DaddysMonkey Posted September 6, 2022 Report Posted September 6, 2022 (edited) ……… *waves* Hi. As many of you know , I fall into these weird little rabbit holes in my brain. I’ll start with a very simple thought and it will bloom into this spider web of manic thoughts and questions. Usually I figure it out on my own and just wade through my thoughts and answer my own questions via research or my own theories. Every now and then I’ll need to reach further than that to get a broad idea of the answers I’m looking for. In those cases , that usually means I need to write a topic and ask a you all for your thoughts and opinions. I love to read , I love learning about people , and their habits , about their lives and personalities , and peoples curiosities or asking for advice and help , all in relation to this lifestyle. So , it excites me that this site has been changing and growing the way that it has. The sites had a lot of improvements and new features for people to take advantage of. One of those features is the easily accessible “unread” area. Yes , you can filter what you’re looking for by specifically choosing areas to look at for unread content. I prefer not to do that for some reason , don’t ask why *shrug*. Monkey brain. What I notice is a HUGE chunk of the unread content when you leave it unfiltered , is personal ads. I have no qualms with people looking for love … it’s a beautiful thing. It guess it just created another rabbit hole for me to fall down. Is that all the majority of people are here for ? Looking for a partner ? Why do a large chunk of the people who only have personals or replies to personals have a big lack of other content on their profiles ? There is also a large number of people I notice that mention how lonely they are in this community , whether that be friends or romantic partners. There is so much content here to make friends through , to state your opinions and find like minded people. There are new features like clubs that people can join and be active in and not feel so lonely. So , why not take advantage of all that’s here on this site ? It boggles me that there is so much to do here , whether it’s already here or you want to start something yourself.. you would think that if you are looking for a partner or friend you would *want* to be more active. Maybe that’s just me though , I understand that everyone has a different way of thinking and doing things. If I were looking for more friends or a romantic partner and I was using this site to do so , I would be more like to engage with people who are active. It would be a red flag in my eyes that person only has a personal and replies to other personals on their content feed. Especially if they have a huge collections of followers. (Formerly a friends list.) I’m horrible at making friends , especially in real life. This forum has given me a place where I can find those like minded people even if we don’t speak everyday , that can understand my thought process and even open my mind to other thoughts that they have. It’s like being a sitting duck in my eyes I suppose , doing nothing with all this site provides. Why not flap your little duckie feet under the water , what’s the worst thing that happens ? You move and find another duck ? Why are you on this forum ? What does it bring you ? What do you feel that you bring the forum ? ~ Why are you on this forum ? I’m on this forum to provide my point of view on serious (or not so serious) topics , to help educate newcomers of the dangers this lifestyle can bring , giving advice to questions people may have. I’m here to help , to provide laughter and fun , and some sass to those that might need it. I’m also here to make casual friends along the way.. maybe even close friends if I get past the whole I think everyone secretly hates my guts thing. I’m here for the tomboys , the ones that might not to fit into any stereotypical boxes this lifestyle seems to have. I’m here because I feel it brings me a sense of accomplishment and purpose when someone really appreciates my thought provoking posts and questions. ~ What does it bring you ? The forum brings me a sense of community. I may not like or get along with everyone in this community , but that wouldn’t stop me from scalping someone who tried to bully said people for being in this lifestyle. It brings me a sense or purpose to protect and help educate when I have the knowledge to. It brings a sense of a fucked up little family , with lots of fights that get diffused with a bucket of water over the head. ~ What do you feel that you bring the forum ? Pffft. I don’t fucking know really. I try my best to bring a sense of comfort and understanding to others even if I come off really aggressive sometimes. I’m here to bring a sense of realness to this lifestyle , a realistic view of what it means to be in this lifestyle to me. I try to dismantle the fairytale people sometimes get lost in. I feel I bring a sense of logic. Thanks as always for reading my manic thoughts , and indulging with me if you do. Edited September 6, 2022 by DaddysMonkey 11
WigglyBun Posted September 6, 2022 Report Posted September 6, 2022 I wonder this toooo! Why are you on this forum ? I was lonely. To find friends. To feel accepted in a safe space. Information. The order switches around a lot. I might elaborate on this better on a day where I have taken my meds & my thoughts aren't ping-ponging around my brain at the speed of light. What does it bring you ? UNBRIDLED JOY. Like, honestly, most of the time I am just pleased as punch to be here. A large part of that is the chat room and the people I have talked to and made friends with from there. I also enjoy a lot of the topics as well, and enjoy the conversations from it. I've also learned a lot here that I don't think I would have found naturally on my own (or if I had it would have been through a lot of personal trial & error). Just being in a space where it's okay to let this side of me out is such a happy & comfortable feeling. What do you feel that you bring the forum ? Hopefully I bring others some sort of happiness or joy, whether it's through chatting, messaging here or other places, or through forum posts, etc. I try to post helpful & insightful things when I'm able to contribute, and I hope it actually is helpful and insightful. lol Though, with being autistic idk how well that comes across...lol 5
shadowrider Posted September 6, 2022 Report Posted September 6, 2022 Well said as always. Even though we are not a dating site that seems to be what the majority of new sign ups want to treat us as. I won't go into my feelings about that section or how people choose to try and find a partner. But I will agree that from those I have talked to that are searching, they prefer an active member to a post an ad and run type. I also agree with kicking your little feet and seeing how many ducks you might bump into. I'm a green head btw 🦆 We have years of knowledge inside these pages and I for one like reading other people's ideas and opinions and life stories. And yes with the new clubs and chat back there are even more things to do and ways to learn about people. I'm also a people watcher so I like learning about others. I'll keep my answers short, or short by my standards, cus you know I can run on lol Why are you on this forum ? I took that left at Albuquerque and ended up here. I was looking for something and ended up finding this place I now call home. Once I knew there were more people that feel the way I do I had to hang around and learn everything I could about the lifestyle and the many types of people in it. The longer I was here the more it felt like home. What does it bring you ? Most times it brings me a sense of peace and happiness, while other times it's not as pleasant. Seeing and reading some of the things people are going through/have gone through, or how they treat each other can be hard on an empath. But for the most part y'all rock and I love ya. What do you feel that you bring the forum ? Occasionally a laugh, or groan, depending on who you talk to. I'd like to think I bring some fun and a sense of security to the forum. My goal would be for everyone to feel as welcome as I was made to feel when I joined. 6
Guest ravenpuff321 Posted September 7, 2022 Report Posted September 7, 2022 Thanks for putting this this out in the universe. It was good to stop and remind myself of why I signed up and what effort I'm making to be part of the community. Why are you on this forum ? To meet new friends and learn more about the lifestyle What does it bring you ? A sense of community and connection I've not been able to find in my everyday life What do you feel that you bring the forum ? Hopefully a friendly face and a kind word or a shoulder for others to lean on
Sloth Fairy Posted September 7, 2022 Report Posted September 7, 2022 You've asked the questions I think a lot of people have probably asked about people's behavior on here. I don't understand why people just lurk and follow but don't interact. It does seem suspect. Of course the people who lurk and follow probably don't read half the posts on here and most likely won't respond. Why are you on this forum ? I wanted to learn more about myself and learn other's take on cgl. Everyone is different so I love learning different perspectives. What does it bring you ? A sense of belonging. Not feeling like I'm alone in my awesome weirdness but that there are a whole bunch of other awesome weirdos in the world. What do you feel that you bring the forum ? I don't know, hopefully an open mind, open heart , and friendship. 4
LeftyGuitar Posted September 7, 2022 Report Posted September 7, 2022 Well I initially came to the site as I did a search for MDLB. I found this site. I saw there was a few topic on MDLB and a personal sub-section. I thought well I try making a personal and try finding a mommy. Also, other little friends is nice. I thought there might be more info on MDLB, but I think that both DDLG and MDLB are niche in the BDSM space, with MDLB being even more niche, but I digress. I like that it is a forum. Forums are a dying breed. Its nice to chat with others and get suggestions, add your own advice, see what other people think, etc. I remember back in the day forums were a cool place to hang with other like minded people. I think they peaked in the mid-2000s and then died off as smart-phones became more common. I don't know what I bring to the forum. I can offer my own advice from past experiences and opinions. I try to be nice and helpful around the forums. 4
Andriel_Isilien Posted September 7, 2022 Report Posted September 7, 2022 7 hours ago, DaddysMonkey said: Why are you on this forum ? What does it bring you ? What do you feel that you bring the forum ? Fantastic questions, Monkey. 😄 I love it! ❤️❤️❤️ I am on the forum because I wanted to give little me a second chance. I have finally come to terms with the hurt that my ex-husband (also my daddy) abandoned me after a drug induced psychosis and months of mental abuse. I wasn't ready at the beginning of this year, and still am not ready, for dating but I saw this forum is much more than the personals section. Notice that I have never posted an ad on here. So, sorry to all the doms that have been trying to follow/message. 😓 Trust me, I have to acknowledge that this little is currently NOT available for good reason. It was the topics of discussions and sharing of ideas that pulled me in to make an account. I was hesitant for a long time, but I finally decided to jump in. I'm so glad I did. This forum brings to me a support group. For me, I see a lot of parallels here like someone who is in recovery. Checking in to interact whether that's on something silly, serious, or inspiring has done a lot for my mental health the past few months. I don't feel alone and I can be myself here. I can learn from other people's stories, their perspectives, and discover myself more. This hasn't replaced professional help by no means but is a valuable addition in the sense of having a community again. Because of my ex, the community that I once had he stripped away from me slowly over the years. I don't know when I will feel ready to get my "old community" back without traumatizing myself (it's complicated). So, for now, this forum brings that sense of "I have found my people". I didn't intend to bring "anything" to this forum at first. But in seeing the questions and topics people talked about here I discovered how much I related to them. I then saw a purpose for my pain at long last. I don't want to give credit that my trauma made me better person. But perhaps my trauma can help someone else. Even if it's just to validate someone else's hurt, fears, confusion, or whatever hard feelings they are going through. That has been a reason I can sit with for now while I still heal. I kinda feel like a big sister. 😊 I like it. 6
Barney048 Posted September 7, 2022 Report Posted September 7, 2022 (edited) ~ Why are you on this forum ? Hmm I guesse initially I also came here in hope of finding a little/middle/sub. However I quickly realized that it's not really what I want nor is it something that will fulfill me on it's own. And things like love and what not are best left to happen naturally. Once you are happy and content on your own, you'll attract the most suitable partners, so everyone should just work on themself foremost. Now I'm just on the forum to kill time and silently pass judgement on to others. Tho sometimes that judgement is not so silent :$ I like interacting with likeminded individuals. The majority of society is still very much closed minded. I don't blame them, it's how they were brought up and how the media directs them. It takes a lot of strength to be true to yourself and express how you really feel about things. So I guesse the reason I stayed here for as long as I did is because most people in my everyday life can't really relate to me in many aspects, so I compensate for that on here. ~ What does it bring you ? Well like I mentioned above, it's a place where I can be fully understood. I don't really care about being accepted for what I'm like, but I do have a strong desire to be understood. Most people are dismissive of any kind of lifestlyle choice that is outside of the norm, even if they lowkey want these things themself. ~ What do you feel that you bring the forum ? What I bring to the forum is the tough love approach. Most people here just give unconditional support to whatever the subject matter may be. Is that the right thing to do? Sure, sometimes. But in most cases you are just enabling the person's toxic behaviour. That's when I take the carrot that was given to them and ruthlessly beat them with a stick. It's only logical 🖖 Edited September 7, 2022 by Barney048 4
Vampiress Posted September 8, 2022 Report Posted September 8, 2022 Why are you on this forum ? I came here after realizing that I very much identified with being a little, and I wanted to take a deep dive into learning and immersing myself in the lifestyle. Since then I have learned quite a bit, and now I like to help pass along what I have learned while still continuing that ongoing education. I also enjoy the community and seeing how other people have found their place within it in their own unique ways. It's great to have similarly minded people with a common interest to interact with in a safe environment, because this is not something many other people understand. What does it bring you ? Being here gives me a sense of community and safety. I feel like this is a place I can express myself when I wish, and that it is a place I will be understood in ways that I am not understood anywhere else. What do you feel that you bring the forum ? I think that I bring a blend of being supportive and empathetic while also being a bit blunt with my honesty. I don't think it helps to sugarcoat things for people, and if I have something to say it's usually with the intent to get their brain working and considering different facets of the subject. I want to see people grow in a positive direction, and if I can help push them in that direction then that's awesome. 5
seawayTremor Posted September 9, 2022 Report Posted September 9, 2022 Hi guys! This is a really fantastic conversational topic, and one that I would actually like to put my two cents into. Believe it or not, I'm one of those mentioned 'lurkers'. Hopefully this gives a bit of insight to the more 'active' members here. Why are you on this forum? As mentioned, I don't have a lot of time. I'm not a huge poster, and when I do post I like to be very clear with what I am saying and why I am saying it. When I say something, it's because I have a lot to say. This means I need to sink more time into a post than I usually have and put more energy forward than I am willing to expend. I am on this forum so that I can feel like I'm a part of a community, because when things go rough in life they go rough hard and at least then I feel like I'm not some one-off freak that needs to stay in a bubble of normalcy. When DDlg friends went down, to be honest I was kind of thankful. The toxicity, vanity and pettiness that was floating around that website was excessive and that's what led me to finding this particular forum. What does it bring you? This site brings me connection. It gives me a chance to vent out my frustrations if I need to, and it provides me with an entire community of people who would willingly and constructively give me perspective on things I don't understand. The variety of different takes from mostly mature individuals always helps me be more open which will help me become my best self in my personal opinion. Another thing that this forum brings me is a distraction. It's easy to spend a couple of minutes just seeing how other people are doing and what's up in the community. What do you bring the forum? This is a bit tricky. Most of my brain is screaming 'absolutely nothing', but I like to believe that every now and again I can provide answers to hopefully help someone else put things into perspective in the same way that others help me. I'd like to say that I'm entertaining, but mostly I'm just wordy. I bring open-mindedness, kindness, and a willingness to communicate in an honest way. It might not be much, but that's all that I have to offer as life is right now. 5
LoverEcho Posted September 9, 2022 Report Posted September 9, 2022 (edited) Why are you on this forum ? I've been on and off the forum since 2016, each time for different reasons. When I returned this time, it was because I felt a disconnect within myself and traced it to missing the lifestyle. I felt that coming back to the forum would allow me to be around others who enjoy the lifestyle as I do and help to mend that disconnect. My aim when I returned was to be more active and I feel I have done that. What does it bring you ? My answer to this feeds off my answer to first question: it allows me to be around others who enjoy a lifestyle that isn't the norm. Reading through the forum also allows me to see different perspectives, which benefits me greatly as I don't like to let myself stagnate. I am always in search of knowledge and a deeper understanding of everything around me. I, of course, have firm set views on some things, but I keep myself open-minded as I peruse different posts. What do you feel that you bring the forum ? I feel that I bring a couple things to the forum. One would be an objective opinion. I've always known the site to often have users come looking for answers to various things. When a topic comes up that I feel I can add something too, I pop my opinion down. If it doesn't help the poster, it might help someone else, if not that's okay too. I feel I can also offer support. At the end of the day, we are all people and we go through things both related to the lifestyle and outside of it. I can offer my empathy to those that are struggling regardless of if I've gone through a similar thing. Edited September 9, 2022 by LoverEcho 4
Guest Posted September 9, 2022 Report Posted September 9, 2022 Yee goodie... I really love these types of topics cuz its like...an assignment to complete i guess... clear, organized questions to answer... welll without further ado: Why are you on this forum ? Friends and people watching.... ok that sounds really creepy i know... but i am absolutely fascinated by people and how people interact... you may act one way with a certain person and completely "change your spots" with someone else... its always intrigued me so i guess i find this forum the epitome of seeing how people interact. YEs you can see a huge communities interact on reddit, discord, etc but this place is so well constructed that most people are very respectful and supportive to each other, that i just absolutely love to see how everyone responds and acts to one another. What does it bring you ? well other than the happiness it brings me to be part of such a sweet community.. it also makes me feel a bit safer to open myself up to this side of myself. In my RL theres only one person who knows my middle side, and while its amazing to have his supports, its also nice to be able to join this forum and have so many reaching out with kindness and friendship. What do you feel that you bring the forum ? oof.... this is always one of those questions that really trips me up. its like when your asked in an interview "what do you think you can bring to this company" or "what are your best qualities".... welll ... uh... i can stuff 10 marshmallows in my mouth without choking ^-^ lol jk well i think i bring a kind listening ear to this forum, im usually someone who loves to help others when they reach out to me so i guess thats what i bring here.... and maybe a fun sense of humor if you like very weird off topic references to media with a twist of dark humor...
Little kaiya Posted September 9, 2022 Report Posted September 9, 2022 Why are you on this forum ? Hmm, that's a good question. I has been with my Daddy before joining so it certainly wasn't the finding a partner or dating side of things. I think it's more to connect with people in the community to share and exchange resources. It's also to try and bring some light happy emotion topics as well as educate. Being genderfluid and olde there are folks who seem to think people like myself don't fit in DDlg and I'm here to show that's just untrue. What does it bring you ? Usually happiness in connecting with folks on a topic that can be misunderstood but also sometimes frustration when I see people gatekeeping or concern when I see new folks jumping into risky behaviors like calling someone with zero or 1 post Daddy within hours of meeting. What do you feel that you bring the forum ? Hopefully useful information and failing that hopefully a smile. At 44, I don't really have the time or patience for drama or people putting others down so perhaps I also bring a bit of no nonsense to the table too. 5
snugglebugblue Posted September 13, 2022 Report Posted September 13, 2022 Why are you on this forum? Well today is day 3 of me having covid, so comfort and community pushed me to make an account somewhere I feel likeminded people are. I'm into looking for a partner but also just looking for friends too, having someone I can send links to cute things I want but will never purchase. Hopefully this community will help give me some relief from the stresses of work and school when I'm all better too. What does it bring you? Not sure yet as I'm still so knew, but so far the comfort that I'm not a weirdo is already relieving What do you feel that you bring to the forum? I hope I bring some positive energy and a happy spirit! Even when feeling icky 1
XxRavenxX Posted September 18, 2022 Report Posted September 18, 2022 I agree with everything you said! Why are you on this forum? It's a very long and complicated answer so I apologize in advance! I only have 1 person to share being little with and for most of my life everyone including myself thought I was just weird and needed to grow up. As soon as I found this community and my place in it for the first time in a very long time I had a sense of belonging. I just joined this site recently because I have a genuine fear of people and society in general so up until this point I was too afraid, but I don't want to regret passing up the chance to potentially make a friend that I can share little memories with. I've always wanted to have play dates or play games with other littles but I would probably get too nervous and embarrassed so websites like this allow me to feel involved without worrying about judgement. What does it bring you? A home. Sorry to sound so cheesy but littlespace is the only way I can feel happiness and it's been that way for many years so having a place like this to connect with other littles and people who understand mental illness is like having a home. I can feel comfortable here, learn about myself, develop basic skills that I've lost through years of self isolation, have people to talk about childish things with, and so much more. I'm not used to being around this many people that love the same things I do so it really gave me a different perspective on myself and who I really am. What do you feel that you bring to the forum? I hope I can give people someone to relate to. I'm not a very social person but I have been through a lot and I understand the severe side of a lot of disorders so anyone who is in a bad place might feel less alone. We can all come together, forget about our problems and just live in this space for a while, surrounded by cotton candy clouds and warm embraces 💜 2
Onesie Posted September 28, 2022 Report Posted September 28, 2022 I think we're all here because we are looking for people with the same type of life style to relate to. I think even the people in my Domestic Discipline group would be shocked at some of the rules, punishments and policies my Daddy/husband and I have . Here, I can say he bathes, dresses and feeds me. That when he's out of town, he sends one of his brothers to make sure I'm wearing what he ordered, doing my chores, taking my naps, going to bed on time. I can talk about being demoted from a little to a baby when I'm really bad and having to wear diapers and suck a bottle and aren't allowed to talk And here is the only place. 1
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