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Hi guys, so I work as a caregiver for seniors with mental disabilities. This job is super draining and it makes it really hard to be happy. Because this job has so many adult responsibilities I fell myself needing to be in little space almost constantly throughout the work day. I work full time eight hour shifts everyday and it’s making me depressed! Working a job is very difficult for me because it forces me to have to be a completely different person and to be an adult all the time. I don’t think it would be fair to me daddy to not work because that would mean he has to support me financially and we are already struggling but this is making me so depressed! Help! I need advice on what to do!
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Guest Babykitkat 23

why not set up specific times between you and your Daddy. Go over each others schedules and find days you both have off and plan a day together. it could be just sitting at home wathcing movies, or going out and doing some thing together. Making time for each other or your self, especially after a long work week is good for you. 

 

Also talk to your daddy about this, and get his point of veiw on the situation. communication is key to a relashionship.

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Guest aphroditelaughs
Take time after your shifts to unwind. Take a bath, read a book, etc. I personally work 10-12 hour shifts and I absolutely need this time to transition from work to home. Make sure it's something you love/makes you happy. Unfortunately though there's no way to get around being an adult when it comes to jobs, because work is work.
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Is your problem being unhappy with the job or being unhappy you can't be a little all the time?

 

We're all adults here and sometimes we have to suck it up and be one. Find ways to cope and make time to relax and be little later on. Many littles work jobs and can be adults when they need to. It's never a problem I've had so maybe it's about finding other ways to deal with responsibilities and stress. If your job is making you so unhappy but you can't afford to leave then try push through until you can find something more suitable.

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Arc has said what I would want to say perfectly.

 

We are all adults at the end of the day. Working is a part of life. Do I like going to work? No. Not really. Do I like having my own place and buying cool stuff? You betcha!!

 

You say you love your job but you also sound like you want to run away from it? I think you might need to sit down with your partner and have an adult to adult chat about your options.

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I've worked with seniors on and off for almost ten years. After embracing my Littleness, it became much more difficult. It is a taxing job for anyone, but moreso for a Little. Do you work in a group home? Or a large facility?
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I've worked with seniors on and off for almost ten years. After embracing my Littleness, it became much more difficult. It is a taxing job for anyone, but moreso for a Little. Do you work in a group home? Or a large facility?

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I work in a group home and I have a one on one individual who needs me to do absolutely everything for her including holding her up so she can walk. It’s just exhausting work and the problem isn’t having a job it’s just how emotionally and mentally draining this particular job is.
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So to clarify it’s not having a job it’s this particular job. It drains me really fast of my energy both mentally and physically. However housing in my state is super expensive right now and there are very few jobs that make it so we can afford to pay rent. And our rent is the cheapest available at the moment. So I can’t quit. I’m struggling to stay positive and be able to be little since I have no energy. This is upsetting not just me but my daddy too because he genuinely loves taking care of me when I’m in that state
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Your adult responsibility comes before your desire to express being an lg. Both you and your daddy need to accept that. Yes, your job is very draining, but i run my own business, have a home to run, a lifelong condition that requires daily focus and effort to keep stable, and am the mother of three kids. Two of which have special needs. Most of us have stresses and anxieties. Some more than others obviously. We just get on with them or fall apart. It's your choice. In the meantime, look for a less demanding job. No that's not easy, it takes time, but if you don't try, you don't get anywhere. Edited by SUeB
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I'm dealing with a similar issue. Although I do not work with disabled people or elderly (kudos to you for doing the job you do btw, I have much respect for people like you!) I do work a job 6 days a week, and my 1 day off is for my summer class. I generally work evenings, and my Dad works mornings. We are on opposite schedules, he also works about 6 days a week, we hardly ever get a day off together, or even an evening together. He has been working outside doing physical labor 13-15 hours a day in this summer heat. :( And neither of us can afford to not to work, due to bills. And we can't just switch to any other jobs, because we need a specific pay above our state minimum wage in order to even split the pay for our bills and pay our car payments, etc. And I seriously hate my job. But until I graduate college in December I'm stuck where I am. It's not always so easy to just find another job with the same pay, good hours, etc. So I just gotta suck it up, and just keep reminding myself this pays my bills for me, Dad, and out fur babies. It's so easy to go into little space when you're feeling depressed, stressed, or any negative emotion (it is for me anyway, maybe not for everyone) so as soon as I get home, I want to immediately get little. But I STILL Have adult things I have to do before I can go completely into little space. And most of the time I'm in little space, I'm home alone because my Dad's at work. I'm also struggling with energy & staying positive.

 

My advice; I do small things that make me feel little, but don't take much effort. If that makes sense? Like when I get home, I'll put some juice in my sippy and do my laundry, so at least I have my sippy & juice to make me feel small whilst doing a big task. I'll take a bubble bath at night, which helps with feeling little. I have bath crayons, so sometimes I'll use those. But my favorite sippy & a bubble bath also helps me calm down after a stressful shift at work, along with the feeling of being little. Then I grab a small snack, Watch my favorite DDLG youtubers, maybe watch cartoons if Dad lets me, and I snuggle a stuffy. I unfortunately don't have a fix for stress at work, or anything energy related (although for my mental/emotional energy I've been meditating and using crystals and it does improve my energy), but I hope this can at least help you wind down after work. <3 

 

Also, as for feeling little during a shift at work, I've personally never experienced because I get so blinded by rage that my only persona is an angry smol bean. 

 

I hope you get some advice that is useful for you & your situation. And I wish you the best of luck! <3 c:

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I took a few months break from being in littlespace because I was a live-in nanny for 3 different sets of kids and I was always expected to be an adult even during the playtime interactions with the kids. I had to get rid of a good majority of my stuff too because would be hard explaining why I have certain items. I remember with one time I bought a giant Lambie stuffie from a charity sale and the little girl for one of the families I worked for wanted to have it and threw a tantrum because I had to hide it from her and I had to lie and tell the mum that I bought it for my little sister because apparently "adults can't play with kid's toys"

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Have you ever considered working live-ins? I'm not sure where you live, but here, I can stay with a client for 3-4 days and earn the same if not more than I would working 8 hour shifts all week. Plus, there is way more downtime and depending on the client, I can take them with me to run personal errands and such.
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I work in healthcare as well. My coworkers know I’m a little without knowing I’m a little, if that makes sense. I don’t tell them any details or anything but they see my unicorn water bottle and lunch case and hear how well daddy takes care of me (of course I don’t call him daddy at work), and I think they get the drift even without knowing about ddlg. Being open like that helps a lot. I also color at work on my downtime and play with stickers. People just kind of expect it now, I think. It’s not weird to them, because I’m still competent at my job and professional, and it’s not like I’m doing baby talk or anything haha
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