I have a question for you guys!

[babygurl397]

If a dom played me along like he enjoyed me but we were long distance and i ended up not hearing from him for a while and then out of no where he responded to me and said hey I am driving across multiple states to see you and we talked while he was driving the whole time and i was under the impression we were making plans but suddenly he wont pick up the phone or answer on the day he was supposed to show up and now im sitting here wondering if it was my fault and really depressed. Is it my fault? I am just confused, lonely and distraught so confused. 

[BabyPoppy]

This sounds kinda scary to me. Be careful.  I think the inconsistency is a pretty big red flag. Keep yourself safe. 

[babygurl397]

Thank you I had thought a very similar thing as well as huge inconsistancys and lies i caught him in i never said anything about it but whats sad is he truely made me fall for him and each time ghosted me it seems like its super intentional at this point to be fair. Thank you tho i do try to be super safe and cautious. 

[Tendillo]

10 hours ago, babygurl397 said:

Thank you I had thought a very similar thing as well as huge inconsistancys and lies i caught him in i never said anything about it but whats sad is he truely made me fall for him and each time ghosted me it seems like its super intentional at this point to be fair. Thank you tho i do try to be super safe and cautious. 

Don't immediately blame yourself or think that it's somehow your fault.

He sounds very inconsistent and quite unpredictable. Who would drive across states at the drop of a hat without even checking you'd be around or whether it's convenient for you?

That's putting unnecessary pressure and worry on you and sounds like he's taking advantage of your feelings for him.

Lies as well? Now he's ghosting you, not for the first time. Sorry, but you need to be clear with him next time you speak and tell him that this is unacceptable and, as BabyPoppy says, it's a big red flag.

Please don't let this guy play you, or treat you this way. You deserve better, don't you?

[redruffle41]

I'm so sorry you're sitting in this situation. You deserve better. You deserve someone who will communicate at the very least. This is beyond the normal relationship issues of compatibility and baggage. Don't let your willingness to be a positive relational person lead you into being workable with unacceptable behaviors.  I wouldn't work with this person. 

[innerchildtml]

This sounds very disconserting.  Personally it seems like this is at his convenience and relationships of any kind shouldn't be about convenience.

I am worried about you and these red flags. Please be safe. We are here if you need us.

[Juju]

It is not your fault! He's playing mind games.  Don't let him do that to you! Just walk away and never look back cause this guy, is basically causing you emotional and mental abuse. Think how it would be if you actually got together! I don't think you'd want that.  

But even so, I want you to remember, you didn't do anything wrong, whatsoever! He's not Daddy material and this is something that happens more often then it should, for both sides of the coin.  

Hang in there! Not all Daddy's are like this. There are some really really good ones out there. You'll find the one (or he'll find you), you're suppose to be with eventually. It just takes patience. 

I hope you're okay.  You came to the right place for help.  Allot of people here have gone thru the same stuff and can help you. 

[MasterPhotog]

@babygurl397  I'm really sorry you're going through this. From what you've shared, it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong. If someone spends hours talking with you, tells you they're on their way, makes it seem like plans are happening, and then suddenly disappears without any explanation, it's understandable that you'd feel confused, hurt, and disappointed.

The hardest part is often not having answers. Right now, your mind is probably trying to fill in the blanks and wondering if you somehow caused this, but the truth is that none of us can know why he stopped responding. His lack of communication is a reflection of his choices, not your worth as a person.

Your feelings are completely understandable. Anyone would feel lonely, anxious, and upset in this situation. Be gentle with yourself while you wait for clarity. You deserve honesty, respect, and consistent communication from someone who cares about you.

I hope you get answers soon, but regardless of what happens, please remember that his silence does not define your value as a person, sub or little. Sending you a big hug and hoping you're able to lean on friends, family, or others who care about you while you get through this. ❤️