Am I doing this right??

[Princess Joe Joe]

Okay first off: First post! Yay!

Anyways. I don't really have a question, more like I'm looking for tips, feedback, ect. I'm just going to jump right in!

 

I have been with a guy for a year now, and we started out as straight vanilla. Threw the whole duration of our relationship we have had Daddy and little tendencies, such as taking my stuffed animals to bed, him helping me make food or get snacks, him calling me Baby, things of that nature. About six months into our relationship we incorporated BDSM into our sexual lives. I've been doing some online creeping and discovered DD/lg and it really is wonderful for us and I would like for the dynamic to become a part of our everyday lives. I recently sat down and had a talk with him about it and he said he would love to get into it more. He is more of a visual learner so I have put together a Instagram page of pictures of things I personally would like, things I want to try, or would enjoy, and we both have decided that tomorrow we will meet up and discuss what we both want, are willing to give, rules, punishments, ect. He seems excited about it.

 

So I just need to know are we going about this right? I know that every dynamic is different so you can't give a definitive right and wrong, but I'm really anxious about messing things up and would love some tips, feedback, and knowledge from you all! Feel free to redirect me if this topic has already been made /.\

[LilJenn]

What looks right to one couple may be completely wrong for another, and vice versa. A better question to ask yourself is does it feel right to you and your partner? No two relationships look the same. You have both enthusiastically consented to exploring this lifestyle and you're excited about it. That's awesome! You have mutual consent, enthusiasm, and communication which are all super crucial in any relationship, but especially in a BDSM dynamic. Always leave the relationship open to one, or both, of you being able to come forward if there is ever a time it feels like the DD/lg dynamic isn't working out. 

 

[Guest MyDaddyMyWorld]

Are you both generally happy? Then you are doing it right. Simple as that honey

[Guest Daddy's☆treasure]

You sound like you're off to a good start! Like LilJenn said, there is no right or wrong here. Every relationship is different and its really all about what works for you and your partner. If you are wanting to incorporate BDSM into your relationship just be sure you're both well versed with the ins and outs and safety especially. As far as the DD/lg side goes, you will find a plethora of information on this forum and through talking to others in the community here. I hope you find it all useful.

 

All the best for the future.

[Princess Joe Joe]

Thanks so much everyone!

[Guest Pouty Kitten]

It seems like you're headed in the right direction. If you both are happy and agree to the different aspects of your dynamic, then I'd say you're doing it right. The only advice I can give is to have patience and an open communication with each other.