Would a little + little relationship ever work out?

[Berry]

Ive been wondering what that would be like.. the idea of it seems cute. Honestly I have always been attracted to childish playful Peter Pan-like guys but when I found out about DDlg I thought since Im a little myself then I need a Daddy.

 

I know it kind of defeats the whole purpose of cg/l since it would be more like 2 littles taking care of eachother rather than a set caregiver.. but could a relationship like that work? Or would it be total chaos?

 

This is just out of curiosity btw not that I like a specific little or anything ;;

[PeachyPantsu]

I feel like it would have to be sort of a switch relationship where one takes more of the dom responsibilities some days and the other one does the same on different days. I feel like it would feel like you're missing out on some dom aspects in the relationship though.

[Guest LavanderRabbit]

We are both switches, but I never assume a caregiver role. So often times we find ourselves to be in little/ pet space at the same time. (He refuses to say he is a little). It's like having a play date. We play with toys and color together.

[cheshirekitten]

I think it could only work in a versatile switch scenario but its true you two could burn each other out if there wasnt enough little time for each partner or enough communication on when extra care is needed. 

[LuvCurveyBaby]

I've been thinking about this myself, Berry.

 

Narrowing down my desires, I will say that I think I would enjoy the one slightly older/more serious/more mature little+little play.

 

Sure it might be exhausting to one person but then again, like myself that person might thrive on cleaning, serving and organizing.

Where it might go wrong is if one little is purposefully trying to be destructive or rude.

 

In Anime, books and other media, I see similar aged characters confronting the other about "bratty" or "selfiish" behavior.

Like PeachyPantsu suggested, it might not be a Dom solution but I'll bet there are examples of just that in Manga that I don't know about

[Guest algernon]

There's no reason why two littles can't have a reltionship, or why it would be any more chaotic or difficult than any other relationship in the world.

 

Being "little" or "big" places absolutely no restrictions on what kinds of relationships someone can have. "The whole purpose of cg/l" is not to ensare weak men and confused adolescents in addictive cycles of control and codependency, but to enhance a foundation of mutual respect with a dynamic that fosters growth, promotes peace, and empowers both parties with fulfillment and (more importantly) the revitalization and sharpened tools they need to get by in an increasingly crazy world.

 

Ageplay ("My little age is 4, I like to color and wear cute outfits, and my favorite is Mac and cheese while watching Disney movies!"), while often an accompanying aspect, does not necessarily have anything to do with cg/l. Fun or emotional attachment with this as its base can still work just fine with both partners playing younger. Why is two "children" playing together any weirder than a child and an adult playing together?

 

Dom/sub play (everything from the "clean" lists of rules and orders to most of the kinky stuff relevant here), while often accompanying cg/l, also does not necessarily have anything to do with it. And even then, unless one has reduced their entire identity as a person, their whole individuality, and any desire to develop and progress as a person to "slave" (including that word by other names, as too many young littles fall into without knowing), there's no reason why one can't have a normal life with normal relationships, then be into BDSM when it's time for fun. There are some people for whom that level of BDSM is lived 24/7, and that's their choice, but that's not what cg/l itself means. So for littles who refuse relationships without non-stop BDSM, it won't work unless at least one is a dom or switch - which is completely allowable.

 

One may notice the pattern here - there are multiple possible components of what we refer to as ddlg, and only one *might* prevent any little/little relationship from being working at all.

 

I don't mind being the guy who says what may be an unpopular truth, and I do so with no intent to speak poorly of any individual: threads like this are indicative of the spread of a serious and sinister problem. Labels, identities, and counter-culture movements promise belonging and freedom, but such claims belie a corrupting web that can lead to disempowerment, depersonalization, and nothingness. I know I'm not the only one who sees that tumblr, for example, simultaneously spawns some of the most putrescenct, misanthropic feminazis, while being one of the go-to places for young girls to discover their true identities as infants who NEED a bossy man to tell them what to do. I'm not bashing tumblr or tumblr users, just using an example to point out how easily ideas can be twisted by the ridiculous of the media, particularly the Internet.

 

To all young littles, you don't "need" a "daddy". Not only CAN you have whatever relationship you want, PLEASE go out and have more "normal" friendships, fun, and romantic relationships - even serious ones - especially before you try and settle down with a long-term "daddy" - if you even still think that's what's best for you by then. The world is a big place, and the potential of each of us is even bigger. [Note: While it might be a less pressing concern, the same still goes for bigs.] The very fact that any "little" here is on a computer and in an adult forum means they know there is a difference between actually being a child and wanting to sometimes be childlike. One need not be quick to forget that difference when it comes to forming relationships.

 

In any case, I make no judgements about age, nor do I say at what age someone is allowed to be into ddlg or anything of the sort. I have just known too many people with too many regrets.

 

Tl;dr:

Anyone can be in whatever kind of relationship they want. Letting arbitrary online labels define (limit) your life and relationships is unhealthy and dangerous.

[Nymph]

I think it depends on the person. I am strongly attracted to mature caregivers both physically and mentally so if someone starts acting as childish or more childish than me it annoys me. I want to look up to my man and I want to learn from him and please him. Then again I am a bit of a pet/slave as well, this does not mean I wouldn't be able to be good friends with a little girl or sissy for example... but I would simply not feel the respect and admiration required to feel attraction of that makes sense.

 

I was in a relationship once where the guy kept complaining about how much of a drag was that I needed guidance like I was some child... after a while I realized he had some serious mommy issues and it would show with any female interaction he had. Probably a closet little all his life, he turned into a bitter sad thing... So I dumped his butt and found someone who would appreciate me instead of trying to put me down to their level.

 

Playful however is cool! someone who is able to be silly with you is very nice  

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Hi there!

 

Offering a polyamorous perspective, this type of thing happens all the time. My girlfriend and I are both Littles/Middles, and while we do share a Caregiver, in our relationship, we're just two little babies having fun and loving each other. It's absolutely not unheard of, and as it was stated before, you can both be submissive and be in a relationship. A Caregiver is not required in order to have a successful relationship as a Little. Just like two Caregivers can be a relationship if they wanted to be!

 

The only hard and fast rule is whatever works for you and your partner.

[Guest Zips]

I'm on mobile so it looks like I'll be skipping out on my fancy signature font.

 

I'm so glad to have found this topic,

because it's something I think about a lot as a switch. And it's nice to hear of successful switch relationships being a thing but I'm still incredibly anxious about my own prospects in this regard. I don't know enough about myself as a switch, when I want to switch etc... To predict if I'd spend more time little than big.

 

I doubt my own ability to successfully uphold my dom side as much as 50/50 and as a result I feel like I'd not satisfy a fellow littles need for a caregiver.

 

Being a switch is nice on the one hand but on the other hand it really sucks.