Daddy...does he really like....??

[PRMari]

Question to Daddies out there:

I'm pretty new to this and very curious, sooooo

Does a Daddy really like to spend time with their little? Really, really?I'm talking a verbal interactive Little that may want to play or cuddle. I ask because some communications I've had generally seem to focus on the submissive nature during sexual intimacy and not a lot about that part of the dynamic. 

Do you have like a time limit where you want her out of little space or are you content to let her be for the time she needs? 

I read lots of articles, but there's no substitute for real experience. 

Thanks everyone.

Blessings and blessings 

Mari

[STLMike]

Hey Mari,

Each is different so I can only speak about myself. I do and have with someone here in terms of verbal interaction and such. We color and such, no cuddles.. yet. We talk about EVERYTHING under the sun from our days to work, to our lives to whatever we want to talk about when we want to you know.

I'm not going to tell her when or when she can't go into her space. That is her space and whenever she feels like she wants to go into it that is fine by me I'm not going to limit how much time she can go into it or how many times if that makes sense.

[Little kaiya]

I can honestly say my Daddy 110% truly and absolutely lives when I'm little. From how soft and peaceful His smile gets. To how He gently strokes my hair and the bridge of my nose. To His laughs of delight and 😊 when I hide behind a stuffie or giggle. He is just so genuinely happy and satisfied in His body language, speech, actions and more, whenever I'm little. 

When it comes to littlespace He doesn't set time limits. He just let's me be me and loves every minute of it for however long it happens.

[Andriel_Isilien]

This is a really good question to ask because everyone has their own definition on what being the role looks like for them. I have heard Daddydoms explain this being rewarding and fulfilling for them; that to look after their little is how they can unwind. This would be very important for me to know because I need to be able to be myself without the stigma that I'm being annoying or a burden. There are other contributing factors on what a person needs and can give in a relationship but again, great topic to discuss!

[AspiringDaddy]

6 hours ago, DaddyMike85 said:

I'm not going to tell her when or when she can't go into her space. That is her space and whenever she feels like she wants to go into it that is fine by me I'm not going to limit how much time she can go into it or how many times if that makes sense.

Seconded

It's not up to Daddy to decide how she should feel.

Any time spent with my partner, little or big, is quality time. Of course a LDR is different, so even spending a lot of time online, is never enough.

 

[Cebakes]

I crave face to face time. Cant get enough of it.  There are no rules about time limits or what is going to happen or when it will end. The majority of my face to face time is outside of the bedroom.  I mean, you can only spend so much time in the bedroom.  I get tremendous satisfaction by just sitting on the sofa and rubbing my middle’s legs while she is reading a book.

I would view it as a red flag or area of caution if a caregiver was overly focused on time limits.  Being honest, unless you are pressed for time, I’ve never heard of time limits or bringing them up.

 The  sexual side of a DDLG relationship is just one part of a relationship,  and I would be concerned if a daddy didn’t focus on all the other critical non sexual aspects of a relationship.  
 

For the past four or five days I’ve been chatting with a 35 year old woman, beautiful, comes from a traditional Asian American family, highly educated, with a successful business career who felt she wanted a “daddy”.   I met her on FEELD, which is a good site for d/s, DDLG, and kinky folks.  She had no idea what DDLG was.   I explained to her my vision of DDLG and what a daddy is and really got to the bottom of why she wanted an older daddy.  

She’s gone from telling me how private she is, saying she does not share her childhood with partners,  doesn’t want that to define her, to telling me she had to grow up fast, no strong protective father figure, and has childhood trauma.  I now know she wants to badly open up about her past, seeks a mentor, and a protector.

Last night was the first time we chatted about sex.   I opened up by telling her, while she never said she was submissive , that I could tell she is submissive.  Told her my vision of a d/s DDLG relationship and that opened  the door for her to discuss her limited dating experiences,  desires in the bedroom, and several significant things she is hoping to overcome or learn in the bedroom. She has a spectacular body, and like many women, for some reason is not comfortable with it.  

I share all of this because I think that is what a decent introduction should feel like.  I have a good topical understanding of some significant things, including sex.  There really is no need to be overly focused on the sexual aspect of things, I can see that we will line up well there, and the focus needs to be on her other needs and desires. 

 

[mormegil]

I struggle to get my little into little space sometimes because she's always seen it as something to be ashamed of so I love it when she can let go and just be little.  She's so sweet and fun and loving in that space.  However she does have big responsibilities that unfortunately take priority so sometimes I have to pull her out of it even tho I hate doing it.  If I could let her be little 24/7 I think we'd both love that.

[Righan]

AS noted, its different for everyone and every relationship. Generally, I think you should probably be clear with yourself and your 'daddy' about what you want and expect from them. It might mean you have to pass up a relationship with someone you like if you want to get the whole package. However, I think you deserve the whole package ... we all deserve the the kind of partner and relationship we want. Of course, its not always out there ... so sometimes we have to compromise and settle for getting most of what we want ... but I still think getting what we want starts with knowing what we want and expect and then telling that to our potential partners ( or ones we're already with ).

In my community, sex is less a factor in DD/lg relationships ... not always ... but several of the littles I've known are asexual in and out of little space ... and so a focus on the sexual aspects of it is definitely not how it is for all DD/lg relationships ... but it might be for some.

In my own relationships I see the Daddy's role as supporting and nurturing their partner ... that what makes a person a daddy instead of a regular dom is that they personally enjoy watching over and taking care of their partner ... and if they are a daddy but don't particularly like littles, then they can be a daddy for a babygirl instead of a little ... littles aren't their only option ... so I think most daddys and mommys that are with littles are probably there because that is what they like ... so they probably enjoy spending time with them as littles. Its enjoyable.

I generally encourage my partner to be little whenever it suits them, even situations that would normally seem inappropriate. By this, I mean that while, for many, age regression requires feeling safe, for some people it can also be something that happens where high stress cause the person to revert ... like at a funeral ... and in those cases, I could see functioning as a bulwark between my little and people who think their childishness at such a somber event is inappropriate. I love taking care of my partner and giving them the support and guidance they need, and I want to help them be the little they want to be. That is something that brings a smile to my face.

On the other hand, while I have never employed time limits or schedules before, I can see doing so if I felt they were necessary for the good of the little. For instance, perhaps she is having difficulty getting into little space ... rejecting that part of herself because thats just how she's been taught to be ... and having a schedule can help her brain regulate ... i.e. she knows every tuesday from 6pm to 7pm she is going to be a little ... and that way her brain has time to get used to the idea and prepare ... and since there is a time limit, she knows there WILL be an out ... she wont need to worry about things like how long it goes for or what is expected of her ...

Along the same lines, perhaps she is doing age regression in a way that is unhealthy for her ... like rather than dealing with problems or issues in her she regresses, using it as an escape ... like another person might drink booze ... in which case, just like with a person who drinks booze, doing that a little is okay but if it reaches a point where its causing its own problems ... then some limits might need to be applied.

Again, I've never been in either of those circumstances, i'm just contemplating.

In terms of activity ... when I've cared for littles, sometimes I just enjoy letting my little be a little and do her little things on her own ... either watching her or just having a little running around in my space while I do my own thing ... but I can also get into coloring and legos and other little activities. Although I almost never say no to cuddles. I love cuddles. Touch is an important form of communication and interaction for me in general, its even how I relate to inanimate objects, but touch is even more important when it comes to emotional connection.

Edited May 22, 2023 by Righan

[Bunny Daddy]

I know for me personally I love interacting with my little both in and outside of their little space. I don't necessarily see it as a sexual aspect because I would rather make my little feel comfortable in their environment. As long as my little is happy I am happy 🥰