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I tried I really did but I'm giving up I'm to much of a pathetic loser for this I will never find a little I'm giving up goodbye 

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@andy332 

Please don’t talk about yourself that way. You are not pathetic, and you are not a loser. I know things feel painfully heavy right now, especially when you’ve been trying so hard and it seems like nothing is working, but giving up on yourself isn’t the answer.

Finding suitable little can take time, and sometimes the loneliness makes it feel impossible, but that does not mean you are unworthy of connection or kindness. The fact that you tried already shows strength, even if you can’t see it right now.

Be gentle with yourself tonight. You don’t have to have everything figured out immediately. Take things one step at a time, keep going, and don’t let this moment convince you that your whole future is hopeless. There is special little out there who appreciates you, understands you, and want you in their life.

Please stay strong. Even when you feel exhausted, your story is not over yet.

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Hi @andy332,

Honestly I have been there, and honestly it doesn't matter if you think you are 'a loser' - I think I'm amazing 😄. I think I'm fantastic and caring, intelligent and kind, attentive and supportive... and still I nearly gave up just like you. I felt terrible. It felt impossible. I was miserable.

I think a lot of Daddies have been through trauma that we don't often speak about, or not deeply. It's our experience with being hurt that can make us such good carers. Some of us are well aware of what it is like to suffer for our cause, to endure through darkness, to question hope. Know that all this pain is temporary, and when it passes, and it will, you will only be a better CG and better Daddy for having been through it.

You are not alone. It is so hard to find someone who is a good match. For me the connection is so important. I want something very deep and true. Something real and beautiful. 

We have to recognise that when we are looking for something so beautiful and special it will take time to find - and we must remember that when we do find it, it will be worth more than all the time that could ever exist in the universe to have found it.

If you need to take a break, then take a break. I say never give up. Keep bumping your personal. Keep being kind and helpful. Keep showing the community who you are.

One day out of nowhere the perfect Little for you will appear. She will give no advanced warning. She will just materialise into your life as if she has always belonged there.

... and you will forget the time when she didn't.

I am still looking, but I know she is out there. 

Believe in yourself, and believe in her.

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Hi,

Im a little and I dont tend to look at personals. I want to see your about page and how you interact in the forum.  

Others may just look at personals.  I would encourage you to fill out the rest of your profile and interact with us in all the spaces. Once we get to see who you are, you will attract more people. 

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On 5/12/2026 at 3:33 PM, innerchildtml said:

Hi,

Im a little and I dont tend to look at personals. I want to see your about page and how you interact in the forum.  

Others may just look at personals.  I would encourage you to fill out the rest of your profile and interact with us in all the spaces. Once we get to see who you are, you will attract more people. 

I don't interact much so you won't miss anything 

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44 minutes ago, andy332 said:

I don't interact much so you won't miss anything 

I think thats my point. If you want to find a little here, then please start interacting with us.  

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1 hour ago, innerchildtml said:

I think thats my point. If you want to find a little here, then please start interacting with us.  

To damn scared to

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23 hours ago, andy332 said:

To damn scared to

I understand feeling scared. Us littles are a lot. We're happy and bubbly and silly and then dissolve into tears when we drop our snacks or spill on our clothes or accidentally color the wrong color on our picture.... 😳😱🫣

But we are people, just like you. We are all looking for acceptance of who we are and that is so frightening.  It means sharing a small part of ourselves with someone else, then building a relationship.  

So pause a minute. Take a deep breath. It doesn't have to be no little or suddenly a full dynamic. Start with making one friend. Maybe post one thing you enjoy doing in your free time on your about me page. Start there with something simple like type of music or movies you like, gaming, what you like to read, do you like nature or indoors, or foods you enjoy. It could lead to a friendship and friends is where it all starts. 

Take time to feel safe here in our safe community. No one will attack you here, and if they do, the admin will take care of it. 

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