A thought?

[Daddy Marc]

Hi all

 

i have a thought- was talking to a little friend about it this evening. I have a theory - there are more littles here long term than daddies. Lots of daddies only come for a short while and leave. This is not judgement just wondering- littles seem to stay longer for community imo . How do we get more daddies to talk? Or do we need to? Honest answers here. 🙏

[-Soul-]

I agree that is the case, I have been around since 2016 (original profile that i deleted before coming back in 2017) I have seen a hell of a lot of people come and go, unfortunately there are a lot of "Daddies" that come call all the wrong people pet names and are looking for an instant connection (or a quick fling) and when it doesn't happen they leave, I am fortunate enough to have joined and met my people, I learned a lot and I made some amazing friends. I think had I not gave to the forum as much as I took out of it I probably wouldn't have stayed, but here I am

[Little kaiya]

I think there are more littles in general versus Caregivers which can give the impression that littles stay longer. 

Edited Wednesday at 10:06 AM by Little kaiya

[MissNMTX]

I've been here for years. This profile is probably my 3rd or 4th go around. This time I decided to stay and make a place for myself... even if it still often as though I really don't.

I've seen so many people come and go. Some, rare, great people. Mostly a ton of Red flags. Some of whom I've not been immune to. Luckily, most Red flags eventually go. Some people find partners and leave, some people just get exhausted and leave... this is my story.

Like all things on the Internet, a lot is superficial, but some have found real relationships, real friendships and real community here. It can be a safe place or a horrible place.

Like most things, it's a choice, to keep the good and let go of the bad  

[MissAnna]

When I first came on this forum I was a Mommy, it was intimidating and honestly I didn't know where or how to start. I believe Doms/caregivers even littles sometimes get overwhelmed. And yes there are some bad experiences on here from both sides, it happens, we just have to overlook the bad to look for the good.

Doms/caregivers do talk but sometimes they don't know what to say or how to even begin a conversation with a little. And sometimes littles or Middles don't want to be in a dynamic at this time in their lives and thats okay.  

This forum has been a blessing for me, even when I first joined because I met so many amazing people on here. They became my friends, my family and I don't care how far away they live they mean so much to me. 

And remember not every Dom/caregiver or little/middle are the same, everyone has their own uniqueness about them. Everyone is different and everyone is beautiful in their own way

 

[sheepie uwu]

Uninformed people are convinced that DDLG is only a Fetish, thanks to porn. Some people come here from places like FetLife after having a hard time with Submissives over there. Others are Fetishists who don't care about community values and leave once finding a partner. There's a lot of folks who treat this forum like a dating/hookup site. A small portion of people are looking for victims, not partners. And of course, some people just socialize more than others.

Personally, I don't give a fuck if certain kinds of people realize we're an actual community and leave. That means I'll have less eye rolling to do later.

Edited Tuesday at 11:41 PM by sheepie uwu

[Lil_K47]

i've only been on here like four months now, wow! it's hard to believe it's been that long! But even in the short time I've been here I've seen so many people come and go, Littles and daddies alike.  A lot of people are all gung-ho for a day or two, some a week and then they disappear back out. I think you get out of this site what you put into it. If you don't make any actual effort to cultivate friendships you won't find any. And if you're only friending dozens of people of the opposite sex that doesn't exactly scream community to me. So a lot of people will be hesitant to allow people to follow them when they see them do that. 

 

any online site or community is going to have its good and bad /ups and downs. But I can honestly say this is the first place I've ever felt completely welcome, while being my quirky self and mostly safe! 😀

[MasterPhotog]

Here's my two cents for what it's worth: 
Everyone brings their own values, social styles, and levels of patience.
No matter which group is larger or stays longer, this being an exceptionally amazing community, it's only fair that we all do our part to help keep it the best it can be for everyone.

[beanbean]

9 hours ago, Daddy Marc said:

Hi all

 

i have a thought- was talking to a little friend about it this evening. I have a theory - there are more littles here long term than daddies. Lots of daddies only come for a short while and leave. This is not judgement just wondering- littles seem to stay longer for community imo . How do we get more daddies to talk? Or do we need to? Honest answers here. 🙏

Eh o don’t know there are lots I’d daddy’s that are uber focused on there personals active yes but for that one but lots of littles do seem to post on all the other things but even then there a a good bit of regular daddy posters

[Daddy Marc]

Thanks everyone- i do think that there are lots of people coming and going. People who join and try it out to see if it is there thing. So I believe that is all allowed. I have been impressed so far as to the community response to things that are not polite being done. 
 

like last week I saw a post on a topic by a daddy/ dom saying graphically what he wanted to do to that little. It was red flagged and the post was removed, but the support for the little was amazing. 
 

Guys or DDs don’t tend to speak that much to each other, which is my experience so far. I have made friends with a few littles and we chat here and off line which is really nice too. 
 

But still I think the culture of the community is to be open to everyone who wants to join, to be educational and inclusive.

 

I have started posting on and replying in a few topics as I am interested in making friends both littles and DDs 

 

Really appreciate the responses!

 

 

Marc

Edited Wednesday at 09:23 AM by Daddy Marc
Bad spelling

[-Soul-]

Family look out for family  I get we ain’t that but to me that’s what this community is 

[MissAnna]

34 minutes ago, -Soul- said:

Family look out for family  I get we ain’t that but to me that’s what this community is 

We are family daddy, like Lilo and Stitch. We may not look the same or even like the same things but we are still family.

Ohana means family and family means no one gets left behind 🥰

[Daddy Marc]

1 hour ago, MissAnna said:

We are family daddy, like Lilo and Stitch. We may not look the same or even like the same things but we are still family.

Ohana means family and family means no one gets left behind 🥰

Well said 

[Faelin]

Found families are families. Usually the best type of family. 

"This is my family. I found it, all on my own. It's little, and broken, but still good. Yeah, still good."-Stitch

[MissNMTX]

Found families are often better. In my experience the sense of genuine loyalty is much stronger.

[Daddy Marc]

All of this is beautiful