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Help please is it bad to be a little who is black?


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Hi guys lately I have been feeling self concious and dont like that feeling at all...... Is it bad if am a little who is black..recently when I talk to people here through Kik it's obvious I will send a picture to show how I look but after they see it poof off they go and it kinda hurts..... Makes you feel ugly I know am beautiful but with that kind of reaction makes you wonder is it my skin color that puts you off or what .........

So is it wrong to be a black little? Help please

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Not at all. Not at all bad. Take it as a compliment girly. If they disappear they did you a favor. If they can't handle a lady with that beautiful pigment then you don't need em. And it's better they go anyway. I hate another person's shallow action has you feeling insecure. You are magnificenly beautiful just the way you are. Don't let some disappearing dillweeds make u feel any less than.
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First off I don't think you should assume it's your skin colour that makes them disappear. It could well be what makes some of them lose interest but I highly doubt that's always the case. 

 

But, to answer your question no it's not bad to be a little who is bad and I think you probably already know this. It's strikingly obvious, at least to me, that your skin colour shouldn't effect your littleness, sure the vast majority of littles are white. That doesn't me that's the only way to be a little. It's not an exclusive white-only club, and I don't think it ever claimed to be that.

 

I will say a lot of people tend to prefer the stereotypical representation of a little, that though is just a preference. I wouldn't take it personally, I'm sure you're gorgeous but if we all expected to be everyone's cup of tea that'd be a bit narcissistic of us. 

 

Good luck.

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I don't think it's you. I think people in the kink world often times have a certain look they want their partner to have and it's a matter of finding someone you're a match for. 

I'm a pan switch and I think ethnic girls are absolutely gorgeous so there are people out there that will be interested just keep looking. 

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Guest mts269

There's absolutely nothing wrong about being a black little girl. If you have a precious heart (and I'm sure you do), you will be a most precious little girl. I think black is beautiful!  :)

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You're an important and valuable person and little. I DO believe you are right to state that people go unresponsive in connection to race. We live on a racist planet and ageplay communities aren't immune. There's this whole fantasy image of a little girl who has specific features (including race), personality, and desires and it isn't true to life. There's a lot of messed up stereotyping in the community and there are plenty of messed up bigs that contribute to it.

 

I connect with the foundation of ageplay / kink which is that the little and/or submissive has all the power. We offer control to others. It's a gift we give them. If someone is devaluing you then that is their failure, not yours.

 

As a little, you're the center and the heart of any little/big relationship. If someone can't handle your beauty and awesomeness it's because they are not strong enough to meet your needs and are not worthy of your attention. I know that doesn't stop it from hurting. Hopefully, you'll continue on the road you're on where you know you are valid and important.

 

Sending hugs.

 

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As a fellow black little I will tell you that there is nothing wrong with either of us being a little and if some people can't accept that then that's they're lost. I'm sure you are beautiful and someone will see that.
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there is ABSOLUTELY nothing bad about being a Little when you're Black.

*hugs* *hugs*

indeed, most people have their preferences.

you just have to find someone who will like you as you are. :)

but even without a partner, be confident of yourself!

you are beautiful and precious!

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I am black and little and to be honest the fact that I was black was something I actually didn consider to be relevant i thought it only important that i am little.

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Unless someone has done extensive research from around the world to establish and adequate sample, there is NO way of knowing what race most littles are.  Maybe here on this forum there is an obvious majority, but there is certainly no way to tell what the majority race of littles are around the world.  There are over 7 billion people on earth.

 

ANYWAY, don't let anything or anyone get you down.  You just haven't found the right CG yet.  Or he/she hasn't found YOU  yet.  Stay strong.

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There's no perfect definition of a "little". You're perfect the way you are, and if these people are not willing to invest the time and effort to get to know you, then, it is their loss. Whether you're black or white, thin or not-thin, young or old, you're special.

 

The right CG is out there for you, and I know it can feel very lonely without one, but once you meet, they'll know that you're the exact little that they've been waiting for. :)

 

Keep your head up! Hugs <3

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Guest Babycakes27

I am also a little who is Black!

Although I didn't meet my daddy just because of ddlg I never felt wrong for identifying as a little and being Black. I am sure its discouraging to have men pass you by but lucky you, you are weeding them out!!

I feel like the ddlg community is under represented for little of color but don't lose hope in finding a potential daddy.

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You're an important and valuable person and little. I DO believe you are right to state that people go unresponsive in connection to race. We live on a racist planet and ageplay communities aren't immune. There's this whole fantasy image of a little girl who has specific features (including race), personality, and desires and it isn't true to life. There's a lot of messed up stereotyping in the community and there are plenty of messed up bigs that contribute to it.

 

I connect with the foundation of ageplay / kink which is that the little and/or submissive has all the power. We offer control to others. It's a gift we give them. If someone is devaluing you then that is their failure, not yours.

 

As a little, you're the center and the heart of any little/big relationship. If someone can't handle your beauty and awesomeness it's because they are not strong enough to meet your needs and are not worthy of your attention. I know that doesn't stop it from hurting. Hopefully, you'll continue on the road you're on where you know you are valid and important.

 

Sending hugs.

 

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This whole comment is so very true it hurts. When I was first looking into this community I was overwhelmed by all of the thin, non-black littles that I told myself that there was no way I would be welcomed as a fat black little. But then I kept looking more and more and said screw it and I joined anyhow.   

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Kittykitsune is no longer with out a Daddy. I am glad you all was nice and kind to her. And if it was not for this forum I would have not found her.
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big - small tall - short old - young black - white - asian - latino - middle easter - anything else...

 

what matters is on the inside! don't let people tell you what you are is not okay! because it is! everyone is beautiful!

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You're perfect!

 

Never let anyone tell you otherwise. Black, white, purple, Jewel encrusted.....it makes no difference.

 

You are an entity, you are a soul, a personality.....you have a wrapper like everyone. But what counts is who you are, what you represent, how you feel.

Not what you look like.

I think you are amazing, beautiful, glittery and awesome xoox

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The colour of your skin or how you look doesn't matter at all! At least it shouldn't. If looks matter so much to someone they aren't worth the time. Plus, they will only be disappointed because looks are only temporary. They change all the time everyday! Everyone is beautiful! If you have a beautiful heart you have true beauty! I will always be here to talk!

 

You are a beautiful little!

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Hi guys lately I have been feeling self concious and dont like that feeling at all...... Is it bad if am a little who is black..recently when I talk to people here through Kik it's obvious I will send a picture to show how I look but after they see it poof off they go and it kinda hurts..... Makes you feel ugly I know am beautiful but with that kind of reaction makes you wonder is it my skin color that puts you off or what .........

So is it wrong to be a black little? Help please

hi hi. Absolutely not. Black is beautiful and gorgeous. I definitely understand how you feel though. But it is not weird to be black and a little. I am as well. If you are little, be you and be the best you that you can be. If that's what you are, then own it and be proud girly, cuz it's what's inside that counts. :D

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