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So, my daddy and I are no longer-as I mentioned before. This weekend he decided he wanted to discuss things even though we had pretty much agreed it was over. So he came over and it was immediately obvious he wasn't in any frame of mind to work through anything. Bingo. Within 2 minutes he was leaving and calling very vulgar names. Ok. It sucks but I am ready to just get to the healing process. But. NO. He sends me texts and is calling me yesterday. I didn't answer them. Until the 11 pm phone calls- which I didn't answer, but then he texted and said he was in my driveway. I texted back that I was unable to come out and that I felt there was nothing more I could say. Long story short-now he wanted to " talk" and I didn't. For more than one reason. First because he just gets pissy and leaves when my issues are brought up. He doesn't want to deal. Also- I AM SICK. Again. I can't stay out of the restroom for more than maybe 30 minutes if I am lucky, and I'm in A LOT of pain. I just don't know what to do. I haven't heard a peep out of him today which is good. But I don't know if I want to talk to him if he texts again. I love him. Deeply. But he has so many issues he won't deal with and I can't live with the choices he is making. Being sick and in pain makes me want to take him back. But I know it's just because I'm hurting so bad.

Sorry about my rambling. I'm just a little without a daddy and not Adulting well right now

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Anyone who isn't interested in hearing your side of things isn't worth your time or effort.

 

Relationships are two sided, 50/50 and you should go with your gut on this one.

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I really hope I don't come off asshole-y as I can feel in how much pain you are and don't want to contribute to the negative emotions in any way. I don't know his story, I don't know the details, so what I'm saying might not be reasonable at all, but... I think for now, while you're still emotionally overwhelmed you should just keep your distance from him, tell him you need some space and time to think stuff through and get into a healthier mindset, I'm sure he'd understand and if he doesn't respect it you owe him nothing.

 

In this "thinking things through" time, I'd suggest you do the exact opposite, try to chase him out of your thoughts and focus on things that make you happy as a single individual, be that as little or generally as person. You should always be your priority and until you feel better both mentally and physically, try not to give him any more attention.

 

Now after you get yourself back together, maybe rethink the situation, what he did wrongly, what you did wrongly, do you want to be with this person, is he bettering you, is this healthy, all those simple question. After you answer them for yourself, maybe have the talk with him, because at the end of the day, he's a person and deserves to make peace with the events as well. 

 

If you ever need someone to just listen to your problems and maybe give some comfort as best as they can, I'd be here (though I'm a complete stranger to you at this point in time, but never hurts to have someone willing to listen) and I'm sure you'll find being around the lovely people from this community at least a bit helpful. ^.^ 

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I'm very sorry you're going through such a hard time. I went through a divorce a few years ago after 12 years of marriage and I know it can be very scary and painful. Let yourself be sad for awhile, be with friends and family, baby yourself. And I'm very sorry he is being unkind and acting unstable at the moment!

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Well, I don't know the full story, but you both agreed to end the relationship and from what I picked up, you both can't deal with eachother problems and or personality. The names calling was really unneccasary, unneeded and just hurtful. I have no idea if you read his texts, but if they were mean and just to bring you down further, I'd suggest to focus on yourself and try healing. Have someone close, friend/family to talk to and for support, cry as much you want. Heartbreaks are always tough.

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He really isn't good from the words you say. If he cannot respect understand you he for sure is not worth. Relationship is based on real love, care, respect from your words it seems he does not have quality in him. Sorry if my words are little harsh kind but the guy you call daddy does not seem to know what it means. Yes relationship breaks but there must be some real issue. Try to let go and be yourself. Not don't past hurt you. Remember you are strong, beautiful so just be yourself, love yourself more and then you find love showering from all corners.
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Let it go. This is a very toxic and pointless "relationship". Download a free number blocking app, get rid of all forms of communication. Move on. Its over before it even starts.

It will go on forever if you let it, and you will be miserable forever.

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Hey, I just wanted to say because I don't think anyone has given you credit. You should feel proud of yourself. You're sick, in pain and going through a hard break up but it sounds like you're keeping it together, you're standing strong and you're not letting him manipulate you. Keep it up of you have to just start ignoring all calls and messages for your own sanity then so be it. Good luck
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Thank you for that. What makes this so hard is that we have been together for most of the past 25 years. We were actually married for 13. Divorced and decided to give it a go again. But he has some major issues that he doesn't want to address. I love him more than I can even describe. But i know things can't go on the way they are. It sucks. To say the least.
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How are you doing, nobodysprincess?

 

I am sorry you are going through this. I agree with the earlier posts. You do NOT have to take that kind of treatment from anybody. If somebody, whether it be a Daddy, a traditional boyfriend, a friend, or anyone else, behaves like that...make it clear that you will talk to them when they can settle down and treat you decently....and if that takes them three hours or three months...so be it. In the meantime, go about your business and treat yourself well. 

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