Socializing is hard. Venting…

[LissyLu]

Right now I’m just sitting here crying because I’m seeing people happily chatting and I know I’ll never be able to happily chat back because I can’t keep up even if I want to. I feel like I need someone to hold my hand through group conversations and that’s just not realistic. It’s not realistic because no one’s ever going to remember me in times when they’re happily chatting like that. I’m the type of person that has to be really thought about to be remembered. I’m not going to be someone’s first choice to hang out with and I’m certainly not going to be in their mind when they do anything fun. I’m just a walking burden to people. At least that’s how I feel.

[frantastic]

Oh sweetie. I hate that you see yourself that way. I used to feel that way about myself as well. I completely understand it but, to some people you aren't a burden. I am certain of that. If you ever need someone to listen add me and I will listen.  I may not always respond right away but. I will respond.

[MasterPhotog]

On 3/2/2026 at 4:46 PM, LissyLu said:

Right now I’m just sitting here crying because I’m seeing people happily chatting and I know I’ll never be able to happily chat back because I can’t keep up even if I want to. I feel like I need someone to hold my hand through group conversations and that’s just not realistic. It’s not realistic because no one’s ever going to remember me in times when they’re happily chatting like that. I’m the type of person that has to be really thought about to be remembered. I’m not going to be someone’s first choice to hang out with and I’m certainly not going to be in their mind when they do anything fun. I’m just a walking burden to people. At least that’s how I feel.

@LissyLu I’m really sorry you’re hurting like this right now. Sitting there and watching others chat while feeling like you can’t join in the way you want to can feel incredibly lonely, and it makes sense that it would bring up a lot of heavy thoughts about where you fit in. Your feelings are real and valid.

But the way you’re seeing yourself right now—like a burden or someone people won’t remember—is a really painful story your mind is telling you in this moment of hurt. Feeling slower in conversations or needing more time doesn’t make you less worthy of connection. There are people who appreciate depth, kindness, and presence far more than quick replies.

You don’t have to keep up with every conversation to matter to people. The right connections often grow in quieter, slower ways, and your way of being in the world has value even if it looks different from others. You deserve friendships where you’re welcomed just as you are, possibly in a one-on-one conversation or messaging to start with. 

For now, try to be gentle with yourself. This moment of pain doesn’t define your whole story. You’re not a burden at all, but a human being who’s hurting and who deserves understanding, patience, and real connection. And those kinds of connections can still find their way to you. 💛

[RainbowJackCutie]

Hello 👋 I read this and I been trying to be a little bit more social on here and this touched my heart cause I know the feeling. Before I joined this there was times where that’s all I did was sit and cry because I saw people so happy chatting with each other and talking about all their little gear and going to events and celebrating things in their life and for me watching people getting the chance to transition and I felt the same way. I felt when I was happy and had people chatting with me on a different site they would stop talking to me or kinda leave dry messages cause they said I was to childish and more less made me feel bad cause I didn’t get the chance to experience what they have done. I myself struggle with keeping a conversation going like verbally and it makes others frustrated and I feel the same about needing someone to hold my hand and that’s just not realistic.

 

I feel that to when you said “It’s not realistic because no one’s ever going to remember me in times when they’re happily chatting like that.” For me as you can see I can leave a long message and that can irritate people so I do apologize in advance but I just wanna reach out and share my thoughts and experiences with you so you know you ain’t the only one that feels like this. I never been anyone’s first choice either unfortunately so I can relate to that as well and I feel the same way that nobody is gonna have me in their mind when they are doing anything fun. For years I felt like that to. Like I was just a walking burden to people and I still struggle with that now unfortunately. In a way I can relate to how you feel and I’m so sorry you feel that way 🥺

 

You sound like a nice person and I wish I could give you a big giant teddy bear hug 🤗  I wish I could send a giant rainbow your way to help you feel a little bit better 🌈 nobody desvers to feel like a burden and it’s sad that’s even a word that even exists to be honest. Trust me I know it’s hard to believe when someone says you aren’t a burden . It’s hard to believe that when you felt like that for so long. I hope one day you will see you aren’t a burden and there are people that do care about you and are glad you are apart of their lives. I really hope things get better for you one day🥰

 

 

Im sending you all the pretty smelling flowers I can find and sending them your way and hope that helps as well. For me personally it’s like I’m in my own little world watching this amazing magical world around me and there’s this invisible force of a wall that won’t let me go to the other side where everyone is happy but it’s see through so I can only watch. I also have a hard time keeping up with a conversation when someone replies with “ok” or something like that cause I never know what to say. I also struggle with fitting in to unfortunately and it can be very frustrating and scary trying to find a place where you feel accepted and loved. I do agree with @MasterPhotog when they said “ The right connections often grow in quieter, slower ways, and your way of being in the world has value even if it looks different from others. You deserve friendships where you’re welcomed just as you are, possibly in a one-on-one conversation or messaging to start with. 

For now, try to be gentle with yourself. This moment of pain doesn’t define your whole story. You’re not a burden at all, but a human being who’s hurting and who deserves understanding, patience, and real connection and  those kinds of connections can still find their way to you. 💛”

I felt that in my heart and soul and I feel like that a really good way to remember it so thank you for saying that @MasterPhotog

 

If you ever wanna chat @LissyLu I would love to chat with you 🥰 again i apologize for this being so long but I wanted to reach out to you and give you the biggest hugs and stuffies to! I really hope you are doing well and hey just think to spring is gonna be coming as well so the flowers are gonna be in bloom soon. Do you have a favorite flower by the way?

 

Oh gosh this is really long my apologies I send you all the positive vibes your way 🌈🧸☀️

[LissyLu]

1 hour ago, RainbowJackCutie said:

Hello 👋 I read this and I been trying to be a little bit more social on here and this touched my heart cause I know the feeling. Before I joined this there was times where that’s all I did was sit and cry because I saw people so happy chatting with each other and talking about all their little gear and going to events and celebrating things in their life and for me watching people getting the chance to transition and I felt the same way. I felt when I was happy and had people chatting with me on a different site they would stop talking to me or kinda leave dry messages cause they said I was to childish and more less made me feel bad cause I didn’t get the chance to experience what they have done. I myself struggle with keeping a conversation going like verbally and it makes others frustrated and I feel the same about needing someone to hold my hand and that’s just not realistic.

 

I feel that to when you said “It’s not realistic because no one’s ever going to remember me in times when they’re happily chatting like that.” For me as you can see I can leave a long message and that can irritate people so I do apologize in advance but I just wanna reach out and share my thoughts and experiences with you so you know you ain’t the only one that feels like this. I never been anyone’s first choice either unfortunately so I can relate to that as well and I feel the same way that nobody is gonna have me in their mind when they are doing anything fun. For years I felt like that to. Like I was just a walking burden to people and I still struggle with that now unfortunately. In a way I can relate to how you feel and I’m so sorry you feel that way 🥺

 

You sound like a nice person and I wish I could give you a big giant teddy bear hug 🤗  I wish I could send a giant rainbow your way to help you feel a little bit better 🌈 nobody desvers to feel like a burden and it’s sad that’s even a word that even exists to be honest. Trust me I know it’s hard to believe when someone says you aren’t a burden . It’s hard to believe that when you felt like that for so long. I hope one day you will see you aren’t a burden and there are people that do care about you and are glad you are apart of their lives. I really hope things get better for you one day🥰

 

 

Im sending you all the pretty smelling flowers I can find and sending them your way and hope that helps as well. For me personally it’s like I’m in my own little world watching this amazing magical world around me and there’s this invisible force of a wall that won’t let me go to the other side where everyone is happy but it’s see through so I can only watch. I also have a hard time keeping up with a conversation when someone replies with “ok” or something like that cause I never know what to say. I also struggle with fitting in to unfortunately and it can be very frustrating and scary trying to find a place where you feel accepted and loved. I do agree with @MasterPhotog when they said “ The right connections often grow in quieter, slower ways, and your way of being in the world has value even if it looks different from others. You deserve friendships where you’re welcomed just as you are, possibly in a one-on-one conversation or messaging to start with. 

For now, try to be gentle with yourself. This moment of pain doesn’t define your whole story. You’re not a burden at all, but a human being who’s hurting and who deserves understanding, patience, and real connection and  those kinds of connections can still find their way to you. 💛”

I felt that in my heart and soul and I feel like that a really good way to remember it so thank you for saying that @MasterPhotog

 

If you ever wanna chat @LissyLu I would love to chat with you 🥰 again i apologize for this being so long but I wanted to reach out to you and give you the biggest hugs and stuffies to! I really hope you are doing well and hey just think to spring is gonna be coming as well so the flowers are gonna be in bloom soon. Do you have a favorite flower by the way?

 

Oh gosh this is really long my apologies I send you all the positive vibes your way 🌈🧸☀️

Thank you for the beautiful long message. I enjoyed reading it. You’re very kind. 

The best part of the forum is that you can be as childlike as you want and need. The active people on here are very nice and supportive. When I made this post I was upset about not being able to keep up with a group conversation on a discord server’s general chat. Because I couldn’t keep up I felt like no one had the chance to get to know me. But I decided that posting in calmer sections of the server would also allow people to get to know me.

I’m very excited for spring! My favorite flowers are daisies and sunflowers :3

[RainbowJackCutie]

You are so welcome 🤗 I see that from what I have been reading and I been slowly trying to interact with others on here as well when I see something I can relate to and share my experience as well. Ah I use to have discord but I got rid of it cause I had a ex on there and he was really toxic and then I had a friend on there that more less got to busy and didn’t have time for me and yeah I just felt like it was better if I didn’t have it . I can understand about keeping up with group conversations. For me I would get way to overwhelmed. I rather have a one on one with someone if that makes sense. So far I really like it here I know I haven’t posted or anything like that much but I find this a really calming place .oooo my dog name is Daisy 🌼 my favorite flowers are lilac's, roses and Lillies 

[LissyLu]

10 minutes ago, RainbowJackCutie said:

You are so welcome 🤗 I see that from what I have been reading and I been slowly trying to interact with others on here as well when I see something I can relate to and share my experience as well. Ah I use to have discord but I got rid of it cause I had a ex on there and he was really toxic and then I had a friend on there that more less got to busy and didn’t have time for me and yeah I just felt like it was better if I didn’t have it . I can understand about keeping up with group conversations. For me I would get way to overwhelmed. I rather have a one on one with someone if that makes sense. So far I really like it here I know I haven’t posted or anything like that much but I find this a really calming place .oooo my dog name is Daisy 🌼 my favorite flowers are lilac's, roses and Lillies 

I would also rather chat one on one with someone than in a group conversation. Although I also don’t know what to say sometimes in one on one convos. It’s rough in my brain

The forum is really nice. Chatting one on one in the dms is nice on here too because I feel like I get more time to think and feel less pressured to respond fast

Daisy is an adorable pup name! And those are lovely flowers too. I love flowers in general 😊