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Crystal_Rose

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Hi everyone, 

So I’m confused if I’m actually a little or not which sounds a bit strange I know.

I’m turning 22 this year and I’ve known about the community for just over a year now maybe a bit longer, I have been in two DD/LG “relationships” and I put it like that because I ended up shoving them away as I got really scared.

 

I say to myself I have Little Tendencies. I love watching kid programs, eating food that kids normally have, I love my teddies and stuffies, I can only Color from toddler books, I’m always acting like a kid, I have a bib that I wear when we have messy food for dinner, I drink from sippy cups daily due to a) just loving them! but also because I suffer with tremors. 
 

I don’t know I’m just really confused about who I am I guess.

I know Littles have a headspace but I don’t feel I have one or can get into one, as everything I’ve mentioned has been a daily occurrence to me since I was about 12 (except my bib and sippy cups as that is mainly for my tremors…I think) 

 

I’ve wrote a lot so I appreciate anyone who takes time to read all of it and I hope I can get some advice or opinions about what I’ve wrote. So thank you in advance  :)

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It's definitely not just you. I had a long-time gf who actually introduced me to ddlg and yet as it went along, she was the one who had a bigger issue with being Little; always worried about it and always was conflicted about it.  

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Crystal_Rose, 

 

Thanks for reaching out. You're not alone in feeling confused or not sure about yourself being a little. 

 

Having the little tendencies that you mentioned, such as watching kid programs, eating food that kids normally have, loving teddies and stuffies, only colouring from toddler books, always acting like a kid, having and using a bib, drinking from sippy cups daily partially due to suffering with tremors, please ask yourself what these tendencies tell you? 

 

As far as getting into little headspace goes, you may need the right environment and conditions for it, especially for the first time. 

 

Considering that your two 'DD/lg relationships' really scared you, it seems that you may be having a slight difficulty accepting yourself being little. 

 

My suggestion is that you try to relax, not fight it and go with the flow, so to speak, and continue it feels good.

Good luck. 

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Thank you both for taking the time to reply I really appreciate it. 
I guess I never really let myself relax much over the years, which sounds a bit stupid to me as I can’t work so I’m not exactly doing anything anyway but I understand where you are coming from. And I think it’s time I try relaxing a bit. 

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I know Littles have a headspace but I don’t feel I have one or can get into one

 

 

I've known littles who don't really identify with the concept of "little space" or "head space" and just feel like they're little all the time, and pretending to be adults when they have to.

 

Nothing wrong with that at all as far as I can see, you do you.

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...I’ve wrote a lot so I appreciate anyone who takes time to read all of it and I hope I can get some advice or opinions about what I’ve wrote. So thank you in advance  :)

The DD are right! It's a journey only you can have. Alone the way you'll meet wonderful and not wonderful people. Just stay true to yourself. I am a 42 year old Little who acts like an adult when needed. I'm open, loving, trusting, blessed and very loved. But I didn't just get where I am now without my friends in here and friends in person. I only can say that when your happy I mean happy with who you are... Things just seem to bloom so beautifully!  

 

Best wishes, hang in there. Lots and Lots of luvs! 

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Heya,

 

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way, it really sucks when you are feeling down and out about things that really make you happy.

 

I think everyone who has responded above is absolutely right. I only just wanted to share my experience because I have been going through something similar. Just for context, I just turned 22 and I have been into the lifestyle for about 4 years now.

 

I realized that I'm not really little anymore, I don't really go into that headspace. And I was thinking it was because I was just losing that side of me, or growing out of it, if you will. But in reality, it was just because I was too stressed to go into that headspace. I had a conversation with my Daddy about it and we both agreed that we need to take some time for ourselves to destress so I'm able to enjoy headspace.

 

Ever since we had that talk, I have been putting a big focus on taking time out of my day to destress and it occasionally leads to little space naturally. It doesn't happen every single time because ultimately the stresses are still there, but sometimes is better than no time, ya know?

 

Anyways, I digress. If you need someone to talk to about it, feel free to message me!

 

 

 

 

Junebug x.

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