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So our daddies/caregivers are supposed to be just that ....caring, loving, etc. But do any of you littles sometimes feel you make your daddy upset when you deviate from your normal? Like if you aren't feeling well and want to rest longer in a day, does your daddy/cg seem annoyed or even angry...almost like they aren't your daddy anymore? I don't know if this makes sense but if anyone can relate, let me know....

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@007babygirl You're right, Daddies/CGs should be exactly that, caring and loving and make the little feel loved, proud and motivated. 
I would be very surprised if the answer to your question is anything other than, never, under any circumstances and never as if they are not your Daddy/CG anymore. 

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I can relate: I have met several dudes who got annoyed if I was sick or for some reason unable ( or unwilling ) to do what they wanted. But those people were young, immature and thought that the world revolved around them. If they had thought that day would go in 'this and this way' ( without even telling me ), they would be really upset if it didn't happen.

 

However, I find it hard to see how normal adult would be like that. Except for some really stressfull situation where they have had really high hopes, and then disapointment comes out in bad way. But those occurances should be rare, and they should apologise if it happens.

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Thing is, if you are going to do this lifestyle as a CG then you have to understand certain things come with it like caring and patience.

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Nope. Anytime in sick or feeling off He is right there and understanding. I cant really imagine a partner who would make me feel bad or would be angry or annoyed if I was sick or something.

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Your partner should ALWAYS support you looking after yourself and resting. Talk to him about your feelings and check in with his feelings. Don't feel bad for needing to rest.

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I have experienced this in the past. An ex-partner of mine, who was my Daddy at the time, made no exceptions for sickness or bad mental health days. I was made to feel inadequate, bad, and even punished for being sick or feeling mentally unwell. Needless to say, that relationship did not last very long. 
 

All of this to say, a CG shouldn’t behave in this way, nor should any partner really. A partnership should be built on caring for one another. A CG should be understanding when you need more rest or aren’t feeling yourself. 

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This is interesting to me and I can relate. My middle has issues once in a while, some I can fix, some I have to leave alone. It's not you, it's him and his needs to mature and grow as a CG.  From a CG point of view, I agree and think it's a matter of maturity.

An immature CG will want things as planned and even may enjoy the power of punishments/guilt tripping if that doesn't happen. It's an ego trip which feeds itself and is paranoid of anything that jeopardizes that power or control. This passes in time as they work on themselves and experience life.

A mature CG/Daddy will understand and even try to help you fix the problem. We thrive on caring and fixing problems in anticipation of you becoming your best. If that takes a day or two or a week, who cares? It's a challenge. The anticipation and enjoyment thereof will be that much sweeter because of the effort and care we've put into the relationship to improve you. A mature CG will understand that everyone (even CG's) has an 'off' day and needs to recharge or reflect. It keeps the relationship healthy. These moments that try the relationship, and how you get through them, is what makes it stronger. Actions, not words.

There are times when you may just need to be left alone, it can't be "fixed", and that's ok. Just please communicate that or we will keep asking and trying to fix it, and that may frustrate you.

If however, there becomes a pattern of behavior, the CG may become disappointed, but never mad. That's when they should talk to you and find the root cause, discuss expectations which change over time anyway, and adjust the dynamic accordingly. It will, and has to change over time to keep the relationship healthy.

I hope this helps provide perspective!

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I am so sorry this has happened to you, 007. You can’t help not feeling well, and I know, both personally and in my line of work, that lotsa people struggle with down days and needing extra care. 

You’re someone who needs a caregiver. Some days, your caregiver will need to put forth more effort for you. Other days, you will do what you can to make your caregiver feel extra special. But that is, IMO, the nature of this type of dynamic, as others have pointed out. 

It is a sign of immaturity if your CG can’t handle that, and they likely have quite a bit of growing up to do. They might not be in this for the right reasons. What do they expect from this dynamic? For you to ignore your own needs indefinitely and only care for and appease THEM? For you to accept the care your CG feels like providing, to fulfill a kink they may have?  If you’re here as a little, that’s likely not what you’re seeking. (That doesn’t mean you won’t ever be a source of support and care to your CG, if your mutually consenting relationship allows for that. But if he is looking for a slave, then he needs to seek out a M/s relationship first and foremost, with DDlg being secondary to that.)

Regardless, 007, you should never feel guilty about needing care or not feeling well. That is why you are here. You need a lot of care. There are genuine caregivers out there who truly desire to provide that to their little. If he is not that way, that is his problem, not yours. 

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On 7/13/2022 at 12:45 PM, 007babygirl said:

So our daddies/caregivers are supposed to be just that ....caring, loving, etc. But do any of you littles sometimes feel you make your daddy upset when you deviate from your normal? Like if you aren't feeling well and want to rest longer in a day, does your daddy/cg seem annoyed or even angry...almost like they aren't your daddy anymore? I don't know if this makes sense but if anyone can relate, let me know....

My question is, how was he when you met him? ( My little says maybe ill learn something.. I don't know ..) Have you ever said anything ... to him?  Communication seems to be working for us. With us we started off our relationship as most do but then I learned to push buttons to get my way. She learned to stomp on my buttons. We talked but never really listened. Then I learned what worked to get her to relax and want to be close. She learned what I like and eventually I didn't need to be so aggressive to get my way. She was always a little or middle. I was caught up in getting my way to see her side but once I saw her I saw who she is. I think he's probably still searching for who you are. If I could say something to him it would be this;

Cause I was like you, don't listen to people's advice given to her. They dont know you. Talk to Double O 7, find out her needs and wants. Make yourself happy with helping her cause you love her and want the best for her. Then show her and don't be afraid to ask her for help.

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On 7/20/2022 at 5:40 AM, Ddandlittle said:

My question is, how was he when you met him? ( My little says maybe ill learn something.. I don't know ..) Have you ever said anything ... to him?  Communication seems to be working for us. With us we started off our relationship as most do but then I learned to push buttons to get my way. She learned to stomp on my buttons. We talked but never really listened. Then I learned what worked to get her to relax and want to be close. She learned what I like and eventually I didn't need to be so aggressive to get my way. She was always a little or middle. I was caught up in getting my way to see her side but once I saw her I saw who she is. I think he's probably still searching for who you are. If I could say something to him it would be this;

Cause I was like you, don't listen to people's advice given to her. They dont know you. Talk to Double O 7, find out her needs and wants. Make yourself happy with helping her cause you love her and want the best for her. Then show her and don't be afraid to ask her for help.

Perfect....I will show/mention this to my daddy. I think it could help with our communication. Thank you

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