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Hi all!! 

 

Im a 50/50 switch, and lately haveb een getting really little by myself and its been very fine! I can get myself into the headspace easy now and generally have a positive experience. But something i still struggle with, even after being in the community for a while, is sub drop AFTER littlespace, even if im alone. Usually subdrop is more on the bdsm and hard sub side, but any time i need to get out of littel space, i feel icky or exhausted, or like im being ripped out of it. 

Like i said before, getting into it is easy and fun! But its like a little kid leaving a friends house- i just dont wanna!! or even if i do its just rough and i feel bad because then i need to adult or take care of my partner (which i love 1000000%) and its just a strange feeling?

I dont have a caregiver right now, so looking for suggestions for solo littles here! thank you!!! <3

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I dunno what a switch is or subdrop, but I do get being pulled out of little-space. I tend to be a meany. I don't wanna be but I don't handle adulting well, even though I'm a Grammy now. And it does feel ucky to me too. I don't really have any good advice for you, but I have to pretend to be an adult at time just to do what needs to be done

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When I was engaging in littlespace by myself, I also experienced a lot of subdrop. It's definitely rough to deal with by yourself.

What I did to make it easier on myself was I set up a little self-aftercare kit! I had a few self-care items that bridge the gap between little me and big me. I had my favorite snacks, bubble bath, face masks, and stress toys that travel well (like keychain type things). It was meant to be varied so that if I had enough time to calmly come out of littlespace I could relax and have a snack and a bubble bath, or if I needed to hurry up and snap out of little space, I'd grab a stress toy and go!
 

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Like the others above me have said, I experience subdrop a lot, but especially when I am coming out of little space by myself. Although I have a Daddy, I only work part time currently so I am home alone at least three days a week, which means I have a lot of time to myself.

 

What I have been finding works for me is planning out my days. I have a lot of responsibilities, including taking care of a puppy and doing schoolwork, so it's easier for me to plan out my day so that I am still taking time to do the important things while also leaving myself time for little space. 

 

I've been trying some different techniques for planning out my day. Recently, I've been doing my schoolwork first and then taking the time after I'm finished to go into little space and destress. Other times I find it easier to go into little space first and plan activities to come out of it gradually and then start working on my school so I am not focused on the sadness coming out of little space. 

 

I also like to have an idea about what I am doing in little space. Like, some days I like to play games on my switch and color, and on other days I like to watch cartoons and write in my journal. I think planning activities and having a set time is super important for me because it keeps me on track with everything else going on in my day, but still allows me the time I need for myself.

 

Hope this helps!

 

 

 

Junebug x.

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When I was engaging in littlespace by myself, I also experienced a lot of subdrop. It's definitely rough to deal with by yourself.

What I did to make it easier on myself was I set up a little self-aftercare kit! I had a few self-care items that bridge the gap between little me and big me. I had my favorite snacks, bubble bath, face masks, and stress toys that travel well (like keychain type things). It was meant to be varied so that if I had enough time to calmly come out of littlespace I could relax and have a snack and a bubble bath, or if I needed to hurry up and snap out of little space, I'd grab a stress toy and go!

 

i really love this idea!! ive started a little journal and it helped me easily fall out of the headspace yesterday and i think a lil kit could help too, so thank you!!

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Like the others above me have said, I experience subdrop a lot, but especially when I am coming out of little space by myself. Although I have a Daddy, I only work part time currently so I am home alone at least three days a week, which means I have a lot of time to myself.

 

What I have been finding works for me is planning out my days. I have a lot of responsibilities, including taking care of a puppy and doing schoolwork, so it's easier for me to plan out my day so that I am still taking time to do the important things while also leaving myself time for little space. 

 

I've been trying some different techniques for planning out my day. Recently, I've been doing my schoolwork first and then taking the time after I'm finished to go into little space and destress. Other times I find it easier to go into little space first and plan activities to come out of it gradually and then start working on my school so I am not focused on the sadness coming out of little space. 

 

I also like to have an idea about what I am doing in little space. Like, some days I like to play games on my switch and color, and on other days I like to watch cartoons and write in my journal. I think planning activities and having a set time is super important for me because it keeps me on track with everything else going on in my day, but still allows me the time I need for myself.

 

Hope this helps!

 

 

 

Junebug x.

ooo i really like that idea :0

 

i loose track of time a lot and im out of a job rn due to being recently hospitalized so planning my day would add some really good structure and help i bet! thanks for the idea!!

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