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  1. 1. Should I tell him?

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So I'm a little. No one knows this. Well you do now. ^-^ Anyways, neither does my boyfriend. I've introduced this lifestyle to him, but he completely dismissed it. Thought it was weird. Buuuuuuuuuuuut. I'm a manipulative little shit. I may or may not have slowly started to make him a dom without realizing. It's a bit of a struggle not calling him daddy, but I do get to call him Peter Bear. And he calls me his kitten. And slowly but surely he's becoming more in charge of me, and liking me being so submissive.

 

 

I feel horrible sometimes though. I'll go into little space and act like a little kid, especially around him. Oh, and clingy definitely clingy. So I want to tell him, but I don't know if I should.  :unsure:  It makes me worried most the time that i'm an idiotic little, and leave me for someone else. Am I the only one with this problem?

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"Im probably the only on"- You're not, trust me. 

Look, I know this isnt what you want to hear but it's all about compatibility.
Deep down you know the answer. 

I cant exactly tell you what his reaction to it will be. Sadly it might be hard for him at first to grasp the whole "Daddy" concept, as it packs alot of negative connotations, but hopefully he might sit down and listen, read about it and embrace it. 

Bottom line is, this is something we sometimes have to consider if we can or cannot live without.
If he doesnt accept it, and you'll find yourself in a "vanila relationship"- it's up to you to judge whether you can or cannot be happy with that. 
If you dont- you should probably consider a break up. 
I know, that's really hard, no question about it, but you're incredibly young(bet you're sick of hearing that) and
there is nothing wrong with exploring this side of yours. 


Sleep on it. If you do choose to tell him, consider collecting a bunch of insightful threads about the actual dynamic and share it with him. 

Good luck, and I hope things will turn out great for  the both of you.

 

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So I'm a little. No one knows this. Well you do now. ^-^ Anyways, neither does my boyfriend. I've introduced this lifestyle to him, but he completely dismissed it. Thought it was weird. Buuuuuuuuuuuut. I'm a manipulative little shit. I may or may not have slowly started to make him a dom without realizing. It's a bit of a struggle not calling him daddy, but I do get to call him Peter Bear. And he calls me his kitten. And slowly but surely he's becoming more in charge of me, and liking me being so submissive.

 

 

I feel horrible sometimes though. I'll go into little space and act like a little kid, especially around him. Oh, and clingy definitely clingy. So I want to tell him, but I don't know if I should.  :unsure:  It makes me worried most the time that i'm an idiotic little, and leave me for someone else. Am I the only one with this problem?

 

 

I don't think this is okay for your relationship personally. If your partner is uncomfortable with anything, you have to either drop it, or discuss it like the adults you are. If you feel as though your partner isn't filling those caregiver needs that you have, then maybe it's time to move on. You can't force someone to be a dominant, or a caregiver. Not only is it unfair and hurtful to them, it's not right. You have to listen to your partners needs too, and respect them, even if you don't necessarily agree with them. If you truly love your partner, and you want them to be comfortable, you shouldn't push them into something they don't want to do. I'd say discuss it with them, and if their answer still stands as no, or if they "ignore you" then drop it. Not everyone is comfortable with the DD/lg lifestyle, and if your partner isn't, respect that.

 

Princess Diana, I am sorry, but i do not see anything in little Nova's post that says he was uncomfortable with it. However, he did completely dismiss Little Nova, the first time she tried to bring it up to him. That does not mean uncomfortable,  and without more information, it is really hard to tell why he dismissed it.

 

Now, Little Nova, I would talk to him, There are a few posts on this site about how to tell a "vanilla boyfriend" about DD/lg. I do not have those links handy, but I would come forward to him and let him know what you have been doing and what you want out of the relationship. If you do not, and you keep on manipulating him, it might cause your relationship more harm then good. 

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i feel like you need to trust him with it. i know it would be a horrible thing if things ended after you told him. but when you are a little i feel like its something thats a big part of you and something you cant just dismiss. and if he truly loves you then he will understand. he may not always go with it but at least he will know and you wont have to hide. I know as a daddy. and never having actually had a little i feel the same when it comes to telling someone. i only have a few close friends that know. thats why i want to find a little for myself. and have it be a forever little. i want someone i dont have to hide that from. someone i can treat like a princess and have call me daddy. someone i can make snacks for and color with. i feel like if youre already kind of getting him to do things like a daddy. then you could just tell him and explain it more and i think he would be ok with it.

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I do find a problem with you manipulating your partner into doing/being anything he hasn't specifically agreed to. If let's say roles were reversed and he wanted to shape you into his perfect little submissive little through manipulation, you'll get a lot of people telling you how he's not healthy for you, how he doesn't respect you, that this simply isn't okay and so on. I don't think this is much different. People aren't made of play dough and they shouldn't be reconstructed into anyone's perfect "toy," you're changing the person, so end of the day he would be completely different to the one you started the relationship with. You're doing it behind his back, so I see this as a form of dishonesty. Does it really sound like a healthy relationship? 

 

I would 100% tell him about it, come clean about everything actually. Everything new and unknown can be weird to a person, so his initial reaction can be changed after a good talk about the dynamic, giving him some resources, examples, so on. If he doesn't change his mind then that's okay too, DDlg isn't meant for everyone and you should respect it and probably not push further. Maybe work on a compromise if you want to keep the relationship going, maybe drop it all together, because relationships do require some sacrifices, maybe just look for someone else, if the DDlg aspect of the relationship matters so much to you that you can't see yourself being in a relationship without it. 100% up to you, it's your life and you make the decisions. Wish you best of luck with your partner ^..^ *virtual hug* 

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Ok, I was very unclear. I now understand that. First off, it's not really manipulation as it is giving the idea. He understands i'm almost 100% of the time a child. Childlike, ect. I'm technically his first girlfriend, basically his first serious. So he's open to me and my ideas. Like I call him big bear, he calls me kitten. He'll even be childish with me. Honestly with me around he's becoming dominent on his own. I know for a fact, nothing is going downhill, no one is anyone's toy, oh, and he does take care of me. Very much so. ^-^

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All I will say on this one is that you cannot "make someone a dom" unless it's just a bit of role play that you are after, and not a real, full relationship dynamic.

I would never be with someone who didn't really want to embrace and fully accept who I was as a person, and would certainly never try to change anyone to fit my ideals.

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All I will say on this one is that you cannot "make someone a dom" unless it's just a bit of role play that you are after, and not a real, full relationship dynamic.

I would never be with someone who didn't really want to embrace and fully accept who I was as a person, and would certainly never try to change anyone to fit my ideals.

He accepts me as i am now. So I may or may not tell him. And I'm not changing him.

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