LDR Subdrop

[MadameButterfly]

I was wondering, for all the Littles in LDR, do you experience subdrop often, and when you do have it, how do you cope with it being away from your daddy?

[GlitterUnicorn]

I'm so glad you brought this up! I'm in an LDR too and I've been wanting to know the different ways littles deal with it.

After a scene, there is a noticeable difference in both of us. Daddy becomes softer. Everything from his voice down to his posture. More relaxed. Comforting. And I ususally lie down or cuddle a stuffie. We talk about it and how it made us feel, if it was too much or if we particularly liked one part. Then, he usually moves on to these particularly pathetic Daddy jokes or some other distraction just to get us both to settle in

Its very rare that we don't get to talk after a scene and that's usually when I feel like I'm dropping. Usually, I just try to rationalise my way through or I write it down. I pick out pretty paper and pens and write down exactly what I'm feeling so that I can talk to him about it after. And of course, I settle down into some little things like coloring, or tea parties with my stuffies. Generally, I just escape even more into little space. That really helps me deal especially since we're into a variety of much rougher kinks.

[DaddysLolita]

Hmmm...the most comforting thing for me when away from daddy is cuddling a stuffie or having a paci, or both. Words get sweeter, he reminds me of the reasons he loves me, and we talk about it if needed.

[M-Felicity]

I actually only experienced the LDR, so I dunno anything bout irl ddlg  

But sometimes I loved my daddy so much I wanted him to be with me and cuddle!

 

But in the past he recorded me his voice (cuz of time difference) and he said cute stuff like "ILY and be a good girl" etc 

We also skyped a lot, and he even waited on skype and watched until I fall asleep   

 

But LDR doesn't work for me, cuz I get so attached that I need real cuddles... 

so yesh.. I hope it will work for you!

[LoralieHaze]

I have nothing constructive to say here other than thank you for starting this topic. It got me thinking about whether or not I've ever experienced subdrop and today I realized that I had, six years ago, and that the repercussions of that still negatively affect me in my relationships now. It sucks obviously but at least I'm aware of it now and can do something about it.