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I hope MDLB is okay to post here I'm still trying to figure my way around this site.

 

I'm really new to this and don't know how to better myself for my little. Today he asked me for a bedtime story while I was driving and I felt horrible for not knowing one off by heart. My daughter has never been one for stories as she likes to try and read them herself so I'm really lost.

 

TL;DR  would love advice on how to better myself as a mommy for my little

 

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DDlg or MDlb or any other combination of relationship in this vein are wonderful but also need to acknowledge and respect that they are relationships between two adults first and foremost.

 

Not knowing a story off the top of your head or not being able to immediately fulfill a request shouldn't make you feel horrible. This type of relationship, like pretty much any type of relationship should make you feel better not worse. Responding immediately to every request from your little doesn't make you a "better" caregiver. Setting reasonable boundaries. Being loving. Caring. Non-judgmental. Supportive. Those are the things that make you a good caregiver.

 

Extend yourself the gift of empathy and focus on what you're doing well instead of one small thing that perhaps didn't go as you would have liked. If your little doesn't do one thing as you'd like would you want them feeling horrible about it, probably not. The same goes for you as a caregiver.

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As a little who loves her story time from my Lion. The biggest thing is not pushing yourself to being able to do everything. It sucks when my Lion cant do story time but i also have to understand that life isnt going to always be what i want it to be even if im having just the worst days. It can be hard to grasp as a little especially when youre having a hard day or just really want something so you can always sit down with your little and just set the boundaries and expectations on things like that
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You can make stories up if caught by a request like that! it's super easy! in your head choose a movie character and put it in a different movie for the story, maybe change the setting... hell, you can even use the simplified plot of some old obscure movie you remember if you are feeling too tired and your brain is not cooperating.

 

About being a good mommy for your little, what matters is the connection between the two of you. What makes a wonderful relationship between you two might not be so great for someone else. The only things the relationships should have in common are: communication, care, understanding and respect.

 

So really, you should be asking this question to your little. If you don't know where to start perhaps do some quizzes together (you can see a bunch of results on my profile as an example to see if you want to do any of those) and share/talk about your answers, even discuss what terms mean to each other to clarify you are on the same page. Then feel free to ask for any details or questions that come up here if you need help or just talk :)

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