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I've been going through alot lately since the 28th my care one of my and my daddy's movies was the choice which is still my favorite movie but he always said that he was my Travis to to his Gabby I don't know if anyone's ever seen that movie but it's really a good movie me and him got together and June of 2020 when we got together we got together kind of quick he kind of just got out of prison and we met on MeetMe and I mean everything was going great he asked me for my number I gave him my number and I still have the very first messages we've ever had together on my my phone and like we have been going through a lot lately but like as I said he got out of jail and he he came to see me he asked me out and I told him you know yes but at the same time I wasn't ready to date anyone before him because I was just going through a horrible break up a year prior and he knew that he actually met my ex-husband my ex-husband was fine with him I was living with his sister my ex-husband's sister not my caregiver sister and my brother was here but there was certain things you know sometimes we would fight and sometimes we wouldn't but he was very caring I was completely honest with him from the beginning it was really hard for me to say I love you to him he said I love you after about a month of us dating I felt like he was falling in love with me too quickly well his dad ended up kicking him out of his house so he came and lived here with us me and my sister-in-law and my brother and you know I I told them I was like you know we're just starting out our relationship I would like you know still to have my own personal space so he had his own room but majority of the time he was in my room and I mean he had a lot of communication skills problems so I try helping him in any way that I could think of you know I'm I'm a very caring I have a very caring nature I'm a cancer he's a Gemini we usually aren't supposed to get along like that but we have a lot in common and we noticed that before we even met each other in real life and we have like a meat cute kind of story and I do love him it was so hard for me to say it well I ended up breaking up with him but he still lived here he still slept in my room we still had sex basically we called each other f*** buddies I tried to explain to him that I just wasn't ready but the truth was I was scared because my before relationship was to my husband and that was an 8-year relationship and I didn't want to get abandoned my husband didn't know that I was a little I kept that a secret from him it was really hard but my sister-in-law knew she knew everything she said she could just tell so my brother ended up getting kicked out and you know that broke my heart cuz I love my brother so he went to live with his ex wife me and him were going through divorce at the same time we call each other twins because he's basically just like me He's a Leo I'm a cancer He's 31st I'm 6 of July well we know I always confided in my brother and now he's gone and tells my ex husband they both live in different parts of the world well to me it's different parts ones in Houston the other ones and Waco I'm in Texas and honestly I've been feeling alone so I was devoted to my my daddy my caregiver we ended up getting back together on the 21st and of July and we were pretty much inseparable since then he was talking to a girl before me and him got back together but while we were still sleeping together and I didn't know that I didn't know that at all I found out because she messaged me so it hurt to find that out and I'm still hurt because of it but as I've recently you know 2 years after everything he tells me that he doesn't want to be with me anymore but he doesn't say it he just kind of beats around the bush with it and hence so I had to put two and two together well as of lately he's been using my car to go to work and go hang out with his friends and stuff and to me it just feels like I'm the only one that's hurting I've been trying to show him that I care and I've been trying to prove to him that I'm trying to make this work two years we're buying a house been buying it since you know day one we ended up buying it from my sister-in-law and his dad passed away while he was here so he hasn't really dealt with that isn't really dealt with a lot and I can't have kids he knew that when we met but now he's blaming that on the reason why he doesn't think we should be together I mean yes I have I have flaws I'm not perfect but then when it is and he hasn't really been treating me the same and it's like I told him I didn't only lose my fiance cuz he proposed me I also lost you know someone I considered to be my best friend and my caregiver you know my first daddy I'm his first little so I haven't been able to go little for a while since the 28th I just don't understand how one day you could say that you're in love with someone and that you'll do anything for them and then the next it's like they don't even exist to you but then again he wants to do a couple of things he wants to go out together he wants the you know go shopping together he wants to go and and do stuff together but then he doesn't want us to be together and everyone keeps telling me that I need to just give up and leave him I'm buying the house he's buying the house he's been using my car to go back and forth to work and go hang out with friends to where the car doesn't even work anymore which always made him mad it made him mad when I said my car he didn't have anything when we met I bought everything if not for me we wouldn't have been buying the house and then you know I was in a very abusive relationship with my kids dad they forced me to get fixed or else they weren't going to let me go home to my kids I didn't have a choice I love being a mom and my kids are gone they're in North Carolina I don't get to talk to them I don't get to see them and that hurts me it breaks my heart because I do I miss them I raised them you know I'm just looking for some kind of advice or even just hear my story I need to know what to do he was a great daddy he was a great fiance he's a great person to me but since we've broken up I've noticed that he's very closed off and he's very dark as I would say it and I always heard that I bring out the light and people it's like without me I don't see a light for him and it worries me and I my heart's been broken and I told him that he was probably going to do this to me and he didn't like me saying that but I mean honestly obviously it was true because where is he he's always gone now he's never here I cook and I clean I do everything he doesn't help with anything other than paying the bills which I'm thankful for but he also says that he can easily just leave he has other places he can go and it's like well then why are you here why why are you torturing me cuz that's what it feels like is happening I feel like I'm being tortured and then everyone keeps saying that maybe he's just leaving me on and it's like leaving me on for what we don't have sex anymore he sleeps in a separate room now thank you for listening
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Lonely_Teardrop

Thank you for taking the time to put what you're going through into words. 

As the problem consists of more than one parts, you may want to break it down into small, little, tiny parts, find common ground between the two of you, for example going for shopping, walking or dinner etc., and try to rebuild your relationship from there.

Don't be surprised how well giving benefit of the doubt/compliments and good communication work. Good luck!

Hope it helps. Feel free to add and message me directly, I will be a great listener. 

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Lonely_Teardrop

Thank you for taking the time to put what you're going through into words. 

As the problem consists of more than one parts, you may want to break it down into small, little, tiny parts, find common ground between the two of you, for example going for shopping, walking or dinner etc., and try to rebuild your relationship from there.

Don't be surprised how well giving benefit of the doubt/compliments and good communication work. Good luck!

Hope it helps. Feel free to add and message me directly, I will be a great listener.

 

 

Thank you for the advice I have been going on walks with him lately and I have been kinda distancing myself away from him a little to see if he might miss me not trying to force anything on him sorta like when we first met I have been checking to see if he txt me and wants to spend time without our me txting him first or assuming it's like okay if you want space here you go but just know I am here for you

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