Told my closest friend about being a middle and they rejected me.

[MsCuddleSeeker]

Feeling very sad today. I told one of my closest friends about being a middle and she told me I was… well it was really mean stuff about us and our Daddies so I don’t want to say it. 
I’m feeling really sad now. 

[Cebakes]

Sorry that you’ve experienced this. Others have had this happen to them and brought it up here. It can be a hard kink or lifestyle for many to understand or accept, unless they are in the community or very open and understanding. 

My last middle is 26 and says she will take this to her grave.  Her new boyfriend is 34 and has dominant traits, but she won’t tell him she is a middle.  I think he may have said he is not “into that stuff”.   She also doesn’t look at him as a daddy.

The only people that I’ve ever discussed DDLG or that I’m a daddy with,  are those in the community or said they want to explore having a daddy.  I find  many in the kink community kind of have mixed thoughts or don’t understand DDLG.  Some don’t like it.   I’ve chatted with kinky women on other sites who I think were turned off because of my DDLG interests on my profile.  
 

 

Edited March 21, 2024 by Cebakes

[DDCool]

Aye that's a shame, but don't give up, your friend I am sure will get over it, not worth falling out about. Each to our own. I personally don't get any negativity towards DD/lg. I must admit I don't discuss it with anyone but it is perfectly fine and healthy between understanding minds. There is no confusion from illegal activities, none whatsoever.

Anyway, that is a broader discussion for another listing. You stick in and your friend will hopefully realise that she should be honoured that you felt comfortable enough with them to be able to discuss it, even if she doesn't understand. Hugs a plenty 💛

[beanbean]

Yeah your friend doesn't really like much of a friend to be honest 

[KhariKub]

I can relate to that. I've had (now ex) friends say it was really weird for me to be a little and have pacifiers and stuff. It does hurt but its also good people show their true colours so you don't have to keep them in your life

[libbyshome]

I think it was very brave of you to share something so vulnerable with someone you thought was a friend and confidant. I am truly sorry that they turned out to be so rigid and incapable of compassion and understanding.  

I do not share that I'm little or submissive with anyone outside of the Ddlg community simply because most everyone I know simple couldn't comprehend any of it and would try to push their beliefs about it on me.  I don't need that kind if negativity in my life.

And neither do you. The people I have met here have been nothing but open minded and very accepting and understanding.  While you may be going through a rough patch, just know that there is a group of people sending you their support and rooting for you. Hang in there, things will get better.

[Pink Star Bubble Sky]

I'm sorry that happened to you that's not cool😥 but don't be too sad it's hard for people to understand us sometimes but it doesn't make people like us and what we do on our personal time, bad or wrong🩷 keep being you! You'll feel better soon enough I'm sure of it !!🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷

[MsCuddleSeeker]

On 3/21/2024 at 8:24 PM, Cebakes said:

Sorry that you’ve experienced this. Others have had this happen to them and brought it up here. It can be a hard kink or lifestyle for many to understand or accept, unless they are in the community or very open and understanding. 

My last middle is 26 and says she will take this to her grave.  Her new boyfriend is 34 and has dominant traits, but she won’t tell him she is a middle.  I think he may have said he is not “into that stuff”.   She also doesn’t look at him as a daddy.

The only people that I’ve ever discussed DDLG or that I’m a daddy with,  are those in the community or said they want to explore having a daddy.  I find  many in the kink community kind of have mixed thoughts or don’t understand DDLG.  Some don’t like it.   I’ve chatted with kinky women on other sites who I think were turned off because of my DDLG interests on my profile.  
 

 

Thank you, I’m definitely going to be more careful about who I share this part of myself with! 

[MsCuddleSeeker]

On 3/21/2024 at 8:46 PM, DDCool said:

Aye that's a shame, but don't give up, your friend I am sure will get over it, not worth falling out about. Each to our own. I personally don't get any negativity towards DD/lg. I must admit I don't discuss it with anyone but it is perfectly fine and healthy between understanding minds. There is no confusion from illegal activities, none whatsoever.

Anyway, that is a broader discussion for another listing. You stick in and your friend will hopefully realise that she should be honoured that you felt comfortable enough with them to be able to discuss it, even if she doesn't understand. Hugs a plenty 💛

Thank you x I hope she feels that way soon. This is a big part of me! ☺️

[MsCuddleSeeker]

On 3/21/2024 at 10:28 PM, KhariKub said:

I can relate to that. I've had (now ex) friends say it was really weird for me to be a little and have pacifiers and stuff. It does hurt but its also good people show their true colours so you don't have to keep them in your life

That’s true! Being a middle is so special and I don’t want anyone to take it aeay. Thank you

[MsCuddleSeeker]

On 3/22/2024 at 5:52 AM, libbyshome said:

I think it was very brave of you to share something so vulnerable with someone you thought was a friend and confidant. I am truly sorry that they turned out to be so rigid and incapable of compassion and understanding.  

I do not share that I'm little or submissive with anyone outside of the Ddlg community simply because most everyone I know simple couldn't comprehend any of it and would try to push their beliefs about it on me.  I don't need that kind if negativity in my life.

And neither do you. The people I have met here have been nothing but open minded and very accepting and understanding.  While you may be going through a rough patch, just know that there is a group of people sending you their support and rooting for you. Hang in there, things will get better.

Thank you! I love it here and everyone has been soooo nice

[MsCuddleSeeker]

On 3/22/2024 at 8:17 AM, Pink Star Bubble Sky said:

I'm sorry that happened to you that's not cool😥 but don't be too sad it's hard for people to understand us sometimes but it doesn't make people like us and what we do on our personal time, bad or wrong🩷 keep being you! You'll feel better soon enough I'm sure of it !!🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷

It wasn’t cool and it made me cry. But everyone here has been super nice so I feel a bit better. 

[MsCuddleSeeker]

On 3/24/2024 at 11:46 PM, GunnyD said:

Sorry to hear that, Kiddo.  People who don't share the desires we do often fail to realize how important those desires are to us.   It's painful when you share something this fundamental to your nature with someone you thought you could trust to understand you and discover that they're not able, or perhaps aren't ready, to understand and support you, isn't it?   I'm so sorry for your pain, but would encourage you not to give up on your friend.   It's possible she doesn't understand what you're describing to her, or perhaps she needs time to acclimate to the fact that your reality differs from hers.   If you've been friends for a long time, she may see the fact that you're just now sharing this with her as some sort of betrayal, though it's not.   I would encourage you to give her time, and offer to help her understand that the way you are is the way you've always been and that sharing it with her is a way of showing her how much you trust and value her as a friend.   

However it turns out, don't let it tarnish the way you feel about yourself, and don't let it cost you your joy.  Hang in there, kiddo!

~G

Thank you. It really hurt and I cried a whole lot. I hope it gets better with her but I like what you said about joy. I do get joy from being a middle and from having s Daddy. When I am lucky enough to have one! 

[blingsing]

Your might need to be prepared that she doesn't accept it. I have non kink friends who are aware I'm sub but not a little. It's a step too far for most. One even asked me outright, some.of my tendencies are obvious. I denied it. I just like fun stuff I said. I know that she would never look at me rhe same again. It's sad to say but I think that this side of ourselves is really not for general consumption. Something that brings so much joy needs to be hidden. But it does. 

[Juju]

Often times people act out because they don't understand something and it makes them uncomfortable.  They have no idea what it's about and instead of asking, they treat the other person horribly and hurt that other's feelings. 

I'm also, so very sorry you've had to experience this. I had experienced this myself at one point, not because of my little side, but my submissive part of me. I come from a family of women that feel very strongly against females submitting to another. Especially men! My little side is shared only with those in the lifestyle. 

I've been told that things that bring you sadness and pain, grief and despair, are the things that will make you a stronger person. If she doesn't come around... She wasn't meant to be a part of your life anymore, but there always seems to be a better more comfortable answer around the corner. 

Soooooo, alllllll of that to say... Don't despair. You'll get thru it! Never deny who you are! Not one bit of it! And as said before, we're all here for you. Peace to you! 🤗

[wissing]

I am so sorry to hear that. Of she is truly a friend she come around and will know just honored she should feel that you trusted her enough to tell her if not then she is not worthy of you at all

[Sleepy Baby]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. It can be hard being rejected from someone you cared about. But you are brave and will get through this, just make sure that you are kind to yourself.

[DaddyAnthony]

In this forum we can all get comfortable talking about this lifestyle however, in real life we do come off as weird, kinky, taboo listed and for those that think that just have not ever opened themselves up to outside the "normal" stuff and are jist a "plan jane and plane joe nobady".  So remember that.  

 

In the end, you trusted your friend and that should be respected by her even if she don't agree, and I hope this is the fact.  Just keep your head up, smile because look at all the love you're getting here.  ❤️. #hugs