Daddy breakup

[beaniebaby95]

I plan on having a hard grownup talk with my Daddy sometime in the next few days and depending on how it goes, i may break up with him. He's just so mean all of the time and i dont know how to deal with it and neither me or our kids deserve it, especially not my autistic son. It's extra hard bc he lives with me and doesnt really have anywhere to go so he may have to stay here for a little bit til he finds somewhere to go and thats gonna be its own special hell. I'm not looking forward to possibly losing my Daddy and having to readjust my life to being alone again. Thanks for listening to my little rant. 

[MissAnna]

Having these kinds of talks are truly no fun, it can be scary to start over again. I understand the feeling of starting over it was overwhelming and I felt as if I had been thrown to the wolves. As for him still living you that's your decision. When my ex husband and I divorced we decided he should still live at the house for our daughter. I won't lie worst mistake I ever made, he became verbally and physically abusive. 

Please make sure you keep you and your children safe, you don't have to take his behavior because you two break up. Set boundaries if you two do decide to break up and he wants to still live with you. Advocate for yourself and your children, take care and best wishes.

[MasterPhotog]

Thank you for having the trust to share this here. I can imagine how much strength it’s taken you to even get to this point. Wanting to have that “grownup talk” shows how seriously you're taking this, and that you’re really thinking not just about yourself, but your kids too. That says a lot about your character and your priorities.

It makes total sense that you're feeling conflicted, nobody wants to lose someone they’ve invested in, even when things aren’t healthy. And on top of that, the added stress of navigating a possible breakup while still sharing a space sounds incredibly tough. It’s totally valid to dread that. It’s not just emotional, it’s logistical and draining in ways most people don’t think about.

Please don’t underestimate how strong you are, though. Wanting better for yourself and for your kids, especially your autistic son, who deserves safety and kindness, is a powerful reason to take action, even when it’s hard. You’re not alone in this, and I really hope you have some support around you (even if it’s just people you can vent to when it gets rough).

Wishing you best of luck and strength. 

[beanbean]

6 hours ago, beaniebaby95 said:

I plan on having a hard grownup talk with my Daddy sometime in the next few days and depending on how it goes, i may break up with him. He's just so mean all of the time and i dont know how to deal with it and neither me or our kids deserve it, especially not my autistic son. It's extra hard bc he lives with me and doesnt really have anywhere to go so he may have to stay here for a little bit til he finds somewhere to go and thats gonna be its own special hell. I'm not looking forward to possibly losing my Daddy and having to readjust my life to being alone again. Thanks for listening to my little rant. 

I know it’s hard but yeah sometimes it’s better to be alone then in a bad situation I hope you can figure it out but you or your kids don’t deserve this

[BabyPoppy]

These talks are difficult,  but it is important to stay safe for you and the kids. Being alone is hard too, but the right daddy for you will come along. It takes time to heal for you and the kids. 

[Cranius]

18 hours ago, beaniebaby95 said:

I plan on having a hard grownup talk with my Daddy sometime in the next few days and depending on how it goes, i may break up with him. He's just so mean all of the time and i dont know how to deal with it and neither me or our kids deserve it, especially not my autistic son. It's extra hard bc he lives with me and doesnt really have anywhere to go so he may have to stay here for a little bit til he finds somewhere to go and thats gonna be its own special hell. I'm not looking forward to possibly losing my Daddy and having to readjust my life to being alone again. Thanks for listening to my little rant. 

Sorry to hear this. As someone who went through a breakup with an unnegotiated and unaware mommy, I feel your pain. Just remember that no dynamic is better than a bad dynamic. I'm sorry that you're so entangled with the living situation, that's hard. We're all here for you. 

[beaniebaby95]

I have a little bit of an update. The talk actually went wayyyyy better than i thought it would and my daddy and I are going to try to work things out. He's going to work on being nicer and stuff and I'm going to work on communicating earlier when i have a problem. Thank you so much for all of your advice and support. I appreciate this place so much!