Help please:(

[Littlebabycupcake]

Well hi everyone I’m in a bit of a pickle and I really need advice and help, I am currently 18 and a little and am completely in love with my daddy and we have the most amazing relationship ever and I love him so much and he’s 50 and it doesn’t matter to me at all but my family has started to find out about it and I’m very scared, they don’t know how old he is but they know I’m with someone older but I come from a huge family that likes to gossip and is very judgmental, I have a close relationship with my mom and sisters but I know if my mom found out she would kick me out, basically my younger sister had been snooping through my phone and has been looking at text from Daddy and I and even saw a picture of him and is now telling all my siblings about it and I’m worried it’ll spread to my parents but my older sisters have been gossiping about it and are worried that I’m being manipulated and I don’t know how to explain to them I’m not. My daddy and I have both decided that we would make it seem like we ended things so my family would realize we’re not together anymore but I know my sis longs are going to try to confront me about it and ask me questions and I don’t know what to say to them and if I should bring in bdsm and Ddlg and just straight up tell them I’m into that, my sister knows I call Daddy, Daddy but I just don’t know what I should do, so any help would be good!! Tank you so much!!!

[Guest littlefaerieprincess]

My love,

 

Your family loves you, genuinely loves you and is just looking out for you. I would suggest you tell them everything. Everything about him, his age, and also why you feel comfortable and happy with him. Be open and completely honest. I was in similar shoes as you when I was 18 and looking back, I wish I had told my family everything. Pls private message me if you want to hear more <3

[CaresAlot]

Lots of questions asked on here are always difficult to answer because its impossible to know all the dynamics that come into play.  Answers you get are always going to be the best possible with the information that is a available.  First off when you start lies have a propensity to grow and eventually come back to bite you in the ass.  That being said, you have no obligation to tell them every thing that is going on your relationship.  You already know that they are judgmental and are not going to listen to what you have to say.  I'd have a short answer for them that is true, but don't say more than you want to.  Basically that you have met somebody that you love.  He is the person that fulfills what you have always wanted in your life.  That you choose to have him be with you, that you are not being manipulated.  That's all you have to say about that and if you need advice you'll ask for it.

 

Secondly is why do you not have a secured phone.  Phones come with all sorts of security features to lock them down from people that like to snoop.  If it is not a secure phone then you should have nothing saved on there.  Nobody needs to know your business but you and who you choose to share that with.  I'd certainly have a talk with your sister that has been snooping.  Its not snooping, it is a breach of trust that she has no right to do. Whatever her intentions, she could have come and asked you directly.  That it saddens you, butuntil that trust has been rebuilt, there is not much that you will ever be able to share with her.

 

Lastly, if you have a close relationship with your Mom and sisters then you should be able to talk about this without fear of being ostracized and kicked out.  People with close relationship listen to each other and are open to discuss whats going on in their lives. 

 

You know your family dynamics best.  Get some opinions on here and try to map out a plan on how you feel that you need to approach this situation.

[Little Illy]

I would recommend reading this about coming out to the family before you do: https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/33316-coming-out-to-family/

 

However, ultimately it comes down to what you all can handle. Can you handle a life with your Daddy and not your family (worst case scenario)? Can you handle your life with your family and not your Daddy (another worst case)? You need to think of all of the extremes before you make any decisions, otherwise you can easily be blindsided. For all you know your family will come around when they see hoe happy he makes you. But you need to prepare yourself for it.

[Guest Aetherr]

your 18 you don't need to tell them anything you don't want to but remember they are your family and will want to know you are safe, it sounds like a really complicated situation i have not been in personally so i hope it doesn't get too messy, just know that if they truly love you and you know you are not in danger then their failure to accept the situation is on them

good luck!

[Littlebabycupcake]

My love,

 

Your family loves you, genuinely loves you and is just looking out for you. I would suggest you tell them everything. Everything about him, his age, and also why you feel comfortable and happy with him. Be open and completely honest. I was in similar shoes as you when I was 18 and looking back, I wish I had told my family everything. Pls private message me if you want to hear more <3

Thank you so much I will definitely!!