daddykool Posted July 5, 2021 Report Share Posted July 5, 2021 Hi all. I have been in an wonderfull relationship for couple of years, and slowly we have been progressing towards more DDlg things. There are couple of things I am struggling with though. My girlfriend is clearly submissive, but also a brat, so that makes it hard for me to take control in situations. I do love the playfulness, but I am not quite sure how to respond. She is also quite princess-like, being super cute and particular about the things she wants, whitch is wonderfull, but for some reason makes it harder for me to punish her as severely as we both would hope. For example I might plan a complicated series of punishments, discuss the boundaries related to those, but when I start after one or two phases I start questioning myself, and if everything is all right for her, and turn into nurturing role. We have discussed it several times, that more severe punishments would be desired, and if something would be too intensive there is the safe word and so. Still for some reason it is emotionally difficult for me to get there. Just wondering if anybody has been struggling with similar issues, or have some Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alaskan Daddy Posted July 6, 2021 Report Share Posted July 6, 2021 I have struggled with the same issue. But I then I realized I needed to trust my little that she will tell me when I have gone too far. I realized that she wanted me to push the boundaries as far as I wanted. She needed that from me. I suspect she needs that from you. Trust her that she will tell you when things have goon too far. Try to think of it as a kind of care she desires from you. I believe it will bring you and her closer. I hope this helps. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moondust mochi Posted July 7, 2021 Report Share Posted July 7, 2021 hiya! self-proclaimed brat here! this is a pretty consistent balance struggle for my Daddy and i as well. we're both switches, so She often needs a little more support in the control department and allowing me to take the reigns is easy when I'm a bratty baby. however, I know that She also struggles with limits and feeling like She's going too far. like AlaskianDaddy said above, it's all about communication. not only do you have to trust your small to be honest with how it's going, I'd also recommend weekly relationship check ins so that you can talk about how things have been going. decompress after non-sexual scenes. communicate! good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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