Platonic Mommy/CG?

[Guest Ginger-Kit]

Hey everyone... I have a question, but I think I should give some back story for it to make sense. Um... no judging please? This is how I'm comfortable with my relationship.

 

So my boyfriend and I have had this talk before, but I was never really... interested in it. But we talked again and I want to give it a shot. We have an open relationship, given our distance issue at the moment. Yes, I know the little heart next to my name isn't blue, but that's because I've been thinking on it. We had a long conversation and established rules for each other (awhile back), both relating to another person and not (personal, health related, etc.). For him, he has no interest in establishing an emotional connection to any female. There's more rules in place, but he essentially can sleep with another female if he so wishes. I know this might not make much sense or sound sane to many females, but this is my decision and I trust him, so it's our agreement.

 

For me, I'm not allowed to sleep/see any guys. This I'm totally okay with because I honestly have no interest in guys sexually. Friendship, yes, but I just can't look at a guy sexually (see my profile if this is confusing). We've agreed that I can see other girls if I want to and have the desire, however. This next part is going to sound bad, but... well, it's how we both want it and we're both comfortable with it. We've both requested to not be told about the other female unless we're considering bringing her into our relationship sexually. For me it's about an emotional connection that I need and for him it's physical (emotional connections just don't come easily to him at all), where another female is concerned that is. Our relationship is really weird but it works for us and we're happy with it.

 

So, onto the topic of this thread... Sorry ^^"

 

I've considered being a Mommy or maybe a Caregiver (I'm kinda uncertain if there's a difference?) but I'm not too sure how to.... go about it? I've always been a submissive and little, but my job places me in a very dominant position so I'm used to giving rules and I really care a lot more about the people I have 'working under me' than I'm supposed to. If they're sick or something, I really try to send them home, despite knowing I could get in trouble or if they're sad, I almost make it a priority to get them to smile or something. I guess you could say I'm really nuturing/dominant and stuff with some people. With my boyfriend, though, I'm completely submissive and tend to slip into little space, rarely a dominant bone in my body (maybe on the rare occassion if the mood strikes).

 

I made that whole long explanation at the beginning of my thread to explain how I'm in an open relationship, but... I guess it's semi-open given the rules we have and the fact that I don't want to actually sleep with someone? Does that sound bad to you? It was because while I am open to being a Mommy/Caregiver, I'm uncertain how to explain this to a potential Little. It does sound kind of bad (not telling each other) but we have our reasons for it which work in our relationship. Given that I don't form any sexual feelings with a person unless I have a very close, emotional bond, the chances of a relationship I have with a Little turning sexual are very slim to none (and even less of a chance if it's all online), thus 'Platonic' in the title. I mean, I could most definately introduce my boyfriend and my Little to each other if my Little really felt it necessary. He's extremely open and accepting, so I don't see anything wrong with it.

 

So um... yeah ^^" My long post... if anyone has any advice to give, I'm open to giving it a shot.

 

Please understand that I would be 100% open about the fact that I have my boyfriend. I wouldn't hide that at all. >~< I have no reason to.

[baby_ace]

Its not bad at all! I'm asexual and have been given permission to find a Caregiver/Mommy/Daddy by my partner (we're in a platonic relationship) but its like finding a golden unicorn. They have to respect that I'm asexual, that I'm poly/open and they have to be okay with those things. 

 

I think you'd be able to find a little who is looking for the same thing. You're not alone in your search. 

[Guest Cas-the-kitten]

I totally agree with Little orphan!

I'm actually looking for a platonic caregiver, and in my search I've come to notice that there are many more littles looking for platonic caregivers than there are caregivers looking for platonic littles.

If you find yourself wanting to explore it more you can always send a message my way!

[Guest Lilkittygirl]

What you want is not bad at all. there are lots of littles who don't want anything sexual. I think many littles would understand. I would love to have a platnic CG/Mommy.

[Guest Ginger-Kit]

Thank you :3 I feel a lot better about it now, knowing it isn't really an issue.