Breakups

[Peydiddle]

I don't want this to be a mood drainer, but does anyone have advice for what to do when you and your cg or little seperate? I broke up with my Daddy today, I haven't been able to be small for a while now and I'm worried the breakup will make it even worse. Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with a breakup and be able to be little?

[PennyGoodfellow]

While I have never been through this sort of situation I did want to say that I'm proud of you for reaching out for help and advice during this time - it must be hard on a few different levels!

I think that simply being kind to yourself during the painful times, and maybe doing some "lowkey" Little activities during moments you're already doing (during eating, bathing, other daily ritual self-care etc) might be helpful? 

I wish you all the best! 

[CompwicatedPwincess]

Keep people who care about you updated is my advice.

[(not) Narancia]

Stick to routines. Small tasks to give yourself balance and comfort. Brush your teeth, make up your bed, make a cup of tea etc. I find that routines help against that feeling of being lost or out of control. You'll need time to process your feelings and thoughts so let yourself feel them. Go through the motions and as mentioned above, keep your friends in the loop. 

Oh also do little things to treat yourself! it's lovely to spoil ourselves now and then. Others won't always do it for us after all. Good luck!!

[autumnal]

Treat yourself!! Maybe not too much, but allow yourself to have some fun, do some kiddie things that you usually wouldn't because your Caregiver wouldn't allow it (stay up super late for example on a weekend!), and watch your favorite movies/tv shows and play your favorite games. I recently went through my own breakup with a Mommy and that helped a ton.

Also I agree, keeping friends close is super helpful! Especially those that knew about the relationship if you have them so you can vent about it a little sometimes. It's okay to need to and better than keeping it in. I also kind of threw myself into somewhat creative things, it sounds silly, but I like to build in Minecraft and I've been VERY productive the last few weeks and I think the break up is part of that.

[elusive.effie]

After a particularly difficult break-up, I found writing a list of 'needs to be met' helpful. For example, you have hygiene needs like cleaning your teeth, and physical needs like talking a walk. Like Narancia suggested, sticking to a routine can help. 

I've found that re-watching or re-reading familiar books/movies/TV series can give your brain a break, and it can provide comfort as you already know what to expect. 

I hope this helps, even a little

[MasterPhotog]

First, be proud of yourself for reaching out and seeking advice. 
Please try not to blame yourself; the behavior and actions of others are not a reflection on you. 
Next, prioritize your well-being and health. Stay active, invest time in yourself, pursue activities you've always wanted to do, explore new places, learn new things, and most importantly, enjoy the company of supportive friends and seek to make new ones. Hope this helps.

[MysticSand]

What the others said!

To add to all the above suggestions, I would say to remind yourself of why you broke up with your daddy every time you begin to miss him and reminisce. I youtube'd a lot of break up videos and one of the most sage gems that helped me was: Trust in yourself that you had all the information you needed leading up to the breakup and including at the time of the breakup. It's often after the fact that we begin to doubt ourselves, to miss our partners (or rather, the familiarity they gave us), and want to reach out and have second thoughts, but don't! Remember why you broke up and know that your heart and soul will mend with time.