Things I've thought but have no answer to

[LittleMissIndecisive]

I'm sort of new to ddlg lifestyle, well in a way that I've found out that it was a thing and read up on it. I've always had a child like aspect that is just the way I am, a kid at heart. It has been about a year that my signifcant other and I have been determining our relationship with each other as a caregiver and little relationship and I was very surprised that he was totally cool with it. Anyway something that has been in the back of my mind is that a lot of littles are into things that well littles would actually be into like sippy cups, pacifiers, sometimes diapers, etc.. I personally don't like the idea of that and I feel like there are no littles like this, I enjoy being called princess, being spoiled with attention, talking without a filter, not being a super serious adult, having someone tell me what to do and stuff but the idea of diapers and pacifiers make me feel weird like (no intentions of offending anyone) Idk I guess I am wondering am I a little? Also I do not like age play I never feel like I am in little space or anything like that. I apologize if this was a lot to read and if it was stupid.

 

[Guest GrapeApe]

I totally understand what you mean.  There are plenty of people in the Dd/Lg community who either consider themselves 'middles' or 'switches'.  I don't know that much about it myself, honestly.  But, speaking personally, I would want the same type of relationship that you described, one with a Dd/Lg Dynamic, but without the "little space" component.

[Guest Berry_Bat]

Liking pacis, diapers, etc are generally popular among younger little ages and abdl so maybe you're a middle like me and that's cool too. You don't have to like certain things to be a little (im learning this too), it's mostly about feeling. If you feel that you are a little then you are and that's that. In fact you don't even have to label yourself.

 

As for the little space comment, I feel the same as you. I don't really see it as 'going into' little space but just as a natural part of who i am.

Edited May 31, 2016 by Berry_Bat

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

Going to depend on the little age. Personally I'm 4-13, also making me a Middle. I despise the idea of diapers and those are more so associated with ABDL (no offence to anyone just not my thing). I do have sippy cups for the simple face that I spill crap everywhere and my dd finds it hilarious that I mostly use them when drinking. Everyone is different. You don't have to like the really little stuff to be a little.

[littlelili]

I think there's no actual rules in how you embrace the ddlg dynamic. Well at least for me it is not mandatory to use any of the items mentioned above. I'm not into diapers or pacis either, but into cute dinnerware and other stuff that makes me feel little . It is ok if you feel identified with some things of the dynamic and not feel identified with others. I personally think that it's better to give it your personal touch and make it yours, than trying to fit into an "internet mould" that would make you uncomfortable.

Hugs x

[Guest buddhagirl]

It's a misconception that littles ALL like pacis, sippy cups, etc. I am about 5, consistently, and not really into these things at all. I don't need anything outside myself to be or feel little. I don't like cartoons or Disney. I DO like my Daddy to take care of me and understand that I'm just a little girl and need help sometimes. I DO like him guiding me and watching over me. I DO like playing and not being too serious. I DO like him to tell me stories or rock me to sleep. I DO like him to hold my hand when we go out in public. I DO like him to call me baby girl, little bunny, etc. I DO like to cuddle a stuffie when I sleep for comfort. So, you're not alone. My experience is that variety is often not represented in most any community--there seems to always be some generalizations or themes, but variety does exist, always. It is unlikely that ANY of us are alone in our particular preferences, fantasies, and desires.

[Guest algernon]

Do what makes you happy. Labels are handy for finding groups of people who share some similar interests, but can be dangerous when someone tries to define themselves as such, as one then may have to change and conform to the label to avoid an identity issues, which only causes them anyway.

 

This is a good place to explore, meet others and find out a little more about yourself and what you do and don't like. Just don't get too hung up on labels if they don't fit you exactly - be yourself in whatever way feels right.

[LittleMissIndecisive]

Thanks so much you guys, I felt a little unsure of myself but I feel a lot better after reading your replies