When you feel like you dont fit in

[Lasher]

I am familiar to a good extent with this lifestyle but it seems like whenever I find a place to post I'm doing something wrong. It's not because I'm aggressive or being rude. If anything I'm opposite of that. I just don't know the right things to say and I don't know a lot of the terms and the language spoken. Is anything I'm most familiar with domestic discipline and used to practice that. I have my own unique ideas about that and other adult disciplinary ideas. But I would just like to meet people and chat. But nobody replies and sometimes I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Please say hi and maybe give me some tips. I guess I would be a submissive and I would probably be open to something. However when I have tried actively to look for it I've never had any luck. Anymore I don't know if I would even want to. Just because I just don't fit in with any group of people it seems. It gets lonely. I'm not even a terrible-looking person. Not that that matters in this world. It doesn't matter to me. Thanks for reading. I mean this with all respect for the site.

[Accountable Daddy]

Hello and welcome! I have to admit I've been in the same feeling as you. Probably more so because I try to have a more realistic and perhaps slapping against offensive posts than is typical. But that said I think a lot of people around here just feel awkward and not sure what to say to others, so if you feel that then you're far from alone!

One thing to mention specifically about this site is it's not as active as it used to be. So while it's not a bad place to meet someone, there's more active places, which I won't mention because I don't know the policy of advertising other places. There's also a bad habit of dating sites and kink/BDSM/DDlg sites having a lot of people who either have not the best of intentions or are of questionable moral character in general. So you have to be careful, especially considering you're entering with a clear vulnerability to someone who wants to control you, but not in a good and healthy way. Although don't get paranoid about it! There are still a lot of people who are great around here and elsewhere.

 

That's wonderful you're into domestic discipline. I wonder how you feel about things like TPE (total power exchange) and just traditional relationships (or domestic servitude which isn't so different). Not that you can't be into those and DDlg too. 

While we're talking about what you'd like, you should go to the personals section and make a post. There should be a template available to follow and have it up in a few minutes. And with any luck you'll have some messages soon. Soon being relative of course, lol. It might take a couple of days or a couple of minutes. But worth giving a go. And don't be shy about bumping your post every 24 hours there.

[MasterPhotog]

Hello Lasher, welcome to the Forum. 

 

Each site being somewhat different, it takes time in familiarizing yourself with a new site. However, with time you will know exactly how everything works here. 

 

In my experience, people here are friendly and accepting of others, therefore, consider yourself among friends. 

 

Take your time to familiarize yourself with different areas of the site, read and comment on members' status updates and newbies' intros, if some members' profile inspires you, feel free to send them as friend request.
I'm sure you will make friends sooner than you think. Best of luck. Hope it helps. 

[Vampiress]

Welcome Lasher!

 

I am sorry you have had such a hard time with all of that. As others have said this site can be really slow so don't take it personally. There's also a lot of topics that get few responses or none at all. Sometimes people just don't know what to say or don't have anything to add. Also, sometimes a lot of topics get repeated over and over to the point that people get tired of answering the same things repeatedly. A lot of burn out happens in communities like this where people come and go.

 

I'd also say that the Dom(me)s/Daddies/Mommies tend to be quieter and less social than the littles, especially with each other. The littles are the most active, and the most active topics center around them. So take that into account if you're not getting much feedback in certain sections of the forum or on certain topics.

 

I'm not sure what kind of tips to offer but if you have certain questions or topics to guide a discussion feel free, I'd be happy to try and help if I can.