How to survive being a Daddy without a little.

[Grayy]

I'm writing this because I haven't had a little for a while now. I've been managing quite well without having a little, but right now, I live in the same house with a little who is having a long distance relationship with her daddy. I don't know if it's weird that I act like her daddy and at the same time, she says that her daddy is beginning to train her not to go into little space around anyone asides him and that hurts really bad, because I've always felt safe taking care of her. The late night cuddles, the bedtime stories, feeding her and doing all of that. I just need help with being a daddy and not having a little cause right now, she's staying away from me because she tends to slip when she's around me. It hurts.

[Grayy]

I just need help surviving.

[Little kaiya]

If she AND her daddy haven't agreed and consented to you daddying her then I would recommend that stop as it crosses a line.

 

Also, if you keep acting like her daddy it doesn't give you a reason to go out and find a little of your own. Try focusing on finding a little to have a relationship with vs with someone you know you can't have.

[Grayy]

Thank you. I don't think her daddy consents to me daddying her. But at the same time, it's just something that happens naturally. And over here, it's really hard finding a little. I've come across people and they all think it's weird. So I just keep to myself.

[Guest Aquaman]

you "survive" like its any other day. being single is not a sign of the end of the world. find stuff you like to do, depending on other people for happiness won't end well.

[DaddysMonkey]

I agree with Kaia and Aquaman.

 

Consent isn’t a guessing game. You’ve made it quite clear that her Daddy is training her to not be little around others. That is the opposite of consent to you daddying her. Unless he outright says “you have my consent to do this” , you are highly disrespecting him AND her. Does he even know about you ? Does he even know you try to Daddy her , and that she’s been avoiding you ? I’m not even a daddy , my basic overprotective friend instinct are kicking in and I would tell her to let her Daddy know what’s going on or draw a very clear and harsh line in the sand for you to not cross. You also stated that she’s purposely staying away from you to avoid this happening. That’s not cool dude. I’m sorry if this sounds harsh , but I would advice you to back off of her. If you can’t control yourself and you say it “happens naturally” then maybe you need to remove yourself from the situation and move.

Of course we only have your side and it wasn’t the most detailed , if she is still letting you do these things behind the scenes I can see why it would be confusing for you , but it doesn’t excuse disrespecting another Dom / Daddy by doing those things with their little.

As Aquaman said , being single isn’t the end of the world. There are billions of people around , and a good majority of them are also single. If you can’t function on your own on life , it tends to lead to toxic co dependency. You should try connecting with people who ARE single , and who DONT already have a daddy.

 

It sounds like you don’t even necessarily want or need her specifically , you’re just lonely and want someone. Of course I’m just guessing by reading between the lines , but I would really advise backing off. It’ll either end up in a terrible triangle of hurt between the three of you or you’re going to cross a boundary and really upset her and lose a friend.

 

Hope you find some sort of peace of mind bro.

Edited August 20, 2021 by DaddysMonkey

[DaddyDom3238]

Hi Grayy, I agree that being a "Daddy" to her is not the right thing to do and I understand that it comes naturally for you. However, switch positions and ask yourself if you would like someone else to be "Daddy" to your little when you have one.

As far as it being difficult without a little, I think every Daddy/Dom knows that feeling, there is an emptiness associated with not being able to care for a little, occupy your time with other hobbies if you can find something you enjoy. Maybe write and express how you are feeling.

Remember, that focusing on yourself first will only make you a better Daddy to your next little!

[Nice_Daddy]

Hey Grayy.  That's a rough spot to be in but you know that she is doing the right thing.  And I think that more than "How to survive without a little" is how to survive the loss of a little.  Even though you two may not have had a formal DD/lg relationship you were both filling the void thru each other.  Now that you know you can't be doing those things any longer it's going to hurt.  And I'm sorry that you have to experience that.  Don't dwell on the negative.  Reach out to friends to keep your mind distracted.  Chat with the many, many good people on these forums.  Take the others great advice to work on yourself which will only make you a better Daddy when you find your forever little, and you will.

 

Hope springs eternal in the human breast.

Edited August 21, 2021 by Nice_Daddy

[Grayy]

Thank you so much Nice_daddy. You got exactly how I feel. Trying to get through, she met me and told me that her daddy said it was okay to spank her if she disrespects me. I'm confused. It's like I'm literally daddying her, at the same time it's like I'm not.

[Grayy]

Everything is really just confusing. Edited August 21, 2021 by Grayy

[Nice_Daddy]

Life IS confusing.  Hell I'm 57 and I still struggle with some decisions.  In my opinion, the important choices are rarely black and white but rather float in some varying degrees of grayy. (see what i did there? )  You need to stop and listen to your inner voice.  It's talking to you right now by throwing red flags up all around you.  That relationship is "different".  I'm not going to say wrong because who am I, or anyone else, to judge what might make two consenting adults happy.  I personally would step back and be a "friend only" as best as I could, she may need your shoulder at some point.  But that's not an easy position.  You need to explore your feelings and make a decision.  No need to answer these in the forums I just thought they might help to guide your thoughts....

 

Do I love this woman with or w/o a DD/lg dynamic?

Do I think this woman is my forever little girl?

Can my heart handle the band-aid being constantly peeled back?

Could this interfere with my current search for a little girl?

Would my new little girl approve of this other relationship?

 

As a Daddy without a little I know that the void you are feeling hurts a lot, but I can tell you from experience that a pseudo little is not going to fill your needs for long.  If she isn't your forever little girl, which I am assuming she isn't or you two would have been in a formal dynamic, then your time would be better spent working on yourself and chasing after that dream.  Meditate or at least take a little quiet time to explore your feelings, I honestly think it's very important.  Learn from these feeling, just don't dwell on them.  Without pain how could we truly know joy.

 

Sorry if I was preaching. heh  You got this dude!

[Grayy]

[Guest unwantedlit]

I think you would be so much more at peace if you had your own little. I wouldn't like sharing a daddy. I'm sure in your heart, you would rather not share a little, right? I feel like sharing sets up a hurt that could be prevented. I could be way off but I am trying to put myself in your position.

[PrincessSnorlax]

Apologies if I’m speaking out of turn here, but do you think maybe you have developed feelings for the roommate/little friend…. And that’s why it hurts?… I’m sorry your feeling this way though.