Is it possible for love to find you?

[Guest Crafty]

I'm asking this question because I'm exhausted from looking for the right person and this been going on for some years now. Even when I'm not looking, it makes it not possible to meet someone as well. From all the searching and being exhausted it sorta makes me not want to get to know people as much because I'm afraid of wasting eachother time and there would be no connection. Maybe I'm doing something wrong or maybe I may need to not search and just let love find me.. if it's even possible.

[LoverEcho]

The simple fact is that you never know. You can spend all of your time on dating sites and never make a meaningful connection or walk into a random shop and find the connection you’re searching for. If you are finding yourself exhausted from searching, maybe it’s time to take a step back and focus on yourself. 
 

You could also take a step to reframe it. If you are starting every connection searching for something, you’re holding yourself to these expectations that can dull the interactions you are having. Getting to know a person doesn’t need to have an end goal. We can learn things from each other and you never know, that growth could lead you to the person you’re searching for. 

Edited November 20, 2022 by LoverEcho
Typo, grammar

[Little kaiya]

I firmly believe love can find you. I found my Daddy when I most definitely was not looking. I was happily married for 11 years and had never considered polyamory whatsoever. He and I met at a furry conference and had an instant attraction. He asked if I wanted to date, I talked to my Wife, all parties agreed and now almost 5 years later we are looking at having a commitment ceremony which my Wife has offered to officiate, my mom loved Him, my closest friends are fully supportive and I talk openly about our relationship at work. 

So, yes, I firmly believe love can find you when you aren't seeking it.

[beanbean]

i think so . just don't rush it .us as people tend to rush things and never wait .patience is important just let things fall where they fall,i know annoying advice lol

[Guest Crafty]

@LoverEcho thank you! You are right about not knowing till it actually happens. I think this is what I needed to hear. 🙂

@Little kaiyathanks for sharing your story. I heard that when you arent looking then someone unexpectedly shows up.. but I didnt know how true it was. But your story confirms that it's possible it can happen. 

 

@beanbean no, the advice isn't annoying. It's good advice actually, because it's good to not rush. They say patience is key (just realize you said something totally similar lol). And thank you for giving me this advice, as it made me realize I shouldnt rush anything. 😁

 

[(not) Narancia]

I think it is absolutely rational to be weary of making connections knowing that it can lead it pain/heartbreak/disappointment etc. I also believe those connections are worth it. I don't want to lose out on friendships because i was too scared of what consequences the friendship *might* bring. Screw it. I regret many things but putting myself out there is not one of them. I will not hold my own happiness hostage just to make sure i won't get hurt. 

I will get hurt. I will lose friends and maybe even partners down the road. That's a chance im willing to take if it means i can be myself with people i care about.

Yes, this is rambly. No, you're not wrong for being weary. Take everything at your own pace. You know yourself better than anyone else.

[Guest LittleBe]

“I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there so much but at least that means that I still care. Oh! You think you’ve won because women are expendable to you. You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way but you don’t fall in love that way either. You have not won. You’re alone. I may do a lot of stupid shit but I’m still a lot closer to love than you are.” 

Your post remembered me of this quote from He's just not that into you... Love can find u for sure but if u want to find it by yourself it's okay I'm sure you'll learn a lot from other people or about what you want/don't want in a relationship, everything is an experience that you can learn from! So I'll say if u are tired, just take a break and enjoy the beautiful things in your life and have fun! And if u want to start looking for someone again just do it and enjoy the ride and if u want to wait do it! 🥰 

It's not like you have to take a decision forever, you can change your mind anytime 

Do what make you happy that's all that matters 🌟

 

Edited November 20, 2022 by LittleBe

[Andriel_Isilien]

Yes, it is possible. 💗 I say this because this year love is finding me from within myself. It was there the whole time; I just needed to step away to focus on me.

[Redneck-Kitty]

Yup yup yup I found my Little/partner @EntityLvrwhen I wasn't looking