distant daddy

[toribaby]

My daddys really distant now and hardly ever talks to me and doesn't send me good morning texts anymore or hardly any texts he says hes just busy and that there's nobody else but I feel like hes lying to me.

[TurtleTheKittenTamer]

Do you trust him? Did he say what he is busy with?

I am sorry to see that you seem to be going through a hard time

[toribaby]

He works Monday-Friday but usually he always texts me at work and good morning and he didn't today and the past 4 days hes been real distant and hardly ever talks to me but says hes not going anywhere but if he has a new little or something id rather him tell me.

[Guest Gentle.Bear.Spirit]

You know that work is not a consistent thing and sometimes a lot of stress can appear out of nowhere. While you do need to determine if he has chosen another little it may just be time for you to support him. Remember these relationships are a two way street and the support/love needs to travel both directions. Why don't you ask him if there is something at work that is bothering him? See if you can help him in any way. 

 

You should also look up Dom Drop and determine if that is happening.

[toribaby]

Thank you I will

[Guest LaidBackDaddy]

4 days is a lifetime for a long distance relationship. Also, texts and non-video Skype chatting, Kik, etc are devoid of body language and facial expressions and voice inflection. So much is not just lost in translation but can also be invented in our own minds, when when think something might be wrong.

 

That said, when a Daddy has been texting "Good Morning" consistently and suddenly stops, that is not usually a good sign. Give it more then one day though. He may have just forgot this morning, or his phone was dead or he was running late or, a family member called that he has a hard time getting off the phone with or..... the list of reasons can go on and on.

 

The point is, watch for consistent behavior in a relationship, when the consistency changes to something else, i.e. suddenly he consistently never texts good morning for a week, then maybe something has changed that should make you question what is going on.

 

Final point, or rather a rant...i feel it coming.... when I am in a DDlg relatioship, I have a contract. This contract describes not just the rules the Baby Girl is expected to follow, but also the responsibilities of the Daddy Dom. (did I emphasize that enough?   i would have put sparkles on it if I could)

 

As a Daddy I take the responsibility of consistently providing certain things to the one I am pledging to care for. Not just vauge promises I can weasel out of later with poor excuses. Not only this, but as the Daddy Dom I damn well ought to be better at follow through with my responsibilities then the Baby Girl. It is difficult to engender respect and faithful submissiveness and obedience when you can't provide your promises of care consistently. Such simple things like a text good morning everyday or a tuck in at the end of the day, or even better, "Thats' my girl" after she messages about her smallest daily achievements. How can we expect a Little/Middle to do what they are suppose to when we can't do it ourselves? Not perfect, no one is, but a lot better then "Oops, I forgot/got busy". Nothing should be more busy then your Little/Middle is important.

 

Littles, get contracts from your Daddies. Don't put up with arbitrary rules you are expected to follow, but clearly defined ones. Littles, don't accept complacency. Expect the Daddy to offer up responsibilities to you in the contract that he intends to provide to you. If you are making a contract with a Daddy and he isn't willing to put down in black and white what he is willing to do for you, do not agree to a power exchange. Please.

 

ok... I will stop ranting...

[Guest D@ddyDom]

I am sorry that he has become distant with you. Continual contact is very important to a little when there is a geographical separation. He should be doing a better job to make you feel at ease. On the other hand, trust has the same value in an long distance relationship. This can be very difficult because you have no idea what is happening. If you have trusted him enough to offer your submission than you have to trust that he is really busy.

 

This is where the open communication comes into play. Don't accuse him of wrong doing instead express how you are feeling and why you need his attention. Try to come up with a mutually beneficial idea to help with this issue.

 

I believe he is in the wrong....it doesn't take long to send a text. He should understand that as a caregiver he needs to provide safety and security. It sounds like you aren't feeling that way right now. Tell him ASAP.

 

Good Luck

[Guest]

Try spelling it out to him about exactly what you are feeling. Tell him that this distance is causing you a lot of stress and worry but also make sure you let him know that you are there for him. There could be something going on in his life that he is hesitant to open up about, he could be trying to protect you and instead is inadvertently hurting your feelings. 

 

I tend to be a bit suspicious myself, "busy with work" is sort of a silly excuse when it only takes a few seconds to text someone "good morning" & "good night"

 

But rather than stress yourself out, you need to make sure you are being totally open with him.

 

Finally, if weeks pass and you are still aren't getting the degree of attention and care that you require, it may be time to move on, sadly.

 

I do wish you the best of luck!!!

[sushishui]

I agree with what everyone else has been saying. This sounds like trouble. I think you guys need to have a serious talk about this as soon as possible. I can be busy with work, but I've never been too busy to text the woman I love.

[toribaby]

He finally told me that he didn't want this anymore

[Guest]

I am so sorry to hear that

[sushishui]

I'm sorry as well, but at least you got a straight answer out of him, so you won't be wasting your time on him anymore. I hope things pick up for you soon.

[littlelili]

I'm sorry that you received these sad news. However I agree with Sushishui. It's better to know the truth all of sudden so you can make decisions, and keep going.

Hugs x

[cutie_patootie]

I'm sorry that you had to go through this Tori but treat it as a learning experience.  It's certainly much better than being abandoned with no explanation whatsoever...

[toribaby]

Thanks everyone