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Guest KiwiGuy

I've tried a few times to make things work with an online little, and really gave it my all... And today got my heart totally stomped on by someone I was so patient, caring and attentive to. I try to be a great daddy, but just can't seem to hold on yo anything and it's got me questioning; is out me? Or can't online things work in the long run?

 

I'd love to hear some success stories...where you're still going strong and super close or when you've managed to make it something in person because you just needed it to be. Give me some happy thoughts to aspire to and help me ignore how roughly dumped I feel right now.

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First off I'll say that I don't do purely online relationships anymore because I didn't find it fulfilling. I couldnt nurture the way I excel at in person so I moved on from it.

 

But from my previous experience's it was mostly an issue of pacing. All online relationships sometimes had a habit of burning too hot and too fast. So since we didnt take the time to establish a really solid groundwork before all the excitement and fun then the end of the honeymoon period can sometimes spell the end of the connection entirely. I think online can work between the right kind of people. So don't lose hope. If it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. I wouldn't take it so hard because personally I don't even want to be with someone that didn't want to be with me then emotionally that link is severed and can't hurt me any more. Don't get too hurt by what you can't control. Just keep on being the best version of yourself and put yourself out there again when you're ready to. You're not missing out on too much if you were with a person who would be so callous in the first place right?

 

Good luck Kiwi!

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I don't have a lot of ones that are DDlg specific, but one couple really made me look at this form of relationships in a different light. 

 

The guy was in his mid thirties, had a son, his wife unfortunately cheated on him and the relationship ended with a really nasty divorce. About a year or so later, he wasn't ready for dating and having a son meant he couldn't exactly bring casual sex partners home, so instead he tried a sex chat of sorts. There he met his now fiancée who was just killing some time and trying to get over a breakup. The two started with casual chatting, then calls, 4-ish months in they met for the first time (mind you, they live in completely different countries), in about a year they tarted making living arrangements. And now it has been about 2 years, they're engaged, soon to be married and just extremely happy together. 

 

I guess it comes to the mindset you approach these things with. When it comes to things online, the image we build of a person is often way more idealized than the actual thing, we fall head over heels and it slowly starts burning out, unravelling that the person is just that... a person. We don't take the time to build a friendship or any ground for the further prosper of the relationship, we're just fixated on the idea of loving someone and receiving that back. It's an idea and not necessarily a person that we actually end up "loving" I read somewhere *cough* totally wasn't an erotica site *cough* That the person behind the computer is just what we need and want them to be, they are just as imaginary as a purple unicorn... I mean... purple unicorns are totes real... (I don't want an army of angry littles chasing me ;_; )

 

I'm sure sooner or later you'll find someone special and perfect and just all together what you're looking for, but that has a lot to do with your own mindset just as much as it has to do with theirs. After all, happiness should come from within so you could share it with your partner... So look for that on your own rather than looking for someone to help you achieve it... if that makes sense. (It's 5 am and this is obviously a rambly reply, so let's all pretend I'm making perfect sense)

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Online requires more work and commitment than RL. It CAN work, though. I had a 2yr online relationship with a woman I only saw 3X. Of course, those 3X added up to about 10wks but....

All relationships have the capacity to fail but I think online you don't get the 'closure' that you attain in most RL cases. That could be the raw feeling you're experiencing. That, and the fact that, when a connection IS made, it's more emotional because the physical side is absent.

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Just got back from a trip to Texas seeing the love of my life for the second time in two years and we've been together in a LDR online relationship for three

it takes a lot more time, effort, and energy but online LDR can work though its not for everyone he and I plan on looking for jobs and getting our lives on track to evenutally live together with trips more often thrown in

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I think the key is to also be able to connect on a level that doesn't have to do with the DDlg dynamic. I feel like with online littles and Daddies/CGs it seems like they try to get too serious too quickly and jump head on into the DDlg dynamic without knowing anything about each other as people.

 

My relationship is a bit different. We met on a different forum, one for sci-fi roleplay writing. Neither of us had any intention of seeking out a relationship, it just kind of happened. We started talking more and liking each other.

 

It was only after a few months of really getting to know each other and getting serious about each other that we decided to try DDlg and we both really liked it. Then he flew out to meet me for the first time and everything just clicked.

 

We've now been dating about 7 months and we've only met twice, for a total of 14 days. It's a lot of work and can be really difficult at times, but it's worth it for us because we have a very strong bond.

 

I think as with any relationship the key is a strong foundation and trust. Online relationships are really hard, and without that foundation it's almost impossible.

 

I wish you the best of luck and I hope you do find that special person that you really connect with. :)

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I personally do not believe online only can work long term. Sure, if it's just a bit of fun or something less than fully serious, then that's different. I know people have different opinions, but that's mine.

I met my daddy online, but it was only purely online for four days lol. He is my soulmate, the love of my life. How could I possibly survive without being with him physically, being wrapped in his arms,walking by his side, our physical affection and intimacy?

Again, we all think differently. Not saying anyone is right or wrong, and it totally depends on what you are looking for ultimately.

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  • 3 years later...

I met my boyfriend on the forum. We had an LDR for a year and a half. Within that year my mom found out about my kinks and kicked me out 3 times and when the 3 time happened my Daddy told me to fly to Texas and live with him. We’v never met face to face at all at this point becasue of my family. I’d never been on a plane. I’d never been outta state (I lived in Las Vegas, and occasionally go to California)

 

And I moved in with just two suitcases of my belongings. And it was like I’ve known him all my life.

 

His proposing this year❤️

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I've ad one online relationship and it was amazing. Mostly cause I kept flying out there but because it was challenging to figure out dynamics when absent. But ultimately meeting at some time is the best. Not to say a pure online relationship won't work cause it can. It just depends on who you both are.
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im in an online relationship and he is my caregiver/daddy. we've been dating for a year and 3 months now. we've met irl 3 times. i've met his family, he's met some of mine (not a whole lot bc reasons). we make it work. we know me and him love each other so much, and unconditionally. ldr is really really hard at times. but you have to put a lot of faith and loyalty and trust in the relationship. communicate well. set boundaries. be honest with each other.

 

it's basically just an irl relationship but with some different aspects. i plan to hopefully move in with him after i finish community college and save up some money.

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As long as your LDR has a goal set by both parties i think it'll be okay. Its like counting down the days for Christmas or your birthday day. Set a times frame and work towards that. Also do cute stuff in the meantime. I bought a wax seal set at target so i could send love letters to my Daddy. He sent me a care package. You can have movie dates (netflix Hulu) 

Sharing experiences gives you guys stuff to talk about when you first meet, so it wont be too awkward (:

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