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    #21 Indi Baby

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    Posted 02 January 2017 - 01:25 PM

    Im so excited that so many people are sharing their stories. This is why this forum makes me so damn happy . I love you guys already
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    #22 SassyAssyBrat

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    Posted 03 January 2017 - 10:19 PM

    *Steps into big girl panties* 

     

    Oh my! You folks that actually get it!!

     

    Hey hiya hello from the Sassy Assy Brat (heavy on the assy part lol)

     

    I am a big girl and I am sick to death of mainstream folks saying I can't be a little cause I ain't little (and because I use the word fuck like a comma). I am done. DONE! with paying any attention to what anybody else thinks I should be. 

     

    Just step out there and rock what you got, and be the little you wanna be. If anybody has any issues with it, then feel free to tell them I said they can go fuck themselves.

     

     

     

    *squeeeeee* boy littles are like unicorns switchlittleloves! 

    I have kind of the same feeling just being a boy little. Plus I'm half black, switch, don't have a specific little age, and just overall don't fit the little stereotype. As the minorities of the little community we just kind of have to be here. ^~^ It's a normal thing to feel marginalized, but most people do. Hell, all of us are a marginalized group just being a part of this community. I've said it before and I'll say it again, we need to emphasize that we are all one community and accept everyone. Except for the bad ones of us. We all know who those are.

     

     

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    I always lookin for more little friends!


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    #23 Guest_PrincessKittyDragon_*

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    Posted 04 January 2017 - 01:06 AM

    Don't feel bad at all for it! Honestly I'm not the "perfect" little either, I'm a chubby girl, frizzy curly hair, not any smooth skin. But hey, a lot of those people are the kind that think calling their S/O daddy is "dd/lg" lmao. Not to mention in your picture you look like a beautiful person!!

     

    ALSO I CAN RELATE SO MUCH ON THE BRA ISSUE. I own 1 bra from lane byrant its just a bland gray color and is falling apart lmao. We big girls need cuter and better bras 


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    #24 DelicateDoll

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    Posted 01 July 2019 - 12:00 AM

    Ahhh I so get this feeling! I'm half Vietnamese, have a average/medium figure with huge boobs and butt, super short, and have pale olive/sallow skin, and sometimes I feel so self-conscious for wearing a 28K bra size when most stereotypical littles are generally Caucasian with blonde hair, super slim figure and small breasts and butt and I just feel not little enough... like my chest is too adult and I'm not small enough to be cute or cuddled with. I'm glad my Daddy accepts me for who I am and loves every inch of me despite my own insecurities, but I just can't stop thinking about it... :(



    #25 Looby-Lou

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    Posted 01 July 2019 - 06:55 AM

    There IS NO PERFECT way to "look" or "be" little.

     

    We come in all shapes, sizes, attitudes, likes, dislikes, kinks, no kinks, love Disney hate Disney, love pink hate pink...

    And on and on - for any subject you can think of there will be a little who feels one way and another who feels or looks the other way.

     

    It's great to have threads like this that remind us we're not supposed to fit a mould and we shouldn't try to!

     

    I'm in my early 50's and I'm 5'11". Totally not a stereotypical Tumblr little. Sometimes I yearn to be that "desirable" little that i see or hear about, because I think it would be easier, but reality is that even in mainstream life there are all kinds of people and still there is a pressure to look or behave a certain way. It's just more magnified in the DDlg world. Similar pressures on DD/CG/DM etc to be strong looking etc.

     

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    #26 Looby-Lou

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    Posted 01 July 2019 - 06:58 AM

    I understand how you feel and even relate to the big boobs thing aha. Although I'm a small (4'11''), white (even freckled aha) girl I understand that people like me are so common in the community which honestly, can be quite a disheartening thing rather than it being good. It makes me feel less special and extremely replaceable, or at least it used to until I realised that I'm pretty kickass regardless. 

     

    Thanks for sharing this. It's a very interesting perspective that i hadn't thought of before. It's great that you dealt with those disheartening feelings, because no one should feel less special.

     

    Looby  :)



    #27 PrincessSnorlax

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    Posted 01 July 2019 - 03:29 PM

    i can relate completely to what you are saying. I'm a rather chubby girl, lots of squish lol so sometimes when i see all these tiny girls in the photos it can really hit my self esteem, as i don't feel i look what seems to be the generalised image. however my sir is happy with my image so that's all that matters. its still working progress on how i view myself as i don't have the highest self esteem. but i completely understand where you are coming from.


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    #28 Daddy-Tom

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    Posted 02 July 2019 - 12:34 PM

    Curves rule. I want my girl to act like a child, not look like one (in terms of physiology). Don't worry so much about the skin color thing, all are beautiful

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    Posted 02 July 2019 - 12:36 PM

    Ahhh I so get this feeling! I'm half Vietnamese, have a average/medium figure with huge boobs and butt, super short, and have pale olive/sallow skin, and sometimes I feel so self-conscious for wearing a 28K bra size when most stereotypical littles are generally Caucasian with blonde hair, super slim figure and small breasts and butt and I just feel not little enough... like my chest is too adult and I'm not small enough to be cute or cuddled with. I'm glad my Daddy accepts me for who I am and loves every inch of me despite my own insecurities, but I just can't stop thinking about it... :(


    Ridiculous-you sound amazing to cuddle with. Just gotta find the right person!
    My phone autocorrected that to kill at first LOL

    #30 Little kaiya

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    Posted 02 July 2019 - 10:13 PM

    The whole notion that there is one type of "true" (I hate that word when it's used in that context) little is ridiculous. My Daddy and I honestly stay away from "mainstream" and social media little stuff because we just can't be bothered and dont have time to listen to the "this is the true way" garbage.

    I'm 41, AMAB, genderfluid, a bit overweight (but training for a half marathon so dealing well with that issue), 5'8, more typically an A type, extrovert, have a buzz cut and short trimmed facial hair. I have breasts forms instead of biological breasts and, yep, I totally understand that people often see my sex when they look at me versus my gender.Am I your typical babygirl, a huge nope to that one.

    My Daddy is 19, male (AFAB), comes up to my chin, very slender, has some social anxiety and more introverted. He is younger so is still establishing himself in life, so idhe your typical Daddy, again I would say a huge nope.

    All that said, we love each other dearly, my Wife of 13 years, whom I love very very dearly, loves my Daddy who also loves her. We are happy in our relationship, we love one another and yep, my Wife will get a bottle or diaper if I'm asleep in my Daddy's arms so he can get me to bed properly.

    I'm a little, he's a Daddy and my Wife is fully supportive. Are we following the mainstream, no, but we are very happy because our Ddlg dynamic is uniquely ours. Be you folks, that's what's important and if anyone says otherwise . . . Well, they're probably pretty unhappy with their life and just want to try to bring someone else down so they feel better, dont let them succeed.

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    #31 MarshmallowPeep

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    Posted 03 July 2019 - 04:14 AM

    There are a whoooole lot of posts out there like that, but despite that being little doesn't mean you have to fit into everything those posts say! Being a little, middle, abdl, or daddy, dom, isn't about fitting into a cookie cutter image.

    All it takes for you to be little is you saying you are one. 

     

    I'm a little/middle and I don't like any of that cute stuff either. Half the time I dress in black, more punkish wear, I am into tatts and piercings... Heck, I don't really have a (what you would call) proper little space; a little space in where I feel all small, needy, playful etc etc. 

     

    Your looks and what you like shouldn't define if you're a little or not. You can be a big tough warlord who loves to conquer his foes with brute force and violence, but if by the end of the day you say "I'm a little" then you're a little!


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    #32 Breakingrules

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    Posted 12 July 2019 - 04:43 PM

    I almost feel bad for reacting on this post. I'm a Caucasian blonde short girl with tiny boobs and blonde hair but let me tell you: the cgl tumblr/insta/internet standards are fucked up.
    On Insta there was a post: "my daddy's hand is as big as my back"... like come on. And the Littles that only wear pastel and pink colours, the non-existent boobs, the being half of your Daddy's length... it's bullshit.

    You're a little when you feel like a Little. 💕🦄

    #33 LittleTeacup

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    Posted 12 July 2019 - 08:25 PM

    I almost feel bad for reacting on this post. I'm a Caucasian blonde short girl with tiny boobs and blonde hair but let me tell you: the cgl tumblr/insta/internet standards are fucked up.
    On Insta there was a post: "my daddy's hand is as big as my back"... like come on. And the Littles that only wear pastel and pink colours, the non-existent boobs, the being half of your Daddy's length... it's bullshit.

    You're a little when you feel like a Little.

     

    Don't feel bad! Your examples made me laugh so hard. :lol: And fitting a physical stereotype (that you can't really control anyway) doesn't mean you fit other little stereotypes.


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    Big age: 29

    Little age: 5-7

     

    Children don't worry what they look like to others. They are 100% themselves. When we get older, we learn to fit in society by submerging those parts of ourselves that our culture looks down on. We don't want to be rejected by our parents. We don't want to be rejected by our peers. Growing up may include re-embracing ourselves even if we must stand alone.

     

    Thank you for being here as I re-embrace the Self I'm meant to be.

     

    (Note: I'm not looking for a caregiver right now. Please don't ask.)


    #34 LittleTeacup

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    Posted 12 July 2019 - 08:58 PM

    Ok I don't even follow ddlg stuff on instagram, tumblr, etc so I don't really know what the mainstream image of littles really are, but just by going off what the OP said, I can say I don't really fit the stereotypical image either. Yeah, I'm female, white, and petite. My hair's not straight but whatever.

     

    But as far as "little interests" go, I'm not like the stereotype at all. I don't like glitter. I don't listen to Melanie Martinez or Ariana Grande or any of those other artists frequently cited in "little music" posts. I don't even wear bras at all (don't need them for support because I'm petite) because they itch. I don't have any desire to stuff myself with candy all day. I don't wear makeup. I do prefer books over cartoons. I do like talking about sciency things and watching Eyewitness. I do like going outside and wandering around in the woods. I'm not afraid of bugs (I like them). And I definitely don't need a daddy to be my little self (nor do I think I'll even call my future caregiver "daddy" (or mommy) in the first place).

     

    And at 28 I'm probably already older than the stereotype. :)


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    Big age: 29

    Little age: 5-7

     

    Children don't worry what they look like to others. They are 100% themselves. When we get older, we learn to fit in society by submerging those parts of ourselves that our culture looks down on. We don't want to be rejected by our parents. We don't want to be rejected by our peers. Growing up may include re-embracing ourselves even if we must stand alone.

     

    Thank you for being here as I re-embrace the Self I'm meant to be.

     

    (Note: I'm not looking for a caregiver right now. Please don't ask.)






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