Relationship issues

[AlozaliaRose]

So. I’ve been with my partner for almost a year now, we met a year and a half ago, hit it off and things seemed perfect. Well, when he met me I was a SW, I had sugar daddies, did adult film work, the whole thing. He said he was totally fine with everything, but as we’ve progressed he constantly makes me feel judged for these things. He said his opinions changed since we’ve gotten stronger, I’m not big in the industry anymore but I still talk about that stuff sometimes, it’s a part of my life and he just gets so upset about it. It hurts my feelings that I can’t talk about certain things with him.

Another issue. He’s younger than me, I’ve put a lot of work and effort into him because he has potential and I thought he would grow up, but almost a year in not much seems to have changed. We’ve had multiple talks of me explaining EXACTLY what I want in a relationship , he tries for a couple days then things go back to normal.

We have a big trip planned for our one year anniversary in literally three days. And now we’re fighting because he spent the night at a hotel with some friends and didn’t tell me. I had to find out from his mom that he didn’t come home all night. I don’t think he cheated but the fact he purposely hid it from me is so hurtful. He literally told me he didn’t say anything because he knew I’d get upset. Yes obviously I would be?! Who just randomly spends the night at a hotel with their friends who their partner doesn’t know, and then hides it from their partner? I can’t

 

I know in my heart I should break up with him. I’m unhappy, I know what I should do. But it took me so long to even find one guy worth dating, the fear of being single again is terrifying to me. I know people break up all the time. It doesn’t make it any easier. I have so many emotional issues I’m scared I’ll never be able to find someone if I break up with him. Idk what I want from this? I guess I just needed to vent mostly

[Bearman]

Imo if he can't accept your past, it's not gonna be any good. If being a SW is/was a part of you, thats just who you are. Sorry to hear he seems to have issues about it despite saying it's fine at first. Also just leaving a partner uninformed about his whereabouts and hanging out with pal without saying anything is a big no go too.

[DaddyDom3238]

Hello, 

First off I am very sorry that you are going through a hard time with you partner, that fact that he knew you would be upset if he spent the night at a hotel with some friends and didn't tell you because of that is extremely disrespectful. In any relationship that is an issue, it is even more of an issue in a relationship that exists in this dynamic as trust is and has to be first and foremost. If he is unwilling to change for you and you are only a year into your relationship I feel that says a lot and is something you need to address. 

If he is making you feel badly and judges you for the work you did and currently do on occasion the issue is with him and not you. He met you and began a relationship with while you were in that industry and you should never feel badly about working as a SW. My previous little/sub was an escort and did adult films as well, we discussed before we began our relationship came to an agreement and I knew that she belonged to me so I had no issues with it at all. We ended up together for five years and only broke up because she had to move away when she graduated college last year. 

I rambled a bit, I just wanted to make the point that there are Daddy/Doms out there that will respect your choices and will not make you feel bad for the choices you have made and are making as long as you are not hurting yourself in the process. 

Feel free to message me if you would ever like to talk as I have been in the lifestyle for quite a while!

Your Daddy/Dom should only make you feel loved, safe, and protected, they should never make you feel badly about yourself.  

[Guest Hero_Yuri]

You did great by being very open, up front about everything including your past which I met a good amount of women who would never even bring that up for fewr of judgment, and doing your best to talk things out. Honestly it seems as though you did everything correct, sounds like the only reason you have not ended it with him is simply because of the fear of being alone and the realization of how difficult it is to truly find that special someone even more so as you grt older. You know already what to do, you only need the courage to do so. As for what you want from it all, I suppose what everyone wants usually when in a relationship, find that special person you can grow old and happy with.