Socializing is hard. Venting…

[LissyLu]

Right now I’m just sitting here crying because I’m seeing people happily chatting and I know I’ll never be able to happily chat back because I can’t keep up even if I want to. I feel like I need someone to hold my hand through group conversations and that’s just not realistic. It’s not realistic because no one’s ever going to remember me in times when they’re happily chatting like that. I’m the type of person that has to be really thought about to be remembered. I’m not going to be someone’s first choice to hang out with and I’m certainly not going to be in their mind when they do anything fun. I’m just a walking burden to people. At least that’s how I feel.

[frantastic]

Oh sweetie. I hate that you see yourself that way. I used to feel that way about myself as well. I completely understand it but, to some people you aren't a burden. I am certain of that. If you ever need someone to listen add me and I will listen.  I may not always respond right away but. I will respond.

[MasterPhotog]

On 3/2/2026 at 4:46 PM, LissyLu said:

Right now I’m just sitting here crying because I’m seeing people happily chatting and I know I’ll never be able to happily chat back because I can’t keep up even if I want to. I feel like I need someone to hold my hand through group conversations and that’s just not realistic. It’s not realistic because no one’s ever going to remember me in times when they’re happily chatting like that. I’m the type of person that has to be really thought about to be remembered. I’m not going to be someone’s first choice to hang out with and I’m certainly not going to be in their mind when they do anything fun. I’m just a walking burden to people. At least that’s how I feel.

@LissyLu I’m really sorry you’re hurting like this right now. Sitting there and watching others chat while feeling like you can’t join in the way you want to can feel incredibly lonely, and it makes sense that it would bring up a lot of heavy thoughts about where you fit in. Your feelings are real and valid.

But the way you’re seeing yourself right now—like a burden or someone people won’t remember—is a really painful story your mind is telling you in this moment of hurt. Feeling slower in conversations or needing more time doesn’t make you less worthy of connection. There are people who appreciate depth, kindness, and presence far more than quick replies.

You don’t have to keep up with every conversation to matter to people. The right connections often grow in quieter, slower ways, and your way of being in the world has value even if it looks different from others. You deserve friendships where you’re welcomed just as you are, possibly in a one-on-one conversation or messaging to start with. 

For now, try to be gentle with yourself. This moment of pain doesn’t define your whole story. You’re not a burden at all, but a human being who’s hurting and who deserves understanding, patience, and real connection. And those kinds of connections can still find their way to you. 💛