot of pressure because of work. Stuck doing a lot of overtime. I'm finding it difficult to get into littlespace and I'm really having a lot of anxiety from the stress of everything.

I'm married but he's not a daddy. It's not something he really understands. How do you cope and balance your responsibilities and achieve littlespace?

[Nymph]

Do you have time for yourself at all? are you working at an office or at home? no matter your situation you have sooo many choices :3

 

A quick fix is phone games, it won't solve the problem most likely but if you can sneak a short game here and there through your day without looking suspicious, it can help you not getting more stressed at least. If you like music and it doesn't distract you too much, some headphones and music might help too, you can fill your playlist with disney movie soundtracks or anything that hypes you up as a little. Another thing that works for me is wearing little undies, it's like this fun secret to know I am wearing the cutest panties that brings a smile to my face... or if I am doing laundry, coz adulting sucks, I can't help but smile when I fold them XD

 

When you have free time at home you can watch a movie or tv show, play puzzle games, etc, whatever works for you. And if you have privacy you can read a sexy story or watch a movie that puts you in the mood and take care of that

 

I think you need to find a way to be happy on your own before you run off to look for someone, and if your husband doesn't understand, would he be willing to give an open relationship a try? would he be against about you finding someone for online only? you need to talk to him and either help him understand or at the very least, understand that it is a need that you have and if he is not willing to take care of it he should not make you suffer without! sometimes labels scare people off because they imagine something else, avoid them at first if you feel that would give you a fair chance to be listened.

 

I am sending a friend request, feel free to message me whenever. I am married and have a child, we have been considering an open relationship for a while but don't feel ready to give that step quite yet due covid and there was a time when I had to neglect this side of myself coz life happens, we made it through and we learned a lot about each other.

[Guest Leanne]

Thank you for your response. I'm just at a point where something's got to give especially with my work situation. I'm currently looking for a different job but in the meantime, I'm lucky if I get a day off.

[Wittle_moon_babygirl]

For me! I always bring a small stuffie and a fidget to work! THAY way when I'm on my break or when I have down time I can little out a little without people saying anything, though I've had years of practice and can easily make myself cone back out of it as well. The other thing is communication!! You need to communicate to your partner your needs. I know from experience that its not easy to talk about, I've lost friends and partners because of it.. But I can't hide who I am tired my partner, and if they don't like it, or if they aren't willing to communicate, then I know they Aren't the ones for me. But now I have a daddy and we are poly! Because we communicated our wants and needs, just think about this. The worse thing they can say is no.. Right?

[TammyGurl]

I am experiencing some issues getting into littlespace due to recurring issues with my father behaviour when he appears to go though depressive phases following the loss of his wife usually taking the form of intense rants, blaming Mum's death for all that's troubling him and dealing with changed situations.

After dealing with him for a few hours I find it hard to switch off and resume playing with toys or colouring unless I get outside for while and generally unload everything that's just gone on.