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Can you have a DDlg relationship without rules/submission?


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I'm just curious if its possible to have a DDlg relationship without rules (except maybe a couple here or there...maybe...)? Or maybe none at all?

I was in a relationship 3 years ago that was not DDlg but it was all about D/s and rules and it was overkill for me. It burned me out from rules and submission I think. Now whenever someone wants to set down rules for me, I feel tremendous resistance and I'm like... I just don't want to do that. I just want to be little, play with my stuffies, have bed time stories read to me... etc.

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As a daddy I don't believe there are 'cookie cutter' DDlg relationships. I have had littles that either didn't want or need rules. That being said I sill would give loving reminders for the different struggles they had. I also would read bedtime stories to them and tuck them when they wanted it. As a daddy one of the first conversation I would usually have with a new little was about rules.  My approach to each little was that if there were going to be rules, they would be in place to help the little grow as a person and to help them do the things they needed to do in their daily lives and tailored to their needs and desires. The relationship should not be one sided. Everything should be mutual or it won't work. I hope my words help you in some way

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my daddy and i dont have "rules" but more so "please do this cuz i think it will make every day better for you" suggestions... so if i forget or dont do it then im necessarily in trouble but more so get the "baby boo... i just want the best for you" daddy response. these include

:heart: If I'm getting anxious or worried i HAVE to immediately tell him and talk out what's going on in my head so i don't spiral. 
:heart: bedtime 
:heart: daily compliments
:heart: checking in when i get to work or home, etc

:heart: eating well

:heart: always telling him if im hurt (im very clumsy, so i get owies)

I may get rules in the future but as of right now this is what works for us and we been dating for almost 3 years... so i think a ddlg relationship can work without strict rules.

if you got any other questions, im happy to help!!


 

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If it works for you both, it's not wrong. 

Anything I do in writing, is 10 points or less. 

I'm not into Stephen King Novel rules or contracts. 

 

It always depends on those involved though, level of training, experience. Etc. 

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I'm just curious if its possible to have a DDlg relationship without rules (except maybe a couple here or there...maybe...)? Or maybe none at all?

 

I was in a relationship 3 years ago that was not DDlg but it was all about D/s and rules and it was overkill for me. It burned me out from rules and submission I think. Now whenever someone wants to set down rules for me, I feel tremendous resistance and I'm like... I just don't want to do that. I just want to be little, play with my stuffies, have bed time stories read to me... etc.

 

Short answer: Of course, it's possible. Not all Daddies impose rules, and not all littles work best with rules! Hope this helps. 

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