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    #1 Indi Baby

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    Posted 30 December 2016 - 08:19 PM

    Hello hello hello!

     

     

    I wanted to start a discussion about how it feels to not really being able to relate to what the "mainstream" representation of being a little is. I don't have any bias or anything, but from photos, pictures, and the "Me: - Daddy:" posts, it seem's that usually littles are tiny white girls with straight hair and tiny boobs and love pink and glitter. and that does sound adorable but hell man! I can't relate!

     

     

    I don't fit with it in anything other than being a female little. I'm black, taller than my daddy, I have big ass boobs, nappy hair, etc etc. 

     

     

    So it sucks a bit whenever I see all these posts that I can't really relate to. I see photos from DDlg Instagram pages where the girls have tiny boobs with cute bras and I'm just sitting on my phone like the best cute bra I can get for less than 40 bucks is a bulky doo-doo brown bra from target that hardly fits right! 

     

    Does anyone else have this problem or is it just me?

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    #2 MegsLittlePenny

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    Posted 30 December 2016 - 08:23 PM

    I definitely relate as a plus sized girl. I don't have the perfect skin, glistening hair, or figure that many mainstream littles have. I think it's best that we understand that those are false stereotypes and that littles come in all shapes and sizes! It's not about our outer shells, but who we are as people! 

     

    Also, for bras, check out online places like cacique and the avenue and such. Torrid as well. Sometimes they'll have a pretty good sale going on, if you sign up for their newsletters and keep an eye out! 


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    Posted 30 December 2016 - 08:28 PM

    I dont think there is anything wrong with not being a cookie cutter kind of person. (Bras are just annoying over all for me.)

    I do see what you mean about a lot of it being white tiny chicks. (Tumbler I have seen more POC and on here I have seen 

    more too. ) 

     

    My best advice would be, rock what you got. 

    Fuckkkkkkkk fitting into a box and be YOU. 

    Rock being tall , rock your big boobs, rock your awesome hair , and rock being a proud black woman!

    DDLG can be whatever people want. 

    So be a cute tall big boobie black little and enjoy yourself :D 


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    #4 Indi Baby

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    Posted 30 December 2016 - 08:34 PM

    Ya'll just made my life  :heart:  :heart:  :heart:  It's crazy because I just watched a youtuber who said that someone told her about how they were told that they couldn't be a little because they're not white! I almost died because the youtuber said "That's like saying you cant like shoes because you're not a foot"


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    #5 Antoinette

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    Posted 30 December 2016 - 08:45 PM

    I understand how you feel and even relate to the big boobs thing aha. Although I'm a small (4'11''), white (even freckled aha) girl I understand that people like me are so common in the community which honestly, can be quite a disheartening thing rather than it being good. It makes me feel less special and extremely replaceable, or at least it used to until I realised that I'm pretty kickass regardless. 



    #6 Indi Baby

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    Posted 30 December 2016 - 08:48 PM

    I wish I had freckles! My older brother got freckles and I've always been envious of them. You better keep slaying though


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    Posted 30 December 2016 - 10:00 PM

    I have kind of the same feeling just being a boy little. Plus I'm half black, switch, don't have a specific little age, and just overall don't fit the little stereotype. As the minorities of the little community we just kind of have to be here. ^~^ It's a normal thing to feel marginalized, but most people do. Hell, all of us are a marginalized group just being a part of this community. I've said it before and I'll say it again, we need to emphasize that we are all one community and accept everyone. Except for the bad ones of us. We all know who those are.
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    Posted 30 December 2016 - 10:02 PM

    OMG me asf though i am short i do not fit any of the "mainstream" descriptions I got big boobs a big ass and my like you said my hair is nappy and it makes me feel like people look at me differently even though im well read i dont always talk like it so yeah no i don't fit the stereotype like you can't run your fingers through my natural hair they WILL get stuck so yeah i get you girl


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    Posted 30 December 2016 - 10:11 PM

    I have kind of the same feeling just being a boy little. Plus I'm half black, switch, don't have a specific little age, and just overall don't fit the little stereotype. As the minorities of the little community we just kind of have to be here. ^~^ It's a normal thing to feel marginalized, but most people do. Hell, all of us are a marginalized group just being a part of this community. I've said it before and I'll say it again, we need to emphasize that we are all one community and accept everyone. Except for the bad ones of us. We all know who those are.

    You should message me about what it's like being a boy little! My daddy is a switch when he's feeling fragile or antisocial but he is weary because he doesn't know what to expect! advice advice advice!


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    Posted 30 December 2016 - 10:12 PM

    OMG me asf though i am short i do not fit any of the "mainstream" descriptions I got big boobs a big ass and my like you said my hair is nappy and it makes me feel like people look at me differently even though im well read i dont always talk like it so yeah no i don't fit the stereotype like you can't run your fingers through my natural hair they WILL get stuck so yeah i get you girl

    GIRL YES! I keep trying to buy cute underwear from ddlg sites and they only have smalls or mediums in non-stretchy fabric  :o  I always warn my daddy that if he ever wants to do anything with my hair then he better have a spray bottle next to him


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    #11 lil'bby

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    Posted 31 December 2016 - 01:11 AM

    I'm so glad you made this topic! i relate so much; i'm a plus size latinx little with wild curly hair  :heart: 

    sadly i'm used to not being represented, but i'm hoping that'll change soon.


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    Posted 31 December 2016 - 01:45 AM

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    Hello there !

     

    I can relate to this on many levels and even more ! So thank you for posting this !

     

    I myself have a big chest , I am not "tiny" , I have an eating disorder and have gone up and down in my weight and haven't found a happy medium. I've been 220 pounds , I've been 100 pounds. The "hype" that Dd/lg has right now is ridiculous and is for the aesthetic of stereotypical straight males who aren't even interested in TRUE DD/lg. (Like all the Tumblrs I see with what you are talking about , "tiny white girls and small boobs.)  I am also covered in tattoos (skin doodles ^-^) , and have very large stretched ears. Typically a lot of what I see being promoted for DD/lg is extremely thin girls who look barely legal , with completely clear and non-inked skin , blonde long hair and small breasts with ridiculous thigh gaps. Having an eating disorder , it effects me on many levels. It makes people who AREN'T these things being promoted like outcasts. At least , I know I have felt like that before .. I have a Daddy and am not worried about "potentials" looking at me in any way or if they think I'm good enough , but more of a person problem. It makes myself as well as many others I'm sure , like we are inadequate. 

     

    It helps to just remember that the things being promoted are for a very specific targeted group of people. Not everyone wants those types of littles , or thinks they are superior. There are Daddys/Mommys/Caregivers out there for everyone. I also try to remember that we are all littles , and we should all treat each other kindly no matter what we all look like. (Not that you are being unkind.) All littles struggle with body issues or insecurities (and if not , GO YOU WORK IT!) , even the tiny girls with perfect skin and tiny boobs. I know plenty of small boobed girls who say they would trade us for our big boobs.. hehe.

     

    So be happy you are the beautiful , tall , black . big boobed nappy haired goddess of a little you are ! 

     

    Hope this helps !


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    Posted 31 December 2016 - 10:18 AM


    I don't fit with it in anything other than being a female little. I'm black, taller than my daddy, I have big ass boobs, nappy hair, etc etc.


    So it sucks a bit whenever I see all these posts that I can't really relate to. I see photos from DDlg Instagram pages where the girls have tiny boobs with cute bras and I'm just sitting on my phone like the best cute bra I can get for less than 40 bucks is a bulky doo-doo brown bra from target that hardly fits right!

    Does anyone else have this problem or is it just me?


    Holy crap, you just described me! 5'9, big boobs, wide hips, kinky hair. I agree with the others, be yourself, not all daddies are sipping the mainstream kool aid. I'm talking to one right now that likes everything that I'm working with!

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    Posted 31 December 2016 - 11:04 AM

    This topic reminds me of a drawing I've made this month after seeing some friends saying the same thing. Posting it bellow <3

     

    Don't ever feel bad for not being the 'mainstream representation' of something. Don't feel bad about being yourself. Every little is different, every little is amazing, especially if you are not being properly represented in this community.

     

     

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    ♡  You don’t have to be thin to be a little. You don’t have to be white to be a little.You are valid. You are no less of a little, and I love you  ♡

     

     


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    #15 MsArielMarie

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    Posted 31 December 2016 - 01:11 PM

    That drawing is awesome!
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    Posted 01 January 2017 - 08:24 AM

     

    ****TRIGGER WARNING****

     

    Hello there !

     

    I can relate to this on many levels and even more ! So thank you for posting this !

     

    I myself have a big chest , I am not "tiny" , I have an eating disorder and have gone up and down in my weight and haven't found a happy medium. I've been 220 pounds , I've been 100 pounds. The "hype" that Dd/lg has right now is ridiculous and is for the aesthetic of stereotypical straight males who aren't even interested in TRUE DD/lg. (Like all the Tumblrs I see with what you are talking about , "tiny white girls and small boobs.)  I am also covered in tattoos (skin doodles ^-^) , and have very large stretched ears. Typically a lot of what I see being promoted for DD/lg is extremely thin girls who look barely legal , with completely clear and non-inked skin , blonde long hair and small breasts with ridiculous thigh gaps. Having an eating disorder , it effects me on many levels. It makes people who AREN'T these things being promoted like outcasts. At least , I know I have felt like that before .. I have a Daddy and am not worried about "potentials" looking at me in any way or if they think I'm good enough , but more of a person problem. It makes myself as well as many others I'm sure , like we are inadequate. 

     

    It helps to just remember that the things being promoted are for a very specific targeted group of people. Not everyone wants those types of littles , or thinks they are superior. There are Daddys/Mommys/Caregivers out there for everyone. I also try to remember that we are all littles , and we should all treat each other kindly no matter what we all look like. (Not that you are being unkind.) All littles struggle with body issues or insecurities (and if not , GO YOU WORK IT!) , even the tiny girls with perfect skin and tiny boobs. I know plenty of small boobed girls who say they would trade us for our big boobs.. hehe.

     

    So be happy you are the beautiful , tall , black . big boobed nappy haired goddess of a little you are ! 

     

    Hope this helps !

     

    I'm glad that you have a supportive and loving daddy of your own hun! I don't see why girls want bigger boobs they only cause bigger problems and button downs hardly fit anymore  :wacko:  You're gorgeous and I'm glad that your disorder hasn't taken the best of you! Good luck with your journey and we can always talk whenever  *glitter*  :heart:


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    Posted 02 January 2017 - 01:42 AM

    So much yes! I was thinking the same thing today. It makes me feel both insecure and angry. I think having conversations like this are important. It is important to acknowledge that the littles on Tumblr are not an overarching representation of little-ness, and that those of us who don't fit the popular image are just as cute, awesome, and worthy of doting daddies, as those who do. In just talking about and owning our differences, being compassionate and non-judgemental of others, we are promoting and embracing the diversity of the community.
    That is all. *Steps off soapbox*
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    Posted 02 January 2017 - 05:19 AM

    Just raising my hand as a trans little. I'm still valid even if you can tell I'm trans, or you don't like trans people. Still valid being 6 foot tall. Still valid for being a parent myself. Still valid despite my disability. Still valid for being fat. :)
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    Posted 02 January 2017 - 05:51 AM

    I can relate, I sometimes hide myself behind wigs. My friends and family are helping me learn to love my natural self! But it's still hard when you realize you're not the "ideal" little. I have my doubts that I will ever find a daddy that will love my natural beauty. But for now I just want to learn more about being a Little and exploring the lifestyle, maybe conversate with some members who know what they are talking about? Hopefully I make friends along the way! :3
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    Posted 02 January 2017 - 09:53 AM

    I relate to so many things being said here. Even though I am a blue eyed freckled white girl I'm plus sized. (5'8" and 230+ lb) I 100% feel the bra struggle. because of my weight and frame my bras fit changes from day to day. On Tuesday i could be wearing a 38D and then by Thursday a 34C fits perfectly. Its impossible.. ;n;
    Also there isn't a lot of mainstream LGBT representation out here. My Daddy is Pansexual and I'm a Panromantic Demisexual. 

    I'm a valid little. 
    All littles are valid. 


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