I do t think he wants to be my daddy anymore.

[Dumplin]

I had no idea about this life 8 years ago. Then we met, he brought the little out in me. Somthing I didn't even know was there. It was awesome for 2 or 3 years then I got pregnant.  Now because he has a " real little" lol its like this life is only important to me. I made a DDLG contract tract for.us to go over... he looked at it and never brought it up again, so I made another one. Same thing. I asked him the other day, " what appeals to you about the DDLG life." He said " it makes you happy" so I said " what about it appeals to you" he said " isn't that enough?" I guess it explains s why I feel.so alone. It's only important to me...... I just wish he would.of never brought thos out in me..... then I wouldn't be a lonely little. 

[beanbean]

You should talk him about how you feel .that your not happy about just going through the motions 

[AsleepAndDreaming]

Dumplin I'm really sorry you're lonely. especially since it seems like you might still be with this man and so, ideally, you should feel safe and secure and be part of a happy family. Ultimately, my view is that being a Caregiver has to be something that comes from the soul, it's not something that can be taught or learnt, it's more something that has to be deep down inside someone, that innate feeling that you want to care, nurture and look after someone and help them and guide them, the one who makes decisions and the one who takes responsibility. And to be a Caregiver to a Little, you have to appreciate being little is not just a phase or a feeling but a central part of someone's whole character.

I don't know if your partner has this instinct or whether he truly understands you. But more to the point, I'm not sure you do either. I'm not sure how effective your lines of communication are, how much you talk and how much you have honest and open conversations with him, but if you feel lonely and lost, you have to sit down and talk about it to him. It feels a bit like you're skirting round your feelings and asking him questions to try and start a conversation rather than sitting down with him and saying "Look, this is how I feel..." Maybe he hasn't cottoned on? And if you've tried this already and it hasn't worked, tell him so. Because trust and communication is the most important part of any kind of relationship, and if you don't deal with it now, your loneliness will only get worse. I don't know if you feel you can have a real heart to heart with him? You can always let us know how it goes and come back if you need more advice? 

[Queenwarriorprincess]

Late to the party but I'm going through something similar. Please let us know, OP @Dumplin if anything came of your conversation. I feel lonely too, I get where you're coming from. And I'm so sorry you feel this way. I hope it gets better very soon ♥️

[Guest MommyElli]

3 hours ago, Queenwarriorprincess said:

Late to the party but I'm going through something similar. Please let us know, OP @Dumplin if anything came of your conversation. I feel lonely too, I get where you're coming from. And I'm so sorry you feel this way. I hope it gets better very soon ♥️

Sorry to hear that this is happening to you. I hope things work out for you and get better