Turning Our Meals into Age Play and Age Regression

[Journey]

Turning Our Meals into Age Play and Age Regression

My wife (who is a submissive middle) and I (the caregiver) have started turning most of our meals into age play and age regression. 

How It Began

We used to take turns cooking, and she would usually cook food from her country, and I would cook food from my country, or we would cook together. We would also both take turns doing the dishes. 

But then we discovered that I hate doing dishes and she hates cooking. So from then on, we split the duties. She still cooks sometimes when she is inspired to make something, and I sometimes help with dishes, but most of the time it is my duty to cook and her duty to do dishes. And I had learned how to make her favorite dishes from her country by that time, so I could cook those too. 

The Realization

Then I realized that this reminded me of when I was a child. I could request something for dinner, but my parents were the ones making the decisions. The only thing I could do was say "pretty please." And even that usually would not work since I did not even think about the process of buying groceries as a kid. I would always ask too late. Meals just magically appeared when they called us to the table. How they appeared was not even a thought in my head. She grew up in a different culture, but I would imagine it is the same for children everywhere. They don't think about how food shows up on the table, it just does. They play, watch TV, or do homework until called for dinner. Then the kids clear the table and do the dishes after the meal is over (at least in my family).

So I asked myself, what if I did this with my wife? It would basically instill both a DDlg and a submissive/dominant dynamic to meals. It was worth a try.

Taking Control - The First Test

Having been married for awhile, I already knew she wanted me to take more of a daddy role in all areas of our life together, so I already had implied permission to implement this without asking her first. (She is the "lifestyle" type of middle, who wants us to permanently play the roles of daddy and middle in almost all interactions.)

I started slow, by no longer asking her what she wanted for dinner.

This was hard at first, since we had always talked about meals in the past, typically with me asking what she wants and she responding "anything." Ask if she wanted a particular dish and her response was typically "sure." On rare occasions she said she wanted something specific, but most of the time she delegated the decision back to me. I already knew what she liked and knew she did not like cooking, so I started making a meal plan and would implement it without consulting her first. Asking her rarely yielded results anyway, so I am basically just eliminating an unnecessary step.

If she asked what was for dinner, I would tell her what was for dinner. If she asked early enough, things could be changed, but if she did not ask early enough, then she was going to eat what daddy served. 

I still accepted her suggestions and objections, and she still made them from time to time, which resulted in me changing our plans occasionally. But she had to make a request or suggestion and I decided whether to do it or not. 

The Results of Taking Control

This immediately shifted the power dynamic. Daddy was in charge of dinner. 

The first thing I noticed is that she never once challenged what I was making for dinner, which actually surprised me. She would just smile, say "okay," and then either go play on her phone, watch anime cartoons, or help me in the kitchen.

I did not expect that, but it was immediate submission to my decisions on meals. No complaints. No resistance. Just a smile, and sometimes a "sounds good."

Adding the DD/lg CG/l Dynamic - The Second Test

Seeing that was working better than expected, I started responding to her in the same manner and tone a loving parent would tell their child what they were making for dinner. Added more authority to my voice. Making the decision sound more final and matter of fact. An implied: "This was what is for dinner. If you wanted something else, you should have asked before I bought groceries for the week." I fully took on the parent or daddy role when making meals and replicated what typically happens during someone's childhood. 

I also started treating her doing the dishes as a chore she has to do as a middle, recreating the parent/middle dynamic in that area too.

When we go grocery shopping together, we still talk about what she wants, but I still maintain the dynamic of DDlg, where daddy is in charge and she, as the middle, has to ask or make suggestions. Daddy decides.

Stretching Her Wings as a Middle

If she came into the kitchen and started telling me what to do (acting like she is in charge), I would immediately put her to work as if she were my little helper. Can you get this? Can you help do that?

This reinforced the DDlg dynamic, because while I was open to any and all suggestions my little girl would make, and I would let her take the initiative, daddy was still in charge. I did not stop her from telling me what she wanted me to do, but I treated her like she was a 12 year old spreading her wings, coming to the kitchen and telling mommy or daddy how to cook. Through my actions I made it clear that she couldn't just come in and give orders; she had to help prepare dinner if she did.

"You want me to cook a pork dish. What type? Great. I'll start sautéing the pork. You want me to add some onions? Okay. Can you please chop the onions? And I should add more pepper? Great. Added. You want me to flip over the meat? Sure. Flipped. Can you make the rice while I work on the pork please?"

That ended almost as fast as it started when she realized her being in charge equaled having to help cook. There is no "supervisor" role in the kitchen. Either you help or get out of the way. 

She still helps in the kitchen sometimes when she feels like it or wants to cook a specific dish her way. But the concept that "daddy is in charge" has been established. Plus, this gives her "big girl" or "adult" moments where she is in charge of what she makes because she is making it herself. I'll even help her sometimes. She gets to chose what mode she is in. Most of the time she wants daddy to make dinner, though.

The Results of Becoming Daddy / Mommy

When I started doing that, an interesting thing happened. She started to age play and age regress during meals, automatically. And often stayed age regressed for the rest of the evening, watching cartoons and playing on her phone.

She always liked anime that had a target audience of 12 years old, but I noticed that she had a renewed interest in anime meant for even younger audiences, which makes me think she is embracing her inner child even more and feels safe being a middle or even a little at times.

And another interesting thing happened, which was surprising. In the past, if I asked her what she wanted, she would say "anything" and shift the decision back to me. Now that I took over decision-making, she has a lot more suggestions for daddy. She is actually communicating better and asserting herself more, while still maintaining the DDlg dynamic. I am happy with this development, because she has always had an issue with communicating her wishes in the past. But I never expected her to become more vocal about what she wants by me taking over the decision-making process for her. She also seems more confident in herself and less stressed. I think this is good for her mental health.

She is happier and more affectionate and feels more love from me by doing this. 

What Changed / It is Not a Fluke

The only thing that really changed was the power dynamic surrounding meals, and it turned into submission, age play, and age regression within weeks.

And a few weeks later, I was feeling sick and I was too tired to keep up the daddy role, and I slipped back to treating her like an adult. And, not surprisingly, she stopped age play and age regressing during meals. Her interactions with me were more adult-like.

I resumed treating her like a child a week later, and I got the same result. So it was not a fluke. Also, by this time she realized what I had been doing and started leaning into it even more.

She changed her role when I changed my role. If I was the husband, she was an adult. If I was daddy, she was a middle. Very interesting discovery. She was responding to me. Me taking on the role of daddy signaled to her that it was okay and safe for her to be a middle. I basically gave her the space and environment to be herself, allowing her to age regress.

Sometimes it is the small things, like changing the power dynamic and adjusting my manner of speaking, that makes a difference. 

Should You Try It?

Each woman is different, but I wanted to share what happened in our relationship. If you have a submissive middle or little, you may want to try something similar. Your results may vary though. Knowing what your partner wants is important. If you already have permission to be the dominant daddy or mommy, you can do a little test and see how she responds, and adjust appropriately. You will probably figure out whether she likes it or not pretty quickly based on her reaction. If she is submissive and a little or middle, my guess is that she will respond well. 

Edited September 27 by Journey