Questions for Daddies?

[Guest Fae ME]

Hello Everyone, 

I found some nice questionnaire for Daddies. Ask yourself and whenever you feel your little is behaving odd or differently. 

However I did not frame these questions. Providing the link below for copyright protection. Hope you all like it.

Source: https://pin.it/3H4Sa0M

[Little kaiya]

Some good questions in there. Hopefully there's a similar one for littles as they should know their partner just as well. Relationships are two sided or more 😀

[Guest Fae ME]

1 minute ago, Little kaiya said:

Some good questions in there. Hopefully there's a similar one for littles as they should know their partner just as well. Relationships are two sided or more 😀

No dear. I am learning on DDLG for long. 

If you read DDLG books, you can find that littles basically dominate Daddies. 

Daddies fulfil the wishes of little. We say that Daddies are dominating because they are in charge to fulfil the desire of little. 

Little follow their Daddies till then until when Daddies are feeling them valued. Daddies need to earn their title and little can take away their title at anytime.

Similarly, Daddies has right take away names that they given to their little when on fault, but he must know the past of little before doing so because if little burst like landmine on Daddy, then it will be a loss for both them.

I will try to share more resources on DDLG. 

[Little kaiya]

Hehe, I've been involved with DDlg for over 27 years now and while I will never claim to be an expert I will quite confidently claim to be well versed in many different expressions of DDlg.

You seem to be under the impression that DDlg is expressed in one way only and that is 110% categorically false. Let's take a quick look at some of your statements.

1.  You state, "littles basically dominate daddies". Are there DDlg dynamics of this nature, certainly. Is this the most common form of expression, not by a long shot. If you examine common psychological underpining for a lot of, certainly not all, littles you will notice the don't want to be dominate. They have little or no interest in dominating their partner.

2. You state, "Daddies fulfill the wishes of littles", sure some do but that assumes DDlg relationships are all about the little which is inaccurate. Relationships are multidimensional not one way. Just as some Daddies live to fulfill their littles wishes so do some littkes live to fulfill their Daddies's wishes and desires. Trying to distill adult relationships, and let's be clear that DDlg IS between adults, into a simplistic one way flow is harmful to understanding the complexity of relationships, at best.

3. Just as much as Daddies need to "earn" their title so do littles. A little calling someone Daddy without consent or having, in your words, earned that title is just as problematic as the reverse. The concept of revocation of titles also goes both ways. Caregivers are not obligated to stay with a little if the relationship is toxic or harmful. It isn't a one way street ruled by the little, it is a CONSENTUAL RELATIONSHIP, that both parties need to continue to consent to for it to continue.

4. I saved the, "Daddies have the right to take away names given to their little" until last. Just like a Daddy needs to know their littles past so does the little need to know their Daddy's past. Being a little is not a free pass to do whatever a person wants, "punish" their caregiver which you've stated before, rescind intimacy as a punitive measure or the whole gamut of things you've proposed in other threads. ALL people in the relationship have a say and can renegotiate the relationship at any time, that's called being an adult.

If you are going to share DDlg resources I think that's wonderful; however, making statements thst try to make DDlg appear as one thing o ly is dangerous and harmful. New people may read your posts and assume DDlg must look a certain way or is only expressed one way when thst isn't what they need in THEIR personal relationship. Something to consider.

[Guest Fae ME]

Just a quick question: So you want to say that the concept of DDLG provided in the books is not to be taken seriously because everything you are opposite of the knowledge that can be gained through books?

Edited May 10, 2023 by Fae Tikli

[Guest Fae ME]

12 minutes ago, Little kaiya said:

Hehe, I've been involved with DDlg for over 27 years now and while I will never claim to be an expert I will quite confidently claim to be well versed in many different expressions of DDlg.

You seem to be under the impression that DDlg is expressed in one way only and that is 110% categorically false. Let's take a quick look at some of your statements.

1.  You state, "littles basically dominate daddies". Are there DDlg dynamics of this nature, certainly. Is this the most common form of expression, not by a long shot. If you examine common psychological underpining for a lot of, certainly not all, littles you will notice the don't want to be dominate. They have little or no interest in dominating their partner.

2. You state, "Daddies fulfill the wishes of littles", sure some do but that assumes DDlg relationships are all about the little which is inaccurate. Relationships are multidimensional not one way. Just as some Daddies live to fulfill their littles wishes so do some littkes live to fulfill their Daddies's wishes and desires. Trying to distill adult relationships, and let's be clear that DDlg IS between adults, into a simplistic one way flow is harmful to understanding the complexity of relationships, at best.

3. Just as much as Daddies need to "earn" their title so do littles. A little calling someone Daddy without consent or having, in your words, earned that title is just as problematic as the reverse. The concept of revocation of titles also goes both ways. Caregivers are not obligated to stay with a little if the relationship is toxic or harmful. It isn't a one way street ruled by the little, it is a CONSENTUAL RELATIONSHIP, that both parties need to continue to consent to for it to continue.

4. I saved the, "Daddies have the right to take away names given to their little" until last. Just like a Daddy needs to know their littles past so does the little need to know their Daddy's past. Being a little is not a free pass to do whatever a person wants, "punish" their caregiver which you've stated before, rescind intimacy as a punitive measure or the whole gamut of things you've proposed in other threads. ALL people in the relationship have a say and can renegotiate the relationship at any time, that's called being an adult.

If you are going to share DDlg resources I think that's wonderful; however, making statements thst try to make DDlg appear as one thing o ly is dangerous and harmful. New people may read your posts and assume DDlg must look a certain way or is only expressed one way when thst isn't what they need in THEIR personal relationship. Something to consider.

Just a quick question: So you want to say that the concept of DDLG provided in the books is not to be taken seriously because everything you are opposite of the knowledge that can be gained through books?

[AspiringDaddy]

I have been reading a lot online about DDlg (no books). They're guidelines, and generalisations. All very useful. But, because every relationship is unique, they should be taken with a grain of salt.

By the way @Fae Tikli, that first extract applies a 100% to any relationship (the 2nd part applies for approx. 50%) Significant others are supposed to be caregivers too. 

[Guest Fae ME]

@AspiringDaddy That's why I found doms are different than books. Thanks for clarifying this to me. Otherwise, I would mess up with my life. I thought that Daddies will support little, cook for them, feed them, love them, care for them, and help in making their decision, but it was just my thoughts that I found in books. 

Frankly speaking, I am new to DDLG. I don't have any experience of it. I took books on DDLG literally as took other books and they work for me. For example, Law books, Crocheting design books, Magic books, and other craft books.

So I was thinking why DDLG books are not working like these other books. I understand the whole now. Simply, this is why Family law is so popular and that warns me about the relationship.

One more issue, maybe you are a guy and care for questions of the first section in this questionnaire, but I haven't met a single person (except God) who care about my answers of those questions. No one is even interested to know. If I do not stay strong, then even my parents try to force their choice on me and shout or yell at me when I refuse because I don't like it. 

So I think you are right. I must take DDLG books with a pinch of salt because they don't work in a straightaway and I don't want to mess up with my life. Thanks again.

Edited May 10, 2023 by Fae Tikli

[Little kaiya]

2 hours ago, Fae Tikli said:

Just a quick question: So you want to say that the concept of DDLG provided in the books is not to be taken seriously because everything you are opposite of the knowledge that can be gained through books?

If you read my response I never said anything of the kind. Books are one person's perception or opinion, they don't override the experiences of people. There are multiple avenues of learning and to try and say one avenue is the only right source is flawed and dangerous in my view.

[Guest Fae ME]

43 minutes ago, Little kaiya said:

If you read my response I never said anything of the kind. Books are one person's perception or opinion, they don't override the experiences of people. There are multiple avenues of learning and to try and say one avenue is the only right source is flawed and dangerous in my view.

I read your response which lead me to that question. I am greatful to @AspiringDaddy because he explained very clearly that books are guidelines here and might not be followed literally. 

I am just exploring myself by meeting people and making friendship through this forum because I know that I not comfortable with relationships. 

Your comment and @AspiringDaddy's comments are really enlightening for me. 

As a lawyer or as a Fae, I don't have this experience that books are guidelines and we need to take it with a pinch of salt. 

This statement clarifies Chapter-03 of Shreemad Bhagawat Gita that everything is temporary in this material world. Now I can understand real life experience. 

I am greatful to this forum. Unless I joined here or communicate with you all, I would never understand my inner desires clearly. 

Edited May 10, 2023 by Fae Tikli

[beanbean]

At the end of the day books can only take you so far,and life experience definitely has a role but yes both partners should talk about what they want a lot before they enter in anything and make whatever rules work for them just do you if you want to base it of books or experience or a little bit of both that's okay 

[Erasmeus71]

@Fae Tikli If I had a little that was brat and you just let that one just do whatever they want. Then your doing something wrong. They want to be punished as they want the attention. Now if you keep giving attention perhaps they won't try to want to be punished. There are littles that are submissive. Some more sexual (There is a description of that but I don't like using it). There are some perhaps bullies for a reason, attitude or some that got abused. Some combined into it. All of it yes is attention. 

[Guest Fae ME]

25 minutes ago, Erasmeus71 said:

@Fae Tikli If I had a little that was brat and you just let that one just do whatever they want. Then your doing something wrong. They want to be punished as they want the attention. Now if you keep giving attention perhaps they won't try to want to be punished. There are littles that are submissive. Some more sexual (There is a description of that but I don't like using it). There are some perhaps bullies for a reason, attitude or some that got abused. Some combined into it. All of it yes is attention. 

@Erasmeus71 thanks for sharing. And if you find a little who is not brat, don't want to be punished, and want to be ruled through love and care only, what would you say? 

I know someone who is a brat, but only love can bend her down. If anyone want to punish her, she destroy that person literally. 

Want to know your reaction on it please?

[Erasmeus71]

Will it goes both ways the littles want love and affection . They are lonely. Perhaps some needs. Will the Doms you can look at it this way from a glass mirror since I had a girl I would be married too. Loved pink. Very submissive. She wanted me to hold her hand. Make sure she was dressed properly. Not sure her mother would say anything when she went out. I did not say anything verbally. Just fix her. I did not want anyone to hurt her feelings. I know what it like to have feelings to be hurt also. I would say the girl is the princess and I would be her servant unless she did something wrong and I need to correct her in a nurturing way.

[Erasmeus71]

@Fae Tikli My only problem I could not get Jenny to talk a lot. She was very shy. She seemed like had a writing problem and reading. Worse then my father. My father was maybe 6th grade when it was Reading , writing and math. Jenny I don't think was higher then my father. Even worse. By the way she passed away. Otherwise I would be married to that lovely lady.

[Guest Fae ME]

10 hours ago, Erasmeus71 said:

@Fae Tikli My only problem I could not get Jenny to talk a lot. She was very shy. She seemed like had a writing problem and reading. Worse then my father. My father was maybe 6th grade when it was Reading , writing and math. Jenny I don't think was higher then my father. Even worse. By the way she passed away. Otherwise I would be married to that lovely lady.

@Erasmeus71 if I were in your place, I would marry immediately because she is special in her nature. She cannot read and write as easily as others can, but you can write & read on behalf of her. Secondly, I could take special training, if requires, to understand her and help her to find out her other special qualities that are lying deep inside her like painting & so on. Shyness is not a problem because this is a body language. If I were in your place, I would learn her body language and help her to achieve success in her life. If I were in your place, then I would marry immediately because she needs someone to be protected. If she fall in bad or wrong hands, then I would never be able to pardon myself. 

Apologies again, this is just my point of view. I am not forcing it on anyone. I must say that you are a great person just like your father. Pardon me, if I exceeded my limit of talking.