Profile pics

[LittleKitty9]

Hi everyone,

Its so good to be here 

New to the conscious embodiment of my little and middle aspects (2 years now) and discovering and learning every day.

I am absolutely new to online forums of any kind except regular social media outlets 

So my question is this: why does hardly anyone put up a profile pic of themselves? Is this because this is all a secret? Or they are married? Or they are......whaaaat?

Am I missing something and if so please, in the name of all the pink stuffies everywhere, enlighten this little middle 

Loveys & huggies 

[beanbean]

mine is a coffee bean so i really have one of me lol. it just depends some people are just not  comefortable  thats there right 

[LoverEcho]

For people that don’t put up a profile picture at all, I just view is as they can’t be bothered. Putting up a personal profile picture is a privacy issue for some. Not everyone wants their identity easily found online and not everyone wants people to know they are into this. A lot of users also may not post pictures of themselves because they don’t want to attract unwanted attention. The primary purpose of this site isn’t for dating, and those with personal profile pictures tend to get that exact attention. 

[LittleKitty9]

7 minutes ago, GayKitten said:

A few reasons for myself personally:

1. This part of my life is private, and aside from the people I interact with here, my partner is the only other person in my life who needs to know anything about this part of myself. (Like, do my friends or coworkers or anyone else actually need to know that I call my partner Mommy sometimes?) Remember, this is a completely public forum, and anyone can take the personal information you give!

2. My appearance should have no bearing on the value of what I share here. (Unless I'm posting a cute outfit, which I don't do anyway because I'm shy on top of very private, lol.) Honestly, it would really weird me out if someone was super-interested in what I look like. Not only because I'm not actively seeking partners, but because like......how I look has nothing to do with why I'm here? And I'd be pretty grossed out if people only cared about what I shared because they think I'm hot??

3. It's really rare and poignant on the internet now (I've been around awhile ) to have a place where an avatar can be the entire visual representation of your self / your persona. For those who recognize the character in my picture, I want them to invoke of some her characteristics -- and for those who don't, I want their impression of me to be "girl who likes hot drinks and side-eyeing people". Honestly, it's nice to get to pick a picture to represent myself that isn't myself!

I love this response. Thank you.

[LittleKitty9]

2 hours ago, beanbean said:

mine is a coffee bean so i really have one of me lol. it just depends some people are just not  comefortable  thats there right 

Thanks beanbean, it's true, it's their right.

[LittleKitty9]

2 hours ago, LoverEcho said:

For people that don’t put up a profile picture at all, I just view is as they can’t be bothered. Putting up a personal profile picture is a privacy issue for some. Not everyone wants their identity easily found online and not everyone wants people to know they are into this. A lot of users also may not post pictures of themselves because they don’t want to attract unwanted attention. The primary purpose of this site isn’t for dating, and those with personal profile pictures tend to get that exact attention. 

I hear you. Thank you

[DaddysMonkey]

6 hours ago, GayKitten said:

 

2. My appearance should have no bearing on the value of what I share here. (Unless I'm posting a cute outfit, which I don't do anyway because I'm shy on top of very private, lol.) Honestly, it would really weird me out if someone was super-interested in what I look like. Not only because I'm not actively seeking partners, but because like......how I look has nothing to do with why I'm here? And I'd be pretty grossed out if people only cared about what I shared because they think I'm hot??

*very aggressive clapping in agreement* 

While I do share photos of myself here and don’t give a shit if people see me , THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS. @GayKitten hit the nail on the head for me. 
 

Even when people are open , and DO share photos of themselves… it more often than not comes with more annoyances and trouble than it does anything else. 
 

If I had a dollar for every time some douche canoe tried to be my “friend” , then followed up after three messages with “actually your photos are really nice you’re hot” , like why the fuck did you add me and message me then ? Cause you’re FUCKIN UGLY BRO AND IM NOT INTERESTED ! Hehehehe…. Just kidding I’m not that mean 😇 Although I do think about treating extremely shallow people like this sometimes as a wake up call even if they’re not unattractive. It’s REALLY fucking annoying being seen for ONLY what you look like. 
 

Since I’m so open about sharing my face though , I’ve found it’s a good way to weed out the fuckin morons who are here for one reason and one reason only and don’t treat people with common decency and respect. If someone mentions my photos or they way I look constantly , or it becomes apparent that my looks are the only reason they contacted me in the first place , they have no place in my life. 
 

Being treated like a piece of meat and a novelty on forums like this , is a huge turn off and makes a lot of people not want to share photos. 
 

It happens a lot with Daddy’s too even though it’s not talked about as much. A middle aged very attractive and fit Daddy will post photos on this site and get FLOODED with desperate littles flocking to them ONLY because they think they’re hot. I’m sure that gets very old for attractive men too. 

My face and body is just a sack of meat to carry around my brain and soul. If you’re too worried about the sack of meat , then you don’t get to see my brains and soul. End of. 

[WigglyBun]

I've been online for...a long time, plenty of forums, chat rooms, etc. I've never once thought it was necessary to share my picture as my profile picture. If I were looking to date or something, then maybe yes, but also...very likely not, because I know how certain people can be and I have zero patience for someone who bases everything off of how someone looks, or only wants to talk to me because they think I'm cute or whatever else. While I do appreciate that I am pleasing to some peoples eyes, that is a very small part of who I am, and imo the least important.


 

[Sloth Fairy]

Being that this is falls under BDSM/kink. Lots of people are private about this. Society as a whole doesn't understand kink and ddlg/cgl has gotten a lot of negativity in general.

Also there are people who are on these sites that are less than honorable types,that might use your pictures to create fake accounts, or other nefarious reasons. 

[Sloth Fairy]

1 hour ago, DaddysMonkey said:

 My face and body is just a sack of meat to carry around my brain and soul. If you’re too worried about the sack of meat , then you don’t get to see my brains and soul. End of. 

This! I love this!!

[Cebakes]

Everyone’s reasoning and thought process is different.   The Internet is a creepy place.   I really don’t give it a second thought when someone doesn’t have a picture. From a personal perspective I don’t care who sees me.  I fly my freak flag.

[LittleKitty9]

I can see truth and value in all the replies here and I also still prefer to have a visual of people I speak with. I think the main reason is because I don't know who is who as in, there may be folks presenting as one thing and they are actually not that. 

I still love the space here. It's helping me a lot. And I guess I will get used to the anonymity of it and hopefully make some some good friends here.

[Little kaiya]

Personally I don't put up a profile pic of myself because I'm genderfluid and the amount of inappropriate comments when I put up a photo of myself gets very exhausting.

My sex is male but my gender is a man and a woman. Often when people see the physical me they make assumptions and I get misgendered. I don't ever hide my gender, it's right in my profile, but I also am not going to do things that increase the number of times I'm misgebdered. Just another perspective.

[LittleKitty9]

1 hour ago, Little kaiya said:

Personally I don't put up a profile pic of myself because I'm genderfluid and the amount of inappropriate comments when I put up a photo of myself gets very exhausting.

My sex is male but my gender is a man and a woman. Often when people see the physical me they make assumptions and I get misgendered. I don't ever hide my gender, it's right in my profile, but I also am not going to do things that increase the number of times I'm misgebdered. Just another perspective.

Love this perspective. Thank you

[LittleKitty9]

20 hours ago, Sloth Fairy said:

Being that this is falls under BDSM/kink. Lots of people are private about this. Society as a whole doesn't understand kink and ddlg/cgl has gotten a lot of negativity in general.

Also there are people who are on these sites that are less than honorable types,that might use your pictures to create fake accounts, or other nefarious reasons. 

I do notice that most people in my world don't understand DDLG at all and some are very quick to judge it. I have a precious handful who get it.

[LittleKitty9]

22 hours ago, DaddysMonkey said:

*very aggressive clapping in agreement* 

While I do share photos of myself here and don’t give a shit if people see me , THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS. @GayKitten hit the nail on the head for me. 
 

Even when people are open , and DO share photos of themselves… it more often than not comes with more annoyances and trouble than it does anything else. 
 

If I had a dollar for every time some douche canoe tried to be my “friend” , then followed up after three messages with “actually your photos are really nice you’re hot” , like why the fuck did you add me and message me then ? Cause you’re FUCKIN UGLY BRO AND IM NOT INTERESTED ! Hehehehe…. Just kidding I’m not that mean 😇 Although I do think about treating extremely shallow people like this sometimes as a wake up call even if they’re not unattractive. It’s REALLY fucking annoying being seen for ONLY what you look like. 
 

Since I’m so open about sharing my face though , I’ve found it’s a good way to weed out the fuckin morons who are here for one reason and one reason only and don’t treat people with common decency and respect. If someone mentions my photos or they way I look constantly , or it becomes apparent that my looks are the only reason they contacted me in the first place , they have no place in my life. 
 

Being treated like a piece of meat and a novelty on forums like this , is a huge turn off and makes a lot of people not want to share photos. 
 

It happens a lot with Daddy’s too even though it’s not talked about as much. A middle aged very attractive and fit Daddy will post photos on this site and get FLOODED with desperate littles flocking to them ONLY because they think they’re hot. I’m sure that gets very old for attractive men too. 

My face and body is just a sack of meat to carry around my brain and soul. If you’re too worried about the sack of meat , then you don’t get to see my brains and soul. End of. 

I prefer to think of ny body as a temple rather than a sack of meat😂

But yeah people who approach you only for what you look like would be very shallow indeed

[DaddysMonkey]

17 minutes ago, LittleKitty9 said:

I prefer to think of ny body as a temple rather than a sack of meat😂

But yeah people who approach you only for what you look like would be very shallow indeed

I think you might’ve missed my point a little bit. I take very good care of my body and treat it well like a temple also , but it’s also the least important thing about me when meeting new people. Hence my comment , it’s a literal sack of meat , “a vessel for the soul” if that works better for you. 

[Andriel_Isilien]

I put partially of my face because I didn't know what other photo or even what image I wanted to have to represent me. I have been thinking of changing it now that I have figured myself out more but I just can't be bothered 😅 I think it represents me well enough. Yeah, this forum is like a dating site so I get it why people want to see "actual faces" in profiles, but this site is much more than dating. Some people are not ready for the dating scene or sharing something so personal like their face just yet. Then there are other reasons like previous comments have made in this thread. People have their preferences and that's ok. For me, it's kind of fun to see what others put as their profile that isn't just a selfie because it shows their personality or interest. I like the variety 😄

[Littlemiddle]

Mine is me and my new squishy stuffie.. maybe some people just arnt comfortable or just don't want to.. I personally don't always feel as comfortable with people who don't post one..

Edited September 2, 2022 by Littlemiddle

[LittleKitty9]

3 hours ago, andrielisilien said:

I put partially of my face because I didn't know what other photo or even what image I wanted to have to represent me. I have been thinking of changing it now that I have figured myself out more but I just can't be bothered 😅 I think it represents me well enough. Yeah, this forum is like a dating site so I get it why people want to see "actual faces" in profiles, but this site is much more than dating. Some people are not ready for the dating scene or sharing something so personal like their face just yet. Then there are other reasons like previous comments have made in this thread. People have their preferences and that's ok. For me, it's kind of fun to see what others put as their profile that isn't just a selfie because it shows their personality or interest. I like the variety 😄

I hear you re the face being personal. Wow it so fucking is. It's actually quite vulnerable. Thanks for sharing

[LittleKitty9]

3 hours ago, Littlemiddle said:

Mine is me and my new squishy stuffie.. maybe some people just arnt comfortable or just don't want to.. I personally don't always feel as comfortable with people who don't post one..

Stuffffie💗

[Cebakes]

11 hours ago, LittleKitty9 said:

I hear you re the face being personal. Wow it so fucking is. It's actually quite vulnerable. Thanks for sharing

All anyone has to do is click on someone’s pics and they can copy and save them. People need to always remember that.  So many pervy people and scammers out there, here as well. 

[LittleKitty9]

I didn't think of that at all. Eeeeuw.

[PocketSand]

Haha well it's the internet whatever you post it's there forever. And on forums you can't trust everybody. Actually I would say on any platform you can't trust everybody. But I would say the major social media platforms are pretty secure in terms of catching bots and spammers. 

Can't really say the same about every forum. I've had a couple people message me asking for my phone number and to chat else where. Which to me is always a red flag. Cause you know stranger danger lol. 

[Guest Ion1234]

Some say its because a security thing. I am a guy so I guess I dont understand that. A pic of you doesnt show you and your address or whatever. But as you see guys most of the time do have their pic up. Now if its a privacy thing then really people should like you for you and you shouldnt have to hide your lifestyle.