Kinda upset with myself

[Wikkd]

this was a bad idea

Edited November 9, 2023 by Wikkd

[DaddysMonkey]

Through personal experience and observation of peers in real life and the forum , this could mean multiple things. 
 

What my gut tells me it could be is of two things ; 

1. You said you’ve been “talking” to this Daddy. This doesn’t necessarily mean dating or that you are actually partners. Talking implies that you have known each other a short amount of time and have not built the friendship or deeper connection that leads to committed relations. Without building a deep connection and truly knowing a large amount about each other , and being in each others lives for an extended amount of time it’s honestly not very surprising you are having trouble seeing him as *your* Daddy instead of just *a* Daddy. Those bonds don’t happen over night. (Or in a few days , a couple weeks , some people don’t even reach that point for a year.) It could just mean it’s too early to be feeling that way. 
 

2. You think they’re the bees knees , but you’re just not compatible in that way. I’ve been friends with Daddys before and thought they were great. Amazing caregivers , loving humans with giant hearts and have so much to give for the ~right~ little. Someone can be an amazing caregiver but just not be the fit for you. It takes a really special bond to find your caregiver , I would suggest taking a step back and making a “pros and cons” list about how compatible you and this person are and your feelings towards them. 
 

Feeling upset with yourself for not being able to see someone as *your* Daddy isn’t the healthiest place to start in my humble opinion. More often than not from my years long experience and people watching , trying to force that feeling or make themselves or yourself fit into that scenario is just going to waste both peoples time involved and both can end up with hurt feelings. 
 

Take it slow , let things build naturally , don’t try to fit yourself or anyone else into something right away , and most of all - love yourself first. Relationships , a caregiver , all of that will come in due time but if you don’t know yourself and your own true feelings first , you might end up a fish out of water. 

[Wikkd]

thank you for your insight. 

1 hour ago, DaddysMonkey said:

Feeling upset with yourself for not being able to see someone as *your* Daddy isn’t the healthiest place to start in my humble opinion. More often than not from my years long experience and people watching , trying to force that feeling or make themselves or yourself fit into that scenario is just going to waste both peoples time involved and both can end up with hurt feelings. 

I'm allowed to feel anyway I want to feel, as you are allowed to feel what ever way you do. I'm not trying to force anything and i agree forcing things are a bad, sorry if you don't  understand what I mean or I expressed myself in a poor manner. 

[beanbean]

Yeah it just takes time sometimes take it slow and see what happens there might not be a connection there at all or there could be just give it time