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I’m new to all of this and I’m thinking I’m a middle with just a little bit of a little

And I’m 51 yrs old and I’m divorced and not sure what to think I’ve been told a lot to stop acting stupid and dumb and I’m not sure where to look for other people that could help give advice on this ….is this how some people are I’m sorry if I sound weird or something just not sure who to ask on feeling like this In my marriage (divorced now)he controlled everything I never got to voice anything without bad things happening so I just stayed quiet and now I can be myself and not sure how to act on this part lol again sorry if I sound weird or if I’m not making any sense lol

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Not weird at all. I turn 44 next week and am a little. Take some time explore ask questions about treat yourself with empathy and let you be you, all of you.
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You are not weird.  There is not anything wrong with you.  It is sad about your divorce and I hope you heal and recover in a manner that makes you stronger and healthy in all aspects.  Extend yourself some grace and be kind to YOU. {HUGS}

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If there's one thing I've learnt it's that there is no 'one size fits all' when it comes to littles, littles come in all shapes, sizes and flavours so there's no rules to what a little or middle should be or how they should act, it's about finding what feels right for you. I hope now that you're independent again you can discover that part of you more x
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I know for me as an older little/middle, I have learned that with a safe little space I can reign in my behavior better in public. It is like with that freedom there I am more restrained in public. I say have fun, create a space and enjoy all of who you are. Feel free to friend me.

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Not weird at all, you have been holding back who knows how many years! I totally agree with Brassy that you need a place/time in private where you can let go, even if it's alone and just color, watch cartoons or whatever and with that you can act more "normal" in public.

 

I think it's also important you make friends that are more accepting of a playful nature without labelling as stupid or dumb!! the kind of people that laugh it off if you sound a tad bit too corney or find you endearing if you got too excited over a new game or something that is "for kids". Even better if they don't even notice it at all, because for me at least that shows they know you well enough to expect you getting excited over something they knew you would love.

 

Since you are mostly a middle and a female, I have good news for you... we don't have to work as hard to hide it, it doesn't stand out as much as you think. Congrats on finally getting rid of that awful relationship and remember not everyone is like him, so if at any point you find calling yourself whatever negative things he called you... keep in mind it's his voice in your head and not yours or anyone else's.

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 ....sound weird or something just not sure who to ask on feeling like this In my marriage (divorced now)he controlled everything I never got to voice anything without bad things happening so I just stayed quiet and now I can be myself and not sure how to act on this part lol again sorry if I sound weird or if I’m not making any sense lol

I'm was in that boat!  I am 43 and I'm a Little. I was married to an abusive man... Became a widow. But I found the love of me life and my Daddy about 13 years ago. AndAnd when we met I was at a low point. But he helped me come out of my shell and  helped me know me worth. My Daddy loves me and does EVERYTHING he can to protect and care for me. Hang in there. You deserve to be happy and feel safe and loved. Fuzzy buzzy luvs to you Angel  

 

 

ps welcome love having older littles

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Best wishes for success in your new adventures and new life. I wouldn't worry if something seems weird. If anything this is the place to ask and not have to fear harsh judgement. 

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Hi Angel,

I've been thinking about your post more, so I sent you a friend request. If you want to talk, I would like very much to be a friend. :) 

~Harlee

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