need some advice on how to cope with psychological pressure

[melissa_kastya]

I don't think this is the most important question ever asked here, but I just want to express myself a little and ask for advice (｡´-д-)。 

So, my family is pretty... conservative. They're not extremely religious or anything like that, it's more that it's just the norm in the area where I live, where they grew up, and they've absorbed it over the years. That's why I feel very uncomfortable around my parents, hehe, yes. I really love and cherish my mom, I love my dad, even though he's, to put it mildly, a domestic tyrant, but they're the only ones I have.  

The thing is, they put a lot of pressure on me.

"Do you have a boyfriend yet?",

"You know you need a successful, intelligent man."

"It's high time you got married."

"You're twenty years old, it's time to think about a family."  etc... 

I hear this kind of thing almost every day, every time we interact. These are some of the first questions my parents ask me when we meet. It's annoying and depressing, to be honest, and it makes me feel inadequate every time. Am I really not good enough for someone like that man who's they talking about pay attention to me? Ugh, questions like these just eat away at my brain for days after... _(:3 」∠)_  

By the age of mine, my mother already had two children. She got married at 18, her mother got married at 17, her mother's mother at 17, and so on... But I don't want that! I'm just starting to understand what's going on around me! I like studying, learning about the world, just enjoying the moment here and now! I don't want a husband, I don't want children, I don't want a family, at least not in the near future.

I don't know how to stop taking their words so close to heart... I don't want to argue or fight with them about it, they want what's best for me, but in their own way, it's the world they grew up in, and I grew up in a different one, and that thought is a little comforting, but to be honest, it doesn't make it much better. 

If you have any advice on how to discuss this with them, or maybe you've been in a similar situation, I'd love to hear it!🌺 Thanks for listening to me, haha, it still sounds confusing, I know:p  

Edited yesterday at 07:04 AM by melissa_kastya