You never know

[Little kaiya]

As my Daddy and I read through the forums we see a lot of posts where people focus on an aspect of themselves and shape it as a barrier to finding a partner. Whether it's age, sex, gender, sexyal orientation, ethnicity, location, living with a disability or something else.

We wanted to take a moment to offer encouragement to everyone who may be feeling like they won't find a partner.

My Daddy and I are a pretty good example of factors that would seem stacked against us BUT we still found each other, have been dating for 6 years, are moving in together and talking a commitment ceremony witnessed by friends and family.

When we first found each other I was 39, married, dealing with chronic depression, chronic pain, OCD, struggling with coming to grips with being genderfluid where my gender changes without notice and working a stressful job. I'm not tall, average looking, overweight, gifted (so am baffled by things like small talk), am a workaholic, continually stressed, volunteer at the cost of my own well being and often very opinionated. By all counts not anybody's idea of worth settling with let alone an ideal partner.

That didn't stop my Daddy from asking me out, seeing a handsome man/beautiful woman and wanting to be with me, love me and look after me. He knows when my gender changes and adjusts seamlessly. He takes my personality challenges in stride and cares for me on days my body or mind won't let me do it myself. He is my partner, my lover, my friend and my Daddy. 

No matter what you bring to the table that you may think is a barrier, bad or too much, there's someone who won't just tolerate all of it but who will love you even more because of it. Don't settle for someone who is okay with who you are, wait to find that person who loves you unconditionally for who you are. 

Happy New Year to one and all, may it bring joy into your life.

[Quirky]

1 hour ago, Little kaiya said:

As my Daddy and I read through the forums we see a lot of posts where people focus on an aspect of themselves and shape it as a barrier to finding a partner. Whether it's age, sex, gender, sexyal orientation, ethnicity, location, living with a disability or something else.

We wanted to take a moment to offer encouragement to everyone who may be feeling like they won't find a partner.

My Daddy and I are a pretty good example of factors that would seem stacked against us BUT we still found each other, have been dating for 6 years, are moving in together and talking a commitment ceremony witnessed by friends and family.

When we first found each other I was 39, married, dealing with chronic depression, chronic pain, OCD, struggling with coming to grips with being genderfluid where my gender changes without notice and working a stressful job. I'm not tall, average looking, overweight, gifted (so am baffled by things like small talk), am a workaholic, continually stressed, volunteer at the cost of my own well being and often very opinionated. By all counts not anybody's idea of worth settling with let alone an ideal partner.

That didn't stop my Daddy from asking me out, seeing a handsome man/beautiful woman and wanting to be with me, love me and look after me. He knows when my gender changes and adjusts seamlessly. He takes my personality challenges in stride and cares for me on days my body or mind won't let me do it myself. He is my partner, my lover, my friend and my Daddy. 

No matter what you bring to the table that you may think is a barrier, bad or too much, there's someone who won't just tolerate all of it but who will love you even more because of it. Don't settle for someone who is okay with who you are, wait to find that person who loves you unconditionally for who you are. 

Happy New Year to one and all, may it bring joy into your life.

Thank you for sharing your story! I...liked a lot. I was a person who lived a long long time without a Daddy. Hope is hard sometimes but I like to think of I read this, my heart would be a little braver and open to trying new things. Sometimes it's better than you ever wished or dreamed. I hope move in and sharing your next steps together only deepens your love trust and happiness! 

[Little_Helena]

Thank you for sharing your story, it's always nice to see relieve coming in life

[Lonewolf58]

As a 58-year-old truck driving daddy I would like to say thank you for this post. I have been without a little for a very long time. it is difficult being a truck driver and being gone all the time to find a little. So from the daddy‘s point of view, it can be just as difficult. So again thank you because it reminds me that the right one is out there and we will find each other in time. I am so happy for you and your daddy and I wish you all the very best, and may you have a new year filled with nothing but love and happiness.

[MissNMTX]

What a beautiful thread concept. Thank you for sharing the encouragement.