Daddies don't stop being Daddies when little-less

[Daddy Itzae]

OK guys, let's talk.

 

Real daddies don't stop feeling daddies when they aren't in a ddlg relationship. At least that's my posture and my experience.

 

My question to you guys is, what do you do when you are little-less and feel deep into Daddy Space? What sort of activities do you enjoy then, or what do you do to help you stay in that space and enjoy it?

[Guest MasterPhotog]

@Daddy Itzae, thanks for starting a great discussion. 

I too often wonder what other little-less Daddies do. In my case, I reach out and offer to be of help newbie lg/bg's.

Often some newbies seek my advice. Either way it's all good. What do you do yourself? 

[Guest Purple_Panda]

This is actually very interesting, as there is lots of ways a little can go into little space without a daddy around and people often ask how a little can go into little space without a daddy, but nobody ever seems to question the opposite, how a daddy can go into daddy-space without the aid of a little. I am very curious as to what a daddy does when they are in their daddy-space without a little.

 

Lots of love Blue!

[Daddy Itzae]

@Daddy Itzae, thanks for starting a great discussion. 

I too often wonder what other little-less Daddies do. In my case, I reach out and offer to be of help newbie lg/bg's.

Often some newbies seek my advice. Either way it's all good. What do you do yourself? 

 

I used to serve as a Protector for a little in the chatroom in here. I would often fend off creepers and confront guys molesting her. I guess I have a White Knight complex because it was something I did with gusto, hehe. But I also screened the guys who seemed sincere and let them be added to her Friends List so it also worked for her.

 

I recently got the opportunity of teaching at a small college on Saturdays for 4 hours and I love it because for that time I get to feel like a fatherly figure for the group and I guess they sense it because we get along just great.

The hard part is the couple days afterwards because then it's when I tend to suffer from some sort of daddy drop.

 

When I feel that down I often watch whatever is on TV for little kids. It usually cheers me up because of the sweetness and innocence of those shows/movies. Just the other day I watched the first movie of Tinker Bell.

 

A few times I have also browsed the internet for pics of cute stuffies, and I like to think "oh that would be a very cute plushie for my little if I had one". Although I don't do that often because sometimes it gets me sadder instead of cheering me up.

[Daddy Itzae]

This is actually very interesting, as there is lots of ways a little can go into little space without a daddy around and people often ask how a little can go into little space without a daddy, but nobody ever seems to question the opposite, how a daddy can go into daddy-space without the aid of a little. I am very curious as to what a daddy does when they are in their daddy-space without a little.

 

Lots of love Blue!

 

That is actually why I opened this thread, Blue!

It's not easy for a daddy to stay in Daddy space without a little. And there aren't many things a man can do while in Daddy space without feeling judged or being looked at.

I said in previous post what I do or try to do to stay in my daddy space, but I'll be very happy to hear suggestions or experiences from others

 

Lots of love back!

[Guest MontBlanc]

I don't know if I have a Daddy space TBH.  I am drawn to the idea of being a DD and certainly a CG but I feel fulfilled being a CG in general.   In a way a DDLG relationship is not a must for me; I would feel quite content with a nice vanilla relationship but it would be more appealing to me if I had a more dominant role.  I like the idea of rules etc etc with a little but it's not a must.  I couldn't be a CG if it were fake or affected or role-played but I could be a DD if it were - but I would not say no to a mixture of both .

 

I don't really have much of an attachment to all the trappings that comes with littles like stuffies, pacis, disney movies etc etc although they can be endearing.  I like reading stories though - haven't done that in a while, i do miss that a bit. 

 

If i felt like I had a Daddy space i think i'll go insane because I highly doubt I would be having a little any time soon. 

Edited May 25, 2016 by MontBlanc

[A&Ω]

I don't know if I have a Daddy space TBH. I am drawn to the idea of being a DD and certainly a CG but I feel fulfilled being a CG in general. In a way a DDLG relationship is not a must for me; I would feel quite content with a nice vanilla relationship but it would be more appealing to me if I had a more dominant role. I like the idea of rules etc etc with a little but it's not a must. I couldn't be a CG if it were fake or affected or role-played but I could be a DD if it were - but I would not say no to a mixture of both .

 

I don't really have much of an attachment to all the trappings that comes with littles like stuffies, pacis, disney movies etc etc although they can be endearing. I like reading stories though - haven't done that in a while, i do miss that a bit.

 

If i felt like I had a Daddy space i think i'll go insane because I highly doubt I would be having a little any time soon.

I echo these sentiments. I'm happy being nurturing caregiver. It's who I am at the core. I don't need a little per se, though I do have a desire to guide and be mentor and leader in a relationship. So I guess I'm not a Daddy, but will provide the attributes of the CG role. That doesn't mean that I couldn't be with someone who wants and enjoys little space. If she finds her truth and peace with that, I encourage it. I do want to have a relationship that I can also have stimulating conversation as well. That's why I'm leaning more towards a 50s type household or taken in hand. It's a TPE that has the lead (man or woman) in control but doesn't confine the other to a completely submissive role. There is discussion and exchange of "Big" subjects but ultimately the final decision rests with the lead in the relationship. I'm still in the hunt for a forum like that.

[Guest FORLOM]

I don't feel I ever fall into "Daddy space". Like you stated in the OP I never stop being a Daddy, even when I am without a Little. When I'm without a Little, such as now, I find simple release in simply talking to Littles and other Daddy Doms. Sharing stories and anecdotes. This is an interesting topic though. Glad I stumbled upon it and I'm glad you started it.

 

P.S. Pleasure to meet you all. I'm new to this forum.

[WickedJax]

For the most part when little-less I will help my little friends who are daddy-less (or in open relationships with a daddy) by being something of a baby sitter, while also looking for a little to call my own.

[dnswd]

Watch cartoons, anime, read comics and volunteer at local little's playground.

[Guest algernon]

Contrary to the (more) obvious dichotomy for littles, a big need not necessarily ever separate their "space" from the rest of their life. It's different for everyone, of course, but as for my end, it would not even be accurate to say "I live the lifestyle 24/7", as its not a lifestyle for me, but who I am.

 

My life has always included ample opportunities to engage in leadership, teaching, and counseling positions, whether professionally, tied to my other interests and involvements, or informally with friends - at least for me, the DD/lg aspect is an activity which by its very nature is focused entirely on that aspect of who I am, rather than itself being who I am, leaving me empty between littles (not that being without one is exciting).

 

It's analogous to thrill-seeking: let's take two guys (of the infinite varieties on this nebulous spectrum, none of which are WRONG) who like skydiving. One of them is audacious and adventurous by nature, an entrepreneur who travels, loves to sample exotic foods, and finds jumping out of an airplane to be like a concentrated burst of how he normally lives his life, more a symbol of himself than a hobby. Then the other guy defines himself as a skydiver, skydives whenever he can, and spends his minutes between jumps packing his chute or living his regular life and wishing he was in free-fall.

 

In "daddy" terms, identify more with the first guy.

 

I'll also say that as far as I'm concerned, once that title applies to you for real, "DD/lg" kind of pales in comparison, fading from full-blown lifestyle option to casual hobby at best - not to say it's no fun, but the level of fulfillment is just not even in the same order of magnitude. But that's just my opinion on the sub-subject. I am interested to hear the thoughts of others on the matter.

[DaddyPenguin]

I have lots of nieces and nephews so sometimes will plan a zoo trip, a trip to a Waterpark or something along those lines. I have many friends in the ddlg community so I may spend some with a little less friend or in lot of cases I will lend my experience and expertise in ddlg with someone newer to the community.