Reading informational stuff and also DDlg novels

[PRMari]

Hi everyone:

I hope you're all have a great day!

So, although I have tried to educate myself by readying some guides and studies done on DD/lg relationships, I will delve now and then into a novel.  Even though its fictional, it does give me an idea of what the dynamic can be like (although its never as perfect as presented in the story).

But last night, I read a line in the story that really got to me - like right in the center of my heart:

"All of your hurt, pain and fear, give to me - I will make it right."

Not such a big deal, but whoa, what a reaction I got!  I actually cried.  Yep, big ole fat tears coming right down my face - and all over my stuffie.  It got to me so, that I stopped reading and put it away.  This morning, I woke up with residual feelings about it, both emotionally and physically.  I think its because I think its one of the most beautiful things one person can say to another.  I want that - period.

I. AM. SUCH. A. SAP.

Is this just  foolishness or has anyone else felt like that?

Blessings and Blessings,

Mari

[Guest Runa]

Hi Mari!  I don't think it's foolish but I do wonder if it's realistic... honestly, I'm not sure...  I have a rather complicated past and I do feel like my Daddy has accepted all the hurt, fear and pain I've experienced and continues to colour my everyday life.  And I do the same for him.

Yes, I suppose it is a beautiful thing to say to someone.  It made me think of a quote from a movie called Shall We Dance?

Quote

“We need a witness to our lives. There are 8 billion people on the planet … I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything — the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things … all of it, all the time, every day. You're saying, ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.'”

I always thought there was something deeply romantic and true about that quote.  Promising to care about everything.  Like taking all the pain, fear and hurt.

But can one person make it right?  That's where I'm getting tripped up, I guess.

Of course I may be overthinking this and taking it too seriously, hehehe... sorry if that's the case!

 

[AspiringDaddy]

1 hour ago, PRMari said:

All of your hurt, pain and fear, give to me - I will make it right

I think it's a biblical quote. Something that Jesus would say.

As ordinary sinner, I'd say:

I won't promise to make it all right, but I'll give it a honest try.

Edited May 18, 2023 by AspiringDaddy

[Little kaiya]

To me the quote isn't about whether or not that one person can actually make everything alright or not. It's about their desire to try. It's about their willingness to do everything in their power to make everything alright. That is exactly whaymt my Daddy offers to me every single day.

Can He take away my chronic pain, no. Can He stop the hateful looks, comments and threats I receive for being genderfluid, no. Can He remove my depression or my fear, no. BUT when He holds me in His arms. When He rocks me gently when I hurt. When He shields me from others hate and fear because they don't understand my gender identity . . . I know deep in my soul He will do everything He can to the full extent He can to take it all and make it right and THAT is the feeling I get every time He holds me tightly against Him.

I'm not sure if that's what the quote means or if that's the feeling you're talking about but that's what I experience with my Daddy.

[PRMari]

9 hours ago, Little kaiya said:

To me the quote isn't about whether or not that one person can actually make everything alright or not. It's about their desire to try. It's about their willingness to do everything in their power to make everything alright. That is exactly whaymt my Daddy offers to me every single day.

Can He take away my chronic pain, no. Can He stop the hateful looks, comments and threats I receive for being genderfluid, no. Can He remove my depression or my fear, no. BUT when He holds me in His arms. When He rocks me gently when I hurt. When He shields me from others hate and fear because they don't understand my gender identity . . . I know deep in my soul He will do everything He can to the full extent He can to take it all and make it right and THAT is the feeling I get every time He holds me tightly against Him.

I'm not sure if that's what the quote means or if that's the feeling you're talking about but that's what I experience with my Daddy.

I agree 100%¡ you hit the nail on the head and expressed precisely what I wanted to say. Thank you! 

Blessings and blessings

Mari

[Valeska]

Hi @PRMari could you share what novel is it? And if you have spare time, what are those studies about ddlg from? I want to learn too🫶

 

Xoxo,

Valeska

[Cebakes]

3 hours ago, Valeska said:

Hi @PRMari could you share what novel is it? And if you have spare time, what are those studies about ddlg from? I want to learn too🫶

 

Xoxo,

Valeska

I’ve never really been able to find a study on DDLG.  You can find an extensive amount of articles on DDLG on the Internet, authored by sex counselors and psychologists/psychiatrists, with most sharing personal views, what they’ve learned, or anecdotal experiences. 

If you want to learn more about age regression, there are studies available on this topic. Google age regression studies.  I quickly looked at several and didn’t see DDLG mentioned. 

[Valeska]

10 minutes ago, Cebakes said:

I’ve never really been able to find a study on DDLG.  You can find an extensive amount of articles on DDLG on the Internet, authored by sex counselors and psychologists/psychiatrists, with most sharing personal views, what they’ve learned, or anecdotal experiences. 

If you want to learn more about age regression, there are studies available on this topic. Google age regression studies.  I quickly looked at several and didn’t see DDLG mentioned. 

Thank you so much for your reference, I'll look into it. Amongst those articles you've read, which one do you think are resonate with you? 

Edited June 15, 2023 by Valeska

[Cebakes]

23 minutes ago, Valeska said:

Thank you so much for your reference, I'll look into it. Amongst those articles you've read, which one do you think are resonate with you? 

Since there is no true one way with DDLG, many will include views or thoughts that I don’t agree with or never incorporated into my relationships.  I quickly found this article this morning.  It gives a pretty fair and accurate overview of DDLG. Like most articles, there are things I can relate to,  and several terms or thoughts that I don’t agree with.    You can easily find dozens of these articles on the Internet.
 

https://lovegasm.co/blogs/kink/ddlg-psychology-and-controversy

 

 

[Valeska]

1 hour ago, Cebakes said:

Since there is no true one way with DDLG, many will include views or thoughts that I don’t agree with or never incorporated into my relationships.  I quickly found this article this morning.  It gives a pretty fair and accurate overview of DDLG. Like most articles, there are things I can relate to,  and several terms or thoughts that I don’t agree with.    You can easily find dozens of these articles on the Internet.
 

https://lovegasm.co/blogs/kink/ddlg-psychology-and-controversy

 

 

Thank you, i found the article very informative but needed more in depth discussion. For someone who just discovered ddlg, i recommend to read it 

[Kittenlikestocuddle]

On 5/18/2023 at 1:50 PM, PRMari said:

"All of your hurt, pain and fear, give to me - I will make it right."

OMG! This is SO what I want! OMG! Is there a mature man out there who can give me that?! This is why I love ddlg. These feelings and emotions are real from one human to another. There are men (and women) who want to coddle their significant others like this. And I need it! I wish I had known about ddlg BEFORE my first marriage. I never want to be vanilla again! Great line! Thanks for sharing! ❤️

I too love my romance novels. That's actually how I found the bdsm community and then later ddlg! There are many female authors who focus on the bdsm and Daddy themes. 

[PRMari]

3 hours ago, Kittenlikestocuddle said:

OMG! This is SO what I want! OMG! Is there a mature man out there who can give me that?! This is why I love ddlg. These feelings and emotions are real from one human to another. There are men (and women) who want to coddle their significant others like this. And I need it! I wish I had known about ddlg BEFORE my first marriage. I never want to be vanilla again! Great line! Thanks for sharing! ❤️

I too love my romance novels. That's actually how I found the bdsm community and then later ddlg! There are many female authors who focus on the bdsm and Daddy themes. 

Hi there

I was so happy to find this community when I discovered Ddlg and realized I was a Little. This is such a great place to get information and share opinions, all in a safe place. 

When I first joined, I was rocked by the revelation and carried a great deal of shame over the fact that I was as old as I am just finding out who I really was. I had no hope that I would ever find a Daddy. It was a really sad time for me, despite the excitement of the revelation of being a little and learning about it. I can totally relate to those feelings of "why didn't I figure this out before!" 

So I want to tell you is to NEVER give up hope. I have a Daddy now and I'm really happy. We are both fairly new to Ddlg, but we are learning together. He definitely has Daddy traits and he is also older. He brings joy to my life every day and yes, he has taken all of my hurt pain and fear.  He is helping me she'd all those feelings of embarrassment and shame. 

There are great Daddies out there, looking for the right little that can appreciate what they have to offer. 

Hold on to the dream... 

NEVER give up hope. 

Blessings and blessings

Mari

[Winnie89]

On 5/18/2023 at 1:50 PM, PRMari said:

Hi everyone:

I hope you're all have a great day!

So, although I have tried to educate myself by readying some guides and studies done on DD/lg relationships, I will delve now and then into a novel.  Even though its fictional, it does give me an idea of what the dynamic can be like (although its never as perfect as presented in the story).

But last night, I read a line in the story that really got to me - like right in the center of my heart:

"All of your hurt, pain and fear, give to me - I will make it right."

Not such a big deal, but whoa, what a reaction I got!  I actually cried.  Yep, big ole fat tears coming right down my face - and all over my stuffie.  It got to me so, that I stopped reading and put it away.  This morning, I woke up with residual feelings about it, both emotionally and physically.  I think its because I think its one of the most beautiful things one person can say to another.  I want that - period.

I. AM. SUCH. A. SAP.

Is this just  foolishness or has anyone else felt like that?

Blessings and Blessings,

Mari

Every book I've read so far on DDLg relationships has had me questioning everything I knew about relationships in general. What I wouldn't give to just be able to find Little space and have someone hold me and tell me I'm safe, protected and loved. The feelings I get from the books are so strong. Why can't we all just have a Daddy or Mommy to just tell us that from time to time? The world is a scary place and for some people, it's impossible to live in it because safety is such a key feeling and we don't ever get to feel it. Shoot. Im about to make myself cry just thinking about it.

Anyhow, it's not foolish. It's a valid feeling. We strive to be happy in life, to feel loved and safe. What's a girl gotta do to have that?

[Kittenlikestocuddle]

To: PRMari

OMG! You have me smiling like a Cheshire cat right now! Those were very encouraging words and to see you happy and meeting a Daddy in your golden years is absolutely amazing and wonderful. You're an inspiration to littles of all ages that it's never too late! I've been divorced since I was 25 (experienced marriage too young and it didn't last). I'm tired of being alone and can't wait until I find the Daddy that was meant just for me ❤️. Thanks to ddlg this time around it will be more fulfilling connection wise and emotionally for me and him. And yes, each and everyday I hope for someone to grow old with me. I'm 38. I still have my 40s and 50s and so on to share with someone. Thank you so much for sharing your very relevant story. Littles who are waiting need to hear things like this. It does give us hope! Also, I will say don't be ashamed to be who you are. I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't tell you I was talking to me too when I say that. I too am adjusting to me realizing and other people knowing what I always felt within myself. But I'm even more happy and excited to be on this new journey of self discovery than anything. Good luck to you Dear and ENJOY THAT DADDY! ❤️

Kittenlikestocuddle ❤️