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I don't think I want my Daddy to be my Daddy anymore but I don't want to break up. I just don't think I want him as a Daddy Dom. Emotionally it's not good for right now. I also don't feel that he's using his powers as a Daddy for good anymore, just for his good. Lately I've felt as if he has been using me just for sex. 

 

Is there a good way to tell my boyfriend that I don't want him to carry out that role in my life anymore without him thinking I'm breaking up with him?

Do you think he would just break up with me?

Can I even ask that of someone? 

 

Some advice would be wonderful. Thank you!

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Guest Pouty Kitten

If you feel like he's just using you for sex, why would you still want to be with him- DDlg or not? I think it's important that you talk to him about your feelings, just as Remi stated above. I just don't see how making your relationship vanilla would help your feeling of being used. Could you please explain further?

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As always open communication is extremely important, remember a DD/lg relationship is a two-way street. He may be the Dominant but you also have the right to agree on rules, and set limits. Have you ever done research with him online about the lifestyle? Maybe you should start or give him a refresher about what goes into the relationship. Try pulling up articles or posts that are on here. Show him what areas that are important to you and then ask him what he wants out of this lifestyle. Based on him meeting your requirements and his needs you can come to a conclusion on whether or not you can continue this type of relationship.

 

If he doesn't want to change his ways then you need to make a decision. Do you want him and not the lifestyle, or is it time to let him go. Either decision will be extremely difficult and I wish you the best.

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Guest ♥ Lee ♥

If you feel like he's just using you for sex, why would you still want to be with him- DDlg or not? I think it's important that you talk to him about your feelings, just as Remi stated above. I just don't see how making your relationship vanilla would help your feeling of being used. Could you please explain further?

 

I just thought that if he wasn't my daddy anymore he wouldn't have any excuse for me to have sex with him. 

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I just thought that if he wasn't my daddy anymore he wouldn't have any excuse for me to have sex with him. 

 

Whether your dynamic is DDlg or not, nobody should expect sex from anyone.

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Whether your dynamic is DDlg or not, nobody should expect sex from anyone.

That's true a daddy or bf should never just assume a little or girl has to give him sex.  It just depends on her mood or thoughts, if that's what she wants or not.  It's not good to take anything for granted.  If a daddy or bf treats her in a way she wants or expects "maybe" she will enjoy the sex and intimacy.  If not he should just relax and enjoy her company.  She will probably love her daddy or bf a whole lot more if he doesn't pressure her for sex.  Just some thoughts on it.

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DDlg isn't just about sex... or really about Sex at all. If you "daddy" is just using this as an excuse to get laid... he's a jerk and you should probably just walk away. Also, anyone that uses cg/l dynamics as a manipulation tool for sex.. is a douchebag and makes the rest of us look bad. So.. yea. Doubly leave him. You're not a piece of cake - You're a human being. 

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